To find lazy adults really grating?

She works in a nursery looking after other people's kids she's not sitting around doing nothing for her whole shift. She's planning activities and changing wet and shitty nappies. She's feeding these kids too and keeping them all safe so that their parents get their kids looked after in a safe environment whilst they work. She's far from lazy. You say she's judging you but you're judging her for not getting up at 7am on her days off work, she doesn't have to

And go to work

Is she your only friend, OP? You sound very tightly wound up. Perhaps the odd lie in wouldn’t do you any harm.

That’s true. I think working with kids sounds like a nightmare, I’d go for my desk job any day.

The fact you both ridicule one another, like some petty competition to see who can be the biggest b*tch...

You both need to grow up. Like I tell my children - Knock it off.

I’m lazy. It grates on me sometimes. But then I find my next book or box-set and get over myself.

I'm an adult woman with a responsible job and love a morning lying in bed scrolling on my phone! My DP who I live with is away at the moment, and last Sunday I got up about 9am, fed the cat, got some washing on, then went back to bed with a cup of tea and stayed there (the cat joined me) pottering about online for a couple of hours (obviously got up to make fresh tea). I then got up properly, sorted the washing, showered, and went and did a reformer Pilates class at lunchtime.

I like a late night/late morning ideally - I am usually up at 6.45 for work and bed by midnight but I'd prefer to go to bed later and start work later. I have a friend who is in bed at 9.30 most days, up at 5, I honestly think both are fine - she's a lark, I'm an owl.

She runs about after small children for 6 hours a day. By what definition have you decided she's not active?

She isn't lazy she works Monday to Friday looking after other people's kids for her whole shift. I'm guessing she has no kids of her own if she's staying in bed until 3pm on a weekend and in bed til 10am during the week. Just because she's not up at the crack of dawn like you are doesn't make her lazy. At least she's not laying around in bed waiting for her next benefit handout, she's actually working for her money..What's lazy is these dickheads choosing not to work because it's easier for them to keep getting free money off the government every month when they're actually capable of going out and earning it by working

She’s on her feet for 6 hours a day. OP is sat at a desk 8 hours a day. I wouldn’t say the friend is not active…

I want to know where the definition of adult came from. The friend IS an adult which is why she can choose to lol about in bed if she wants to.

This actually made me laugh out loud. So true 🤣

Exactly this. People take life waaaay too seriously. Everyone should just do as they please and not judge others.

Why on earth would you care 😂 - unless she’s more than a friend and you want to pursue a relationship with her, I don’t see how she lives her life is any concern of yours 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well of course being active is better (as a 64 year old I know) and in my 20s, even though I’d describe myself as lazy I was certainly up and about and doing stuff (no internet back then)! Work/scrolling is no life. But you know, live and let live. If she starts moaning that she’s bored or can’t meet a partner then you can remind her that Prince/Princess Charming is not going to find her in her bed…

Why does this annoy you so much? She’s obviously saying all this to wind you up. If you’re secure in your choices then what is the issue? It sounds like you have zero in common - she finds you annoyingly sanctimonious and worthy and you find her lazy. I would just zone her out. Maybe tone down the worthy attitude though as it can annoy people.

Who says you’re ’doing better’? According to what metric? In 100 years you’ll both be dead and no one will care how many pointless runs round the pavement you went on or how many cushions your cross stitched.

If you are thinking about this as much as it would lead you to write a post on mumsnet, would suggest that you do, in fact have too much time on your hands.

She might not be as productive as you but I’d bet she’s a darn sight happier with her life 🙄

Nobody who was happy with their lot would feel the need to be so horrible and judgemental about a so called friend, particularly when it has literally has no impact on your life.

Even my toddlers did not get up at half five. I like my sleep thank you!

Also how do you really know that there are no mental health problems? You have no idea what people are going through regardless if they say they are fine. I have been through periods of behaving like this and turned out to be undiagnosed ADHD and low level depression.

Christ, op, this is so bloody nasty. Horrible post to read.

Have you actually bothered reading the thread?

She doesn’t have children and she works.

On the weekends she chooses to have a lie in (like OP does).

She’s also an introvert and prefers to stay at home on the weekends, rather than go out socialising.

Couldn't agree more. Why do larks feel so superior to owls as if wanting to stay in bed after 7am is some sort of moral failing? I have tried to change my body clock but it really doesn't work. I do feel that 3pm is far too late, though, and perhaps this young lady could find something more productive to do with her time but this whole post is coming across as very judgmental and that the op feels that she has her life together and that her way is the only way.

"Atleast I am doing better than her" get off your moral high horse.

Just stop being friends with her you obviously don't like her and by the sounds of it she doesn't like you much either. Move on, she's currently living rent free in your head I've you've managed to shout "she's lazy!" on so many comments. 🙄😂