To find lazy adults really grating?

She works 30 hours a week?

She's not your friend OP, or at least, you are not hers.
In fact, you seem to dislike her so much that I doubt she's 'ridiculing' you at all. Whatever your issue with this person, just stop interacting with her. Cannot understand why you haven't already

You sound unhappy

why do you care? If it has no impact on you and your friendship, then genuinely why do you care?

With you on this. Recipe for disaster and her parents have done her a disservice by not instilling a good work ethic. Not exactly going to contribute to society and if she has children in the future, she’ll be a shocking role model to them. It’s a sad way of living.

Please do your 'friend' a favour and cut her off OP.

You sound very judgemental - it's her life, just let her get on with it. You're both adults with their own priorities and interests. Not sure what you have in common to continue being friends.

It's also true that the less you do, the less you can do

see all the threads about SOME retired people who have a "busy exhausting" week because they have to go to the post office and have 2 appointments in the week 😂

Same with exercise

but if you both look down at each other, how can you possibly be friends, and why?

Up at half five and run everywhere?
Congratulations you're a toddler.

Surprised you have any friends at all with this level of judgement. Mind your own

You’d fucking hate me. I haven’t worked full time since I had my eldest at 28 (37 now) I haven’t worked at all in 2 years and I often don’t get out of bed until gone 11 on a morning, DH takes eldest to school and me and youngest stay sleeping!

I actually can’t stand morning people who think they’re superior cos they’ve been up and to the gym and eaten avocado on toast by 7am. Go do one and get a McDonald’s

It's sad that your 'friend' and her life choices have such an impact on you. You sound very angry. She ridicules you - fine, let her. Some of your comments sound like you are actually a little jealous of her cba attitude to life.

Just leave her to crack on. You obviously think your life and life choices are so much better than hers so why are you
a. bothering with her at all and
b. allowing her to make you so mad?

Just let her live her life and you live yours.

What makes you better than her? Because you fill your whole life with stuff. Do you ever have any downtime?

I go to the gym, I don't see it as something that makes me better than someone who doesn't.

Maybe spend less time filling your spare time with things and then you'd have time to work on that chip on your shoulder.

I would say that being adult also should mean that you have acquired a wider understanding of how people vary and the possible reasons for that, and that you can show empathy rather than rushing to judgment.

I don’t know your friend but it is possible she has a naturally delayed sleep phase, is neurodiverse or has some other challenge that you would not see, and even she may not fully understand. That doesn’t mean she should be having a go at you about your habits, but maybe she is joking about it as a way of trying to accept it, being defensive rather than really seeing her ways as superior, or perhaps she is reacting to perceived judgment from you. If you try to set aside her having a go at you, there is not much to find ‘grating’.

Her way of life is not superior to yours but it isn’t inferior. The fact that you see your actions as so much better and more productive doesn’t mean they really are. In fact if you hit serious health issues, and to correct your earlier implication all the healthy food and exercise in the world doesn’t mean you won’t, you are at risk of losing self esteem through being unable to perform all these things that you think define superiority.

Since you clearly dislike her 😂, she annoys you, and you probably contribute negatively to her life, letting this relationship end seems a win win. Just as you go forward try to be a bit more open minded, and to also go easy on yourself if you can’t one day do all the things you feel are so tied to a person’s value.

Loud cheers for OP and round condemnation of the poor “friend”?

Just wonder what you want from this thread @myothersockis

The audacity of thinking you know what another entirely separate body feels or needs.

It's none of your concern

You are REALLY not coming across as fulfilled, OP. Immature, whiny, intolerant, insecure and honestly, slightly unhinged to let another adult’s sleep habits—that have zero impact on you—upset you so? Absolutely.

I hope you don’t give this voice in the real world. People will think (realise?) you are a really shitty friend.

I don’t even get that upset by my newborn’s sleep habits and they literally keep me from sleeping. But then I’m a chilled night owl!

I don't mind other people being lazy as long as they don't criticise me for being the opposite.

Edit to add that I shouldn't have used the term 'lazy' - rather, having different priorities to me.

You aren't coming across well, OP. You sound like a sanctimonious, self serving, judgemental person.
So, in life when you come across someone who's lifestyle doesn't mesh with your own, do you really condemn them publically and write them off as a bad human being?
Your definition of life fulfillment is up-with-the-lark, julie andrews style busy-ness, and that definitely isn't for everyone. Does it make you wrong? No. Does it make them wrong? Also, No.

Develop a a bit of resiliance, tone down the judgement and say "live and let live" to yourself 10 times a day.

You're NBU to be irritated about her casting judgement on your activities, but this is just ignorant. Teenagers need more time sleeping and resting because their bodies are actively building neural pathways and growing!

Either challenge her about her comments, roll your eyes and dismiss them because who cares when you know you're making better use of your time, or just stop seeing her. You're not a better person because you're more active, although you might be for other reasons.

This is the most balanced post on this thread so far- I agree 👏

We get it OP - you're just a better person.

It's all about balance - exercise and rest are both 'productive' but both going to the gym and lying in bed can become 'unproductive' if carried to extremes and particularly if someone is ignoring their other commitments and responsibilities (family life, spending time with children). A parent who goes to the gym when it should be their weekend morning to look after the kids is equally 'unproductive' imo as one who lies in bed and refuses to get up with them.

But being 'unproductive' isn't in itself a moral failing. Aside from those we share a life with (spouses, children), we don't really owe it to others to be 'productive'.

Also, people are all different and have different nervous systems and require different amounts of rest and down-time. I wouldn't really describe it as 'unproductive' to promote one's own wellbeing - for energetic extroverts, that might include frequent gym trips and socialising, but for the more sedate and introverted, doing this might well leave them drained and exhausted. We are all the best judges of what we can do within our own circumstances to promote our own wellbeing. The error is thinking that what is good for us is always good for other people as well.