To find lazy adults really grating?

You both clearly don’t like each other. So move on. You’re going on about being so busy, but she’s living rent free in your head for some reason. She’s not wrong for how she wants to live her life, you’re just not compatible and both weirdly judgey of each other

Honestly OP sounds like one of those people who gets their kicks out of belittling others.

You are insufferable!
You do you. Let others be. They’re none of your business.

Absolutely unhinged post, this one. The woman works, supports herself, and pays her way. What's the problem, ffs?

And interestingly OP you judge me for being lazy - I walk about 9-10 miles a day in the six hours I work - outdoors in all weathers - am I still lazy?

She loves it doesn't she!

You sound like a busy person. Why are you wasting time complaining about someone you don't really like by the sounds of it? If she makes fun of you, then I wouldn't spend time with her. It doesn't matter what you think of her life and her choices.

This!

When you finish polishing your halo, OP, why don’t you tell your friend to stop commenting on the things you do. And you learn to stop getting so angry. You’ll be much happier when you get past it, I’m sure.

The woman does work and plays with. children as part of her work!!

I work but don’t play sports or volunteer. I do clean and cook. I don’t like having an active social life. My only exercise is walking, but as I walk to and from walk, I don’t feel like going for a walk at the weekend unless I’m going somewhere. I live in a city so have chosen not to have a car and mainly walk.

People are different and it doesn’t suit everyone to be “busy” all the time. On a day off I am very content to stay in bed late and read a good book for the rest of the day!!!

She ridicules me for going to the gym, running, having hobbies. She thinks it’s all a waste of time

Your friend sounds absolutely awful - why are you still friends with this twat?

I've noticed that lazy people often scoff at or insult those with healthy lifestyles - its cognitive dissonance because they know deep down they'll end up chronically unwell due to their choices but instead of facing it, they like to drag down those who do look after themselves. It's all due to insecurity.

I certainly wouldnt remain friends with someone who ridiculed me. Get rid of her.

You seem Pre occupied by her why do you care what she thinks ? How can you "cut someone off" if you never see her because she lies on her bed on the internet?

Oh no, a stranger on the internet thinks I’m lazy, my life is over 🙄

I suspect the OP won’t let the friendship drop as she likes to have someone around who she can feel superior to.

She works, so, no, sorry, that doesn't sound annoying to me. I know how hard that job is.

My neighbour doesn't work at all, gets up every day at 2 or 3pm, then all day from there you get Ibiza music blasting until midnight, while she sits at home singing along very loudly. THAT is something to get annoyed at. I WFH and don't expect the world to stop for me, but my partner and I are very quiet, and we expect her to reciprocate.

Yes it's annoying when people make fun of you going to the gym, and I get this too, a bit. "what, you SPIN, are you NUTS? Relax, have a wine instead!" No thanks, wine makes me physically ill. I'd rather work out.

But yes, as your friend works, I can't agree in this situation.

OP, I get where you're coming from. This annoys me too.

I think a big part of the problem is social media obsession. I work with adults who barely sleep because they're on TikTok and Snapchat all night. Then they go to work exhausted and can't function properly because they're tired.

A lot of them don't seem to have much of a social life either. They sit at home watching Netflix while scrolling through their phones at the same time.

We live in a society where we're supposedly the most connected we've ever been, yet we're also the loneliest. We have more opportunities than any previous generation, yet so many people want to spend their entire lives indoors between four walls.

And then people respond with, "She's working, what's your problem?"

The problem is that there's more to life than just having a job. What concerns me most is the complete lack of interest in anything beyond that routine. No hobbies, no curiosity, no desire to explore, learn new things, meet people, travel, or experience the world. For some people, life seems to be work, scrolling, Netflix, sleep, and repeat.

I don't think we should be handing out medals just because someone can hold down a job and isn't claiming benefits. That's the bare minimum expected of most adults.

There's nothing wrong with enjoying a quiet life, but it's sad to see so many people with no interest in living a fuller one.

Why do you let her?

But that’s your choice. Not everyone wants to run or go to the gym. It sounds like you have more issues than she does. Just end the relationship, no great loss to her or you. You are different people and can’t seem to except that not everyone wants to do what you do.

This is all a bit of a stretch. 😂

If the friend has genuine health problems that prevent her from working in future then of course she will be entitled to benefits.

Why are you friends?
You don't like what she does
She doesn't like what you do
What's the point?

I am a person who always has to be in the go. I have lots of hobbies and projects on the go, I can’t sleep in after 7.30am. Sometimes I wish I could be lazy and just relax. I have nothing against those who can just come home from work and relax for the rest of the day/evening, and nothing against those who can stay in bed until 10am…….it’s just not something I can do. I don’t think your friend is lazy, she works hard and wants to spend her spare time relaxing rather than going to the gym or taking part in hobbies. Technically her hobby is relaxing, maybe she games or watches movies?

I agree. Do it today. I doubt she'll miss your "friendship".

Ordinarily I’d say “let her do her”
but if she’s ridiculing you, that’s not on.

tell her to pipe down, she’s got no right to say anything about what you do when she doesn’t do anything bar scroll/work/sleep.

I feel this depends more on whether OPs job pays more than her’s.