To find lazy adults really grating?

Of course it's entertaining, this whole forum is about engaging.
Read the ops posts and come back and show me where she's shown any concern about her friend.
Also, vile is your word not mine. I think she's a judgemental arse who lacks understanding that not everyone has to be exactly like her to be a worthwhile human being, I don't think she's vile.

And yet her life has nothing to do with you. At all.

Yet here you are on a website bitching about your friend because she has a different attitude to life than you!

I love a long lie at the weekend and a lazy day is even better.

Away for a run Op, release some of that anger.

If you think OP is so vile, then why are you engaging?
It’s clearly either entertaining to you, or you just enjoy judging and being rude to people in the same way you claim OP does. So how exactly are you different?

This is like the driving threads where people think you can't be an adult unless you drive.

The op would love me. I'm a non driving, night owl.
I'm still in bed now. I'll get up in 5 mins to go to a meeting. I probably will go to the gym for an hour later.
I love my bed, its my favourite place to be in the house.

I have heard sneery comments from night owls actually - laughing at others for going to bed early and calling them boring etc But I dont generalise about them all or say that all night owls do that.

I agree that everyone has different body clocks.

Try spending 6 hours on the trot looking after babies / toddlers / very small children and see how you do OP

Sitting on your arse in front of a screen full time is much easier than some part time jobs. You really are quite insufferable OP. I would recommend a bit of travel to widen your life experiences and emotional intelligence.

The irony. She’s not the one bitching and whinging on MN about her “friend”.

I don't believe you're friend is in bed until 3pm. I think she sees that it's you texting and thinks 'oh, not this insufferable twat, what can I say to make her fuck off?'

I'd imagine this happens a lot- do you find yourself calling on friends and family and there's no answer, but is that feet sticking out from behind the sofa? Acquaintances from work leaping into shop doorways when they see you running?

In guessing your volunteering is with vulnerable people who have no choice but to spend time with you listening to your inane ramblings about strava.

How do I know? Because nothing she says shows any concern at all! It's all judgement, sneering and complaint. The only thing she's concerned about is that the friend doesn't share OP's view of herself as superior.

Ffs. Would you like to buy a bridge?

ETA: She's just denied any suggestion that friend is depressed and says she's just lazy. Come on, you know she's not acting out of concern, stop pretending.

How would we know? We can read!

Read my post- it's not the time he gets up that makes him an asshole. It's the sneering at people who don't get up early. Which attitude I have heard from other early risers but not fro late to bed people. The only anger here is coming from you.

Equally, OP did not approach the discussion with an open mind and try to understand the differences in her friends approach to life. She accused her friend of being lazy. People who judge others and claim their own life choices are superior should be challenged. OP has been challenged and rightly so.

The OP has made it clear she isn't remotely concerned about the friends lifestyle, but finds it 'grating' instead.

And shut down any suggestion of the friend having MH issues or ND by claiming she'd let everyone know if she id because she's such a terrible person and liar that pretended to be injured after an accident which the OP didn't think was serious.

OP has just been vile and vitriolic. Bellitling the friends job among other things even going as far as to calculate how much time she actually works minus breaks.

Edit - and the nasty, uncalled for comment that she hopes the friend doesn't plan to have children.

There's no concern demonstrated. Just plain nastiness and judgement.

You need to go to the gym because you have a sedentary job. Apparently studies have shown typical gym usage doesn’t compensate for the negative health aspects of having a deck job, so your point about you saving the NHS by going to the gym isn’t correct.

Friends usually add value to your life and you to theirs. Otherwise what’s the point?

I love staying up late, most of my hobbies revolve around live events. I also get up early, work and often sleep from 6-7 pm and then enjoy the evening. Maybe my friends think I’m lazy too.

Well, how would you know?

Did anyone actually take the time to explain to OP the issues with social media obsession, possible depression, or anything constructive at all?
No. She was immediately met with “you’re a horrible person, mind your own business.”

That’s the problem here: no discussion, no nuance, just instant outrage and shutting people down.

She’s not lazy if she is holding down a full time job. She is just on a different time schedule to you. I don’t think you two are really friends, let it go.

So you sit on your arse for 8 hours a day while she's up and running about after small children. She then sits on her arse while you're at the gym. Why are you finding this so difficult to understand ?

Honestly who’s to say the people getting rest as opposed to running themselves into the ground trying to tick the boxes for exercise, hobbies, work, mad cleaning sprees etc will end up any different. I always say sleep and water are the answer to everything and someday I’m just going to fall over trying to do everything. I’d agree you both sound like you’re not friends (haven’t read the thread btw, am assuming ye are properly fighting)

I wake up at 4.30am because of the cat, it doesn't make me a saint or any better than someone who sleeps in until 3pm.

What others do doesn't affect or bother me. You need to chill.

I may agree if looking after children was just physical, but it is mentally and emotionally draining too, and unrelenting because of their short attention span: if they have spent 10 minutes doing something it feels to them like they have been doing it for hours, so they need constant stimulation or new activities to do.