To find lazy adults really grating?

As a generaIisation, I would posit that motivated, active, engaged, outgoing, socially energetic people have better life chances than those who choose to shun such things.

But each to their own!

At your young age, the things you consider a pillar of being an adult, half the time aren’t.

Give it 30 years and you’ll realise 99% of it all is bollocks.

But you sound more like a teenager. They tend to be very black and white in their thinking and judgemental and unable to see anyone else's point of view. But they usually grow out of it in the end.

Why does it bother you ? Do you wish she was out of bed more so you could do more things together?. Otherwise it’s really strange that someone living their own life would annoy you.

So what? It doesn’t affect you. It doesn’t take anything from you. It doesn’t cost you.

It literally doesn’t matter. Being lazy doesn’t matter.

You don’t have some moral high ground just because you like getting up early.

As an adult people can choose how they live their life!!!

I am a night owl. I wish I wasn"t because the world is very much set up for morning people, but I generally feel crap until mid afternoon at the earliest. The worst thing though is the piousness of morning people like you!

I see where you're coming from OP. I suppose it's about life choices and energy levels. I am like you - early riser, and a "do-er" with hobbies and community involvement. I don't tend to have much in common with people like your friend, but equally it's up to them how they live their life. You'll probably find you drift apart over time as you don't share the same values.

You’re not answering the question of why you would be friends with someone you don’t like.

Doesn’t grate on me as doesn’t impact me personally but I cannot understand why a healthy adult would want to spend all their free time in bed. What a waste of life.

People’s senses affect each of us differently. For instance your sense of taste. Some people taste spice very strongly so like mild spice in their curry’s others don’t have a strong taste for spice so need stronger spiced food for it to have the same impact.
this happens with all our senses. We have a sense of movement. We need to move different amounts to feel regulated. Some people need to move a lot to feel regulated in their body. These people are up running cycling etc. they aren’t supper hero’s they just need to move to feel ok. You need to move. Your friends sense of movement is very heightened. She doesn’t need to move much at all to feel regulated. She’s not lazy, it’s just that perhaps her sense of movement affects her differently to you

That's MN for you. If you don't own your own home or, even worse, can't or won't drive, you're basically a waste of skin.

You would hate me.
Im up at 05.30 most days for work and home by 14.00.
Currently on holiday and have been for 8 weeks. I get up at about 06.00 and walk the dog before it gets too hot.
Back to the flat, coffee, vape and a lovely sit down.
Siesta in the afternoon for a couple of hours.
Bed by about 22.00.
Today I am going to drive to the town and visit the bank, town hall and cooperative.
Not very energetic, but necessary.

I’m a lark, but I still think YABU. How she lives her life has nothing to do with you.

Her job is notoriously exhausting and her hobbies are more solitary and homely than yours, so what?

Do you know what the word friend means op?

because this isn’t a friendship

People are so crazy on here!!! The woman has a job but for some reason that equates to her being lazy as she does nothing in her free time and she won’t amount to getting on the housing ladder!!!

I was a bit like this because I was always exhausted. Turns out I had hashimotos, endometriosis and a host of other health issues. People were always saying I was lazy

God I miss staying in bed until midday on a weekend day. Now I have DC and 8 is a lie in. I have always got up by 6 on weekdays and often work in the evening (teacher). Reading in bed was a great way to recharge.

It sounds like you do make a bit of a thing of how great you are with your gym and running. Yet, when you think about it, those are wholly unproductive activities. If you devoted the same time to something that was actually useful you might have more of a leg to stand on.

I get up at 5am 3 mornings a week to go to the gym but I do it because it’s my choice & it benefits me. Just like meeting up with friends & being part of social groups.
I don’t expect my friends to praise me for all that, just like I don’t praise them for staying up hours later than I do.

But why does it annoy you? How does it affect you enough to annoy you?

What kind of 'friendship' is this?! I don't recognise it. You find her aggravating, she ridicules you. If you can't accept each other's differences perhaps it's time to knock the friendship on the head?