To find lazy adults really grating?

You are not doing better than her because you are completely lacking in emotional intelligence, empathy and self awareness. And you’re a really crap friend…

She probably doesn’t but tells you that as she doesn’t want to go out anywhere with you.

Ok, so you're superior and happier. Why isn't that enough for you? Why do you need her to acknowledge your superiority before it satisfies you?

Do you think she's spent all morning thinking about you?

I completely agree that going to the gym isn't a substitute for being a kind, interesting or accomplished person, and I don't think most gym goers would claim that it is.

However, your earlier comments did come across as quite critical of gyms and the people who use them. Describing the gym as "mindless" and "unproductive", and suggesting people would be better off helping neighbours move house or helping the elderly, sounded rather different from simply saying that it isn't a major "CV of Life" plus point. Telling people they could be helping neighbours move house rather than going to the gym could also be read as rather smug too.

For me, the gym is neither a moral virtue nor a personality trait. It's just an efficient way of maintaining my health, strength and bone density in a modern world where most of us spend far too much of our lives sitting down.

Regarding the OP - if she does feel going to the gym makes her morally superior then that is wrong but also, her friend is also wrong for ridiculing her for her fit lifestyle.

Please explain, if she works in a physical job every day for 6 hours in the week, how she is in bed all day?

You don’t actually make any sense OP.

But ARE you truly fulfilled?

Because this thread actually comes across as insecure and angsty deep down. Why do you need to concern yourself about her inferiority and check off your marvellous traits against her lifestyle?

Just dont be her friend anymore. People are different and you are old enough to know that. Not everyone has the same hobbies or goals or sleeping pattern. Leave the poor woman alone!

Why does it matter to you?

..and yet here you are being unnecessarily upset by someone who does things differently. I'm sorry but your posts are not coming across as coming from a particularly happy person. You sound very fragile and wound-up.

Her so called "lazy" lifestyle is only a problem if it affects others.

She's laughing at you kid.

Are you a nice person though?

What has she said to you that demonstrates her ‘looking down her nose’ at you?

I don't think that follows. The friend is working; she makes her money. What she does in her spare time is unlikely to affect her ability to buy property.

And that affects you, how?

Does it affect her work or overall wellbeing?

You are on social media now moaning about her. Is that really a productive use of your time?

I mean too much social media could make someone quite dull company, be addictive or affect their mental health but I don't think it makes you lazy, per se.

Who gives a flying F what she does on her own time - she doesnt answer to you

More likely she only saying to wind you up to get a reaction out of you for the crack
You cant control other poeples actions but you can control on how it affects you , ignore it go on with your life - its none of your business

If this was someone such as my husband, then no I would not tolerate being with someone like that. But a friend?
Of it doesn't affect me in any way I really would not care.
You clearly dislike her, so why is she your "friend".

As opposed to sitting on your phone all day responding to MN 🤣

What's interesting about this is that your sleep pattern has zero impact on your productivity! I'm a night owl and way more productive/successful that some early birds I know. I don't get tired until midnight at the earliest regardless of how little I've slept - so getting up at 5am each day would destroy my productivity and success. It's not one size fits all

Have you never encountered critisism before? If you're happy with your life you should be able to laugh it off. And if she's deliberately being a cow to wind you up, you shouldn't let her crummy oppinion bother you, just don't bite back.

Look, I understand why gyms happen, and I'm not going to criticise the way you live your life if you aren't hitting out at others. You should keep doing what works for you.

But, given the op has judged others, it is balancing for her to hear some other opinions that most of us don't allow to grow into the kind of pejorative dislike she has let her opinions morph into.

I'm not going to shun someone for going to the gym! But it doesn't strike me as the "CV of Life" plus point that the OP seems to feel it is.

Also being a morning person doesn't make you the boss of everyone.

And I say that as a morning person. If I had to work in hospitality I'd probably do very badly as I'm not an evening person. If you saw me in the evening you'd think I was very lazy.

The best thing is to try to work to your own strengths.

And you’re doing the exact same thing to her 🙄

You are being judgemental and very unreasonable. Who cares what she does? Why does she need to be like you - are you perfect @myothersockis?