To find lazy adults really grating?

Yes,- to be fair, its just as judgemental to imply that active, busy people must have deep rooted psychological issues or "trauma" they're trying to escape as it is to imply people who rest a lot are "lazy".

Why cant active people just be active because they simply enjoy it? the same way that people who rest a lot enjoy that too? why is it that people different to us must have something wrong with them?

I dont understand why people are blaming the OP for being judgey and then coming out with just as many judgey comments themselves! if you truly believe live and let live, then stop criticising and judging active people too because it makes you just as bad as the OP.

So you’re jealous?

You are sanctimonious, judgemental, and nasty as well.

Live and let live, you friend is different that's all. She knows full well what you think of her and is winding you up.

Please end this friendship for her sake. You state you do voluntary work and she doesn't, so what. Cut out the virtue signalling, stop comparing yourself to her and get on with your own life. You will lose friends if you judge them, to make yourself look better.

To be honest it’s none of your business what she does and what her sleeping patterns are. How seriously boring are you to be so bothered by this! 🙄

This doesn’t sound like laziness to me, sorry.

Then clearly you are not suited as friends.

If you're both judging each other then you obviously don't like one another.

You do sound a bit holier than thou though, remember people have different lifestyles and that's all okay.

I do have hobbies and see friends but sometimes I'm so burned out on a Saturday, I will stay in bed all day playing sims and I love it. Sometimes I have to do that for my own sanity and I don't give a shiny shit if someone judges me for that.

I'm ND and I need time to myself. I have no kids so I aren't bothering anyone doing it, just a cat that likes to yowl at me to be fed. 🤣

Just leave her to herself and find more friends with things in common.

I thought most people had grown out of the ‘hanging around with people they don’t like and slagging them off behind their back’ phase by their 20s TBH

I know you are trying to sound superior but your nasty little digs are a give away 😂

I am judging the both of you, because you seem to spend an awful amount of time throwing digs at people.

I’m unsure how you got that I’m judgemental and unsatisfied with my life from what I wrote? because you are saying that anyone who is different can only be motivated by their struggles and trauma. Is it so hard to imagine that it could be .. that they are different and simply have other preferences?

Why does it have to come from a struggle of any kind? Do we pity you and assume you can only be fighting some trauma because you are lying down watching "interesting" shows on tv?

Again, both the OP and you seem to have issues. As long as I don't have to watch tv with you, I dont' care or try to analyse if you watch tv or spend hours on MN

I thought I was lazy until I was diagnosed with Myasthenia Gravis in my 40s (20 years after first getting symptoms). With hindsight my instinctive decision /need to rest amply probably saved my life.
People's bodies and minds work in different ways and can manage different amounts

You're describing me and my sister, except my sister isn't rude like that😆same parents, same childhood, less than 2 years age difference. She can easily rot in bed until 2pm and I naturally wake between 4-6am. Our energy levels are very different.

It’s none of your business .. and you need to stop judging people

You clearly don't respect your "friend", OP - but she seems to serve a purpose in your life, by giving yourself another woman of the same age to benchmark yourself against and feel superior to. It might be worth giving a bit of time to reflecting on what that gives you and why you seem to feed off that point of comparison?

It's great that you've found a lifestyle that suits you, but why do you have to live it by constant reference to her perceived failure? If she's making fun of your fitness routine and it irks you, why are you still friends? Or is she commenting on these things because you're lording it over her in relation to them - your sense of superiority comes across so clearly in this thread, it would be surprising if she's unaware of it...

What time do you sleep and wake up? Just because you're up earlier doesn't give you a moral high ground - and this is coming from someone who wakes up at 6am everyday. She is still getting adecent amount of sleep and working everyday, so what is the difference?
If she didn't work etc. it would be different but she does so I cannot see an issue really.
Also thats a very 'hands on' role so I imagine she is on her feet all day so excercising might be the last thing on her mind.

I sympathise, OP. I would find this woman very boring and frustrating.

I'm an early riser too and a bit hyperactive.

But it's her life and her choice, bonkers though it may seem to us. Rather than getting cross with her you'd be better finding friends who share your energetic approach to life.

So the time she spends in bed, you spend at the gym, running and doing your hobbies? Those things don't directly benefit anyone but yourself. Plenty of people manage to do those things without thinking it makes them superior to those who spend their free time doing other things, or nothing.

If she ridicules you for this you have a valid reason to find her specifically grating, but extending that to all "lazy adults" who never touch your life in any way is different.

God you’re insufferable. I don’t know how your friend put up with your superior attitude.

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I’m unsure how you got that I’m judgemental and unsatisfied with my life from what I wrote? I don’t get bored. I do things that fill my time, like reading a good book, researching things that I’m interested in and watching interesting shows on TV. But I do them lying down. I’m more of a thinking person than a doing person.

Gardening is literally my idea of hell, good for you if it’s something you enjoy and it recharges you.

The people I know who fill every waking moment with activity are people who are struggling with something, grief, trauma…social conditioning. You’ll see that I punctuated that paragraph with question marks? Because I was thinking out loud, pondering why some people move constantly and others are more static. Drawing comparisons to me and my friendship group, not judging some stranger on the internet who likes gardening.

The only person I was judging was the OP for being immature, sanctimonious judgemental arsehole.

But if my words hit a nerve with you then maybe you should consider why that was.

But the big question is did you go to the infamous Animalarium Borth?

It's up to her- just as being a morning person is up to you.
You are going to have a difficult life if you find something like this so grating- your friend shouldn't laugh at you either- it's personal choice.
I had a neighbour from the Caribbean, he claimed benefits slept till lunchtime and spent all day at home,and mended cars on the road for money- I complained he was always using the parking space outside my house (my brother was visiting he needed a space). When I complained to my neighbour he laughed in my face and said "what has it got to do with you you are never here". I worked 10 hour days to pay my mortgage- he thought that was a laughable way to live when other people would pay for his lifestyle- relatives gave him the money to buy the house he renovated it claiming benefits and working while he did so, so his relatives and the British government paid for his lifestyle- he thought if you paid for your own lifestyle you are stupid.
I told him , move the car and keep it moved or I will inform the council you are mending cars on the road. He was lazy, but not stupid he shifted the car and nevr parked outside my house again.
This was grating as I was helping to pay for his lifestyle, and it is reasonable to find it so, merely finding a different lifestyle grating is not reasonable.

You will really miss her when you drop the 'friendship'; nobody to compare yourself to and feel smug and superior to....

Hark at Little Miss Sanctimonious.

Oh, may we bow to your moral superiority at being able to get up early 🙄

My husband works late shifts and often didn't get home until 3am and his ex SIL used to say he was being lazy for not getting up at 5am like she did. Except she finished at 5pm and he didn't start until after that.

Your friend is also a jerk for poking fun at you, btw. Everyone has a different body clock.

I mean, mature adults don't write anonymous posts on the internet to bitch and moan about their friends either.

I get up at around 8.15am to 8.30am most days. Anything much earlier is halfway through the night. 😴 I WFH (part time) so can roll out of bed 20 minutes before I start work. (And often do.)

Also I have travelled loads this past 14-15 months... (Prepare to be jealous....)

Rhyl
Blackpool.
Llandudno.
Colwyn Bay
Prestatyn
Kinmel Bay
Borth
Morecambe Bay
New Brighton
Aberystwyth
Barry
Cardiff
And Ellesmere in Shropshire.

Try and beat THAT @myothersockis

I am quite the globetrotter! 😂

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You will be grating on the OP! 👀