To find lazy adults really grating?

I’m 37, don’t have kids and only work six hours a day - I’m currently bed rotting on a week day too - I wonder what you’d think of me 😂

Karma will get her eventually in the form of obesity, arthritis etc. Honestly, just find better friends.

Nursery work involves an awful lot of bending, stretching, lifting and general running around, non-stop. I'm prepared to bet that your friend gets more of a physical work-out than you do every day of the week, for all your time in the gym or running.

Fucking hell, glad you're not my friend. Are you jealous cos you can't work 6 hours a day?

You don't like her, she doesn't like you. It happens. Time to let the non-friendship die a natural death.

BTW, I am also a gym goer. It makes me healthier. Not morally superior.

Some people have such a weird puritanical streak.

I think larks are so lazy. Imagine already being in bed by 11pm, when you could still be alert and doing stuff for hours yet. I find lazy larks really grating. Any functional adult should be up until at least 2am.

Do you see how ridiculous you sound?

Being on your feet with kids all day is exhausting.

Big deal, I’m an early bird, I wake up early and I’m up for work. I’m a nurse so I guess ingrained to be up early for work, also did nights so quite liked a lie in on days off.

i tend to get knackered and will sometimes have a wee afternoon snooze 💤 on my days off, on the couch though not in bed. I have no thyroid menopausal etc I couldn’t give a fig what anyone else thinks about that. I’m not lazy I get done what needs to be done. Work hard at work.

You say this is your friend? Some friendship that is. You let her ridicule you, for whatever reason, and you call her lazy so really you’re the same. Either accept you’ve got different lifestyles and energy levels or find other friends,

People who are evangelical about getting up early to do busy-work (especially ‘going to the gym’ 🙄) are so insufferably dull.

Your friend deserves better.

I don’t think YABU on the basis she has the nerve to ridicule you.

Perhaps she’s jealous of your get up and go attitude to life.

Each to their own but her life does sound very boring for someone so young.

I used to manage two members of staff in an office job. One was a 'morning lark' and started at 7:30, and the other was a 'night owl' and started at 10:00. Both did their hours, both worked hard and did a good job (i was a very lucky and grateful manager).

But what really pissed me off was that, for some reason, the one who worked the earlier shift was somehow seen as more virtuous, and the later worker was seen as a bit lazier. Why? They both did exactly the same amount of work (in fact the later worker was a bit more capable of more complicated tasks)! It just came down to their individual metabolisim and natural sleeping patterns, i wanted to play to their strengths by allowing them to work their optimal hours, and it worked really well.

In my current role i used to cycle to work 7 miles and be the first one in the office, but in the last 3 years (since perimeno took over) i've been going in much later on the bus. I didn't get lazy, it's just my natural cycles and metabolism have shifted. I'm not going to fight it or feel bad about myself, i know that things will settle down once my hormones get back into balance. Don't judge OP, bc i can almost guarantee that your current 'virtuous' morning lark sleep cycle won't necessarily always be the way your body operates, and you'll realise that motivation and will power actually have very little to do with it. Hormones are bloody powerful things.

There's an evolutionary reason some people are night owls. They'd have been the ones keeping watch at night when everyone else was asleep. We no longer need to watch out for rival tribes or predators who want to eat us, but that thing is a hangover.

There's also nothing lazy about teenagers sleeping more, growth spurts, hormonal changes, etc, take it out of you. When toddlers have a longer sleep because they're having a growth spurt they don't get called lazy!

I don’t find people who sleep in late annoying. What I used to find really really annoying were lazy people at work. People who almost expected to be spoon fed. With zero initiative. Who had no drive and pride. Who did the bare minimum.
Such people I failed to understand. They were paid well, had good terms and conditions and were no way over burdened. At all. They were just fundamentally lazy.

Be slow to judge

Of course you ABU .
Your friend obviously has a different sleep pattern to you .She sleeps 7-8 hrs and works full time in a physical job.
I dont think it reasonable to say thats lazy.
It seems that you think because her free time isn't spent on exercise that make her lazy.
Why does it "grate" that your friend doesn't seem to do the amount of exercise you do?

Have you tried working in a nursery? Or do you have a superior job too?

It's really hard work being with babies and toddlers for 6 hours a day. While her ridiculing you is really not on, your ridiculing of her is really not on either.

Friend you say, You are friends with someone you don't like how did that come about ?

I'm a sanctimonious morning person too, so completely understand where you are coming from on this.

Who cares? Just let her be. I find judgemental people far more grating. She works, she's not lying in bed all day. Nothing people do is a waste of time if it's what they want to be doing.

Why are you friends with a person you don’t like? Makes you seem a bit two faced. Leave her be for gods sake. What does it matter what she’s doing? Maybe you need another hobby to fill your days?

I'm not a morning person at all, I have inattentive adhd and would prefer to stay up late and sleep in. This is allows me to function well. If I were to get up early like you I would be a woolly headed groggy grouch all day.

You know what though? I am far from lazy, I work, look after my nd kids needs and care for my elderly mum who has advanced dementia.

Your friend doesn't sound lazy either, she is simply different to you, can you understand that everyone is different?

You sound very judgemental, that's not a nice trait to either.

I’ve been on the train to London for work since 7.15am! Just coming in to the station.

Not because they are lazy, but because their circadian rhythm is offset.
When toddlers wake up at 5am everyday for the same reason, no-one is claiming they are especially virtuous for doing so!

I'm a night owl (although that's changed a bit since I had DS.) Used to do the late shift at work because I liked going to bed late. It was nice to be up at night when everything was quiet, and I could indulge in my hobbies.

You ridicule her, she ridicules you, why exactly are you friends with someone when you don't seem to like each other very much?