To find lazy adults really grating?

You have no idea how mentally draining working with kids is.

Six hours a day is not part-time when you're working with kids. Putting aside the work they do outside their directed hours, teachers are only in classrooms six hours a day – does that make them part-timers too?

Sitting on your arse, toned though it may be, in an office all day is a breeze by comparison.

So, you met one person who happened to be an arsehole and likes getting up early, therefore everyone who gets up early is automatically a holier than thou arsehole?

And you are angry about people generalising about others based on the time they get up- isnt that exactly what you are doing? 😂

Ahh here we go. Staggering! So you are sat down all day. Mental fatigue is completely different to physical fatigue. Of course you have energy to go to the gym and run after sitting in an office all day.

Maybe your friend has some underlying health issues mental or physical? Maybe she needs more rest and recovery because her job is extremely physically and emotionally demanding. She also probably doesn’t earn much as a nursery nurse and therefore doesn’t have loads of extra money for hobbies, gym, etc. I used to have a friend like you - up at crack of dawn, sanctimonious about her busy life of gym, hobbies socialising - diary so full it was hard to ‘fit in a coffee’. Honestly she was utterly exhausting to be around. Someone unable to sit with their thoughts or introspect, who prefers to judge others, it not a good candidate for a friend. Why would you be friends with someone you dislike this much? Just end it.

Your friend sounds like a slob but not sure why it grates. Her life, if she wants to waste it laying around, that’s her prerogative.

If she’s pissing you off, maybe end the friendship.

Exactly this. Why is the OP completely downplaying her friend’s job! What an awful friend you are OP.

We still haven’t heard what you do as a job? Unless I’ve missed it? I’m guessing it’s also an active job as you claim to be active for over 8 hours a day.

Imagine if the OP comes back and says she has a desk job!

It’s true though. Your language is just like a teenager!!! I thought you were an adult!!!!

Oh, have a bloody halo, and grow up while you're at it. You sound insufferable.

She shouldn't be ridiculing you, that's not on - but the same goes for you judging her. If she's spending that much time resting (although, newsflash, it's actually no one's business but hers how she spends her downtime) she may well have things going on medically that affect her energy levels, I strongly dispute she'd tell you if she did, if you're as judgemental as you sound.

Being busy and productive doesn't make someone a better human being if they're preaching, halo-polishing and sneering at others while they're at it.

Said AIBU because you sound a bit judgmental / intolerant, but it sounds like the friend just gets on your nerves generally

Working with kids is absolutely exhausting, so I don't blame her for resting when not working!
What is your job OP?

A friend of mine has a husband who is a morning person. He is also an asshole when discussing people who are not. I have never heard a night owl talking about morning people as if they are morally deficient, so really don't understand the "holier than thou" attitude of people who naturally wake early. You are just different.

I had one parent very much like you up at the crack of dawn doing the gym, hobbies, work and different things his day was completely busy. Drawing curtains back, telling me to get up, washed and dressed and giving me jobs to do or places to go.
My other parent was like your friend lay in bed well beyond a reasonable time, never up, washed and dressed till 3pm in the afternoons etc... Only working part time as well. Just watching TV mainly and staying up late into the night.
I'm very much like you now and tend to make the most of my day. It was very annoying living with my Mum.

You have no idea how draining it is working with children, especially little ones. The constant clamour and demands for attention, needing to be alert at all times, implementing behaviour management, coping with and providing for SEN children, dealing with entitled parents, following regulations. Try a day in her shoes and then you might understand why she's wiped out and likes to relax at weekends, instead of sneering down your nose at her and writing spiteful posts online.

Actually, scrap that and do her a favour and end the friendship. She deserves nicer people in her life.

You do you.

I actually don't think you are totally unreasonable. I get that people are "night owls" but I don't think it is healthy to this extent. I think lack of structure can lead to struggles mentally

I am well aware that I may sound like a massive bitch here
Yeah, you do.

I have a friend who is very lazy. She would rather be up until 2/3am on social media and sleep in until 10am everyday. We are late 20s. All she does is go to work (she’s a nursery assistant, fair play that’s hard work but still), and then come home and sit in bed. She ridicules me for going to the gym, running, having hobbies. She thinks it’s all a waste of time. She purposefully chooses 11-5 shifts so that she can lay in bed all morning
She has a different sleep pattern to you. I also sleep on a similar schedule to her.
She works hard as a nursery assistant.
She shouldn't be ridiculing you for having hobbies. You shouldn't be judging her.
If she wants to spend her spare time in bed scrolling on her phone that's her choice.

It grates on me so much. I’m very much a morning person and while I understand not everyone is, I think it’s a pillar of being an adult that you’re out of bed by a reasonable time, even on the weekends
You obviously don't understand that not everyone is a morning person. Some people work better on a different schedule.

She’ll often text and say that she’s still in bed at 3pm. No mental health issues, just laziness
It's her choice to do that. If she wasn't working that would be a different story but she has a job and has chosen a shift pattern to suit her.

I think you should do her a favour and let this "friendship" slide because you obviously don't like her and her ridiculing you for your lifestyle isn't on either.

You don’t live with her so who cares? If my adult children were in bed most of the time I’d be concerned as that’s usually a sign that they’re feeling mentally unwell.

However, you say this woman has no health issues and so let her live how she wants.

its not the way I’d want to live, but I understand the attractiveness of being ‘safe’ in your home.

People who are busy all the time are causing a much greater environmental impact!!!

Sounds like the friend is being just as judgmental by ridiculing and mocking the OP for not laying in bed all day

For most of us, the bar is higher than just being able to have a job—most adults do that.

It is concerning to me that I see so many young adults with a social media obsession and very little life beyond it.

There is a big difference between having a quiet life and having no interest in anything at all. Unfortunately, I see the second one more often lately, and it is sad.

This “leave me alone, it’s none of anyone’s business” attitude is exactly how we end up with no community or support systems at all—and the fact that people are increasingly embracing that idea is very worrying.

What is your job ?. Do you really think your "friend " negotiated her work hours so she could lie in her bed?

Yawn. It does not make you morally superior because you’re a morning person. I think there have been studies to say that this can be genetic. She’s on a different schedule that’s all. And her job sounds utterly exhausting. I think best for both of you if you end the “friendship” as you talk about her with such disgust.

You might find you have a happier life if you stop being so judgemental too.