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To think men should not be allowed to be gynaecologists

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CaragianettE · 10/06/2026 22:45

Just that, really. Saw one last week. He was trying to be helpful, but I really really really don’t want to discuss ‘do you get clots’ ‘do you experience flooding’ ‘do you find intercourse painful’ with a strange man. Yes it would be awkward with a strange woman too, but at least I know she likely has some lived experience of what we are talking about. TBH I also question men’s motives for choosing this job, not just the licence to look at strange women’s vaginas, but I think there’s something deep in the male psyche that just loves laying down the law to women about their reproductive systems. It’s a job for a woman, and while I know men were allowed to train for it in the past, I think they should now be phased out.

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JollyGreenWatermelon · 11/06/2026 14:36

Periperi2025 · 11/06/2026 14:28

No we wouldn't, because their are plenty of capable female scientitist and doctors and always have been, they just weren't allowed to shine.

they can shine now, but if you pretend that the only way for them to have a voice in their field is to remove male competition, you are insulting and patronising all these women.

You can defend your point of view in sport, where male and female being separated is necessary for obvious reasons, but in medicine and science?

Some people like you REALLY cannot accept equality can they.

JollyGreenWatermelon · 11/06/2026 14:33

Periperi2025 · 11/06/2026 14:14

Because MEN run studies like this, and MEN give studeis like this ethics commitee approval...
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22985951/

apart from the fact that women were involved in that very article, (but women don't count do they, they never do...)
you are pretending that cutting all men from that area of medicine would be a step forward?

You want men to concentrate on "serious" health areas instead, and put women medicine at the bottom of the list?

and removing most of men who have a genuine interest in research and assisting others?

What could possibly go wrong

Periperi2025 · 11/06/2026 14:28

MissMoneyFairy · 11/06/2026 14:26

Perhaps Professor Robert Winston should have taken a different path and we could all go back 50 years.

No we wouldn't, because their are plenty of capable female scientitist and doctors and always have been, they just weren't allowed to shine.

JollyGreenWatermelon · 11/06/2026 14:28

keepswimming38 · 11/06/2026 14:16

Women clearly don’t feel comfortable with male midwives. Why should every woman feel comfortable with male gynaecologists? I think it’s ok for women to want female gynaecologists.

but you are not talking for all of us.

SOME women don't want male midwives. Some of us have no issue whatsoever with it.

MissMoneyFairy · 11/06/2026 14:26

JollyGreenWatermelon · 11/06/2026 14:09

why, you think banning men will help with funding and research?
How is that going to work exactly?

Perhaps Professor Robert Winston should have taken a different path and we could all go back 50 years.

OtterlyAstounding · 11/06/2026 14:26

Periperi2025 · 11/06/2026 14:14

Because MEN run studies like this, and MEN give studeis like this ethics commitee approval...
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22985951/

What the ever loving fuck did I just read. Good god.

keepswimming38 · 11/06/2026 14:16

Women clearly don’t feel comfortable with male midwives. Why should every woman feel comfortable with male gynaecologists? I think it’s ok for women to want female gynaecologists.

Periperi2025 · 11/06/2026 14:14

JollyGreenWatermelon · 11/06/2026 14:09

why, you think banning men will help with funding and research?
How is that going to work exactly?

Because MEN run studies like this, and MEN give studeis like this ethics commitee approval...
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22985951/

Retracted: Attractiveness of women with rectovaginal endometriosis: a case-control study - PubMed

Women with rectovaginal endometriosis were judged to be more attractive than those in the two control groups. Moreover, they had a leaner silhouette, larger breasts, and an earlier coitarche.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22985951/

JollyGreenWatermelon · 11/06/2026 14:09

Periperi2025 · 11/06/2026 14:07

Why, because womens health care is sooooo good right now, what with it being equally funded, evidenced based on an abudence of research, safe, and patients being listened to and promptly diagnoses?!

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why, you think banning men will help with funding and research?
How is that going to work exactly?

Periperi2025 · 11/06/2026 14:07

JollyGreenWatermelon · 11/06/2026 11:50

It will be a sad world if men were banned from having an interest in female health

and personally I had much better experience with male consultants than with females.

Of course we should not "allow" or "not allow" anyone to do anything based on sex/ gender or race./ religion and colour. Most ridiculous and backward idea you can think of.

Why, because womens health care is sooooo good right now, what with it being equally funded, evidenced based on an abudence of research, safe, and patients being listened to and promptly diagnoses?!

Jamclag · 11/06/2026 14:05

Bumbelinaaa · 11/06/2026 13:52

I personally have no preference when it comes to my doctor/nurse/HCP’s sex, however I understand that some other people might when it comes to examinations etc.

I do think it’s ridiculous that you can’t even speak about heavy periods with a male doctor OP. I think you probably need to grow up a bit!

I think you need to grow up a bit actually if you haven't got the maturity or empathy to imagine the vast amount of female experiences different to your own that might make this situation uncomfortable or even impossible due to past trauma.

r0ck · 11/06/2026 13:59

YABU. I think you're within your rights to request a female consultant but not to dictate that men can't become gynaecologists at all.

Bumbelinaaa · 11/06/2026 13:52

I personally have no preference when it comes to my doctor/nurse/HCP’s sex, however I understand that some other people might when it comes to examinations etc.

I do think it’s ridiculous that you can’t even speak about heavy periods with a male doctor OP. I think you probably need to grow up a bit!

JollyGreenWatermelon · 11/06/2026 13:45

All the male consultants I have ever seen were really considerate and genuinely concerned about pain and discomfort.

I have seen some pretty dismissive women on the other hand, and only ever had bad experience with women. Other women were lovely.

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 11/06/2026 13:42

dottiedodah · 11/06/2026 13:02

What about women consultants looking after men? Should they all be banned too! When you have seen one vag they all look the same!

I was thinking that - my Dad had a prostate op done by a female surgeon.

After a lifetime of experience of consultants of differing specialisms and both sexes, my main concern is how well they do their job!

aurpod1980 · 11/06/2026 13:40

Just further to my last comment I had a male
midwife in NICU who commented that my prem
baby’s head was the same size as my breast as I tried desperately for her to take milk from me.

No female spoke to me like that. God no wonder I’ve got PTSD from that entire birthing experience.

Crushed23 · 11/06/2026 13:23

JulietteHasAGun · 11/06/2026 06:18

I do remember about ten years ago with a new intake of registrars there wasn’t a single female registrar. So fr a whole year only men. We did have a couple of female consultants. I remember one pregnant woman saying she wanted a guarantee when she went into labour only female doctors would look after her. We had to explain that no hospital could guarantee that, if she went into labour at a weekend or overnight it would be whoever was on shift. Even during a working day we can’t necessarily pull a female doctor out of clinic to cover labour ward for one patient. But that year we could guarantee her that she would NOT get a female doctor. She transferred care to another hospital. Which she’s entitled to do.

Yeah, that was 10 years ago. Things are very different now, and looking at the pipeline of trainees, the specialism is only going to get more female-dominated.

OtterlyAstounding · 11/06/2026 13:13

Thechaseison71 · 11/06/2026 13:03

I have bloody said that haven't I?

And it's public knowledge as well that you can choose a female doctor

The" implication" was obviously in your head and not mine

Then why on earth did you say, "Yet the majority of women have sex with males. So it's ok for some random block to put his dick up you but not a qualified doctor to take a look in a medical sense"

?? What were you trying to say there, exactly?

Pinkchickenwine · 11/06/2026 13:04

HelenaWaiting · 11/06/2026 12:58

Quite correct. They shouldn't be allowed to be obstetricians either.

Thank god your thoughts aren’t changing things!!

I mean ask for a female by all means, but no I do not want them banned!!

Thechaseison71 · 11/06/2026 13:03

OtterlyAstounding · 11/06/2026 12:49

Perhaps you should have said that then, instead of implying that letting one man put his penis in your vagina (in an entirely different context, and probably not a 'random bloke' either), means you shouldn't say no to another man intrusively examining your vagina.

I have bloody said that haven't I?

And it's public knowledge as well that you can choose a female doctor

The" implication" was obviously in your head and not mine

dottiedodah · 11/06/2026 13:02

What about women consultants looking after men? Should they all be banned too! When you have seen one vag they all look the same!

HelenaWaiting · 11/06/2026 12:58

CaragianettE · 10/06/2026 22:45

Just that, really. Saw one last week. He was trying to be helpful, but I really really really don’t want to discuss ‘do you get clots’ ‘do you experience flooding’ ‘do you find intercourse painful’ with a strange man. Yes it would be awkward with a strange woman too, but at least I know she likely has some lived experience of what we are talking about. TBH I also question men’s motives for choosing this job, not just the licence to look at strange women’s vaginas, but I think there’s something deep in the male psyche that just loves laying down the law to women about their reproductive systems. It’s a job for a woman, and while I know men were allowed to train for it in the past, I think they should now be phased out.

Quite correct. They shouldn't be allowed to be obstetricians either.

OtterlyAstounding · 11/06/2026 12:49

Thechaseison71 · 11/06/2026 12:39

But you DONT HAVE TO. You CAN CHOOSE to have a female doctor.

Perhaps you should have said that then, instead of implying that letting one man put his penis in your vagina (in an entirely different context, and probably not a 'random bloke' either), means you shouldn't say no to another man intrusively examining your vagina.

Unforgettablefire · 11/06/2026 12:39

I had a breast lump and the exam and tests were done by a man. I normally ask for a female for these kinds of things and I felt uncomfortable but it was either get it seen to or not.
I don’t know why men are interested in this job but it doesn’t upset me. Different people have interests in different areas I’d love to hear from a man why they’re interested in that particular one.

I honestly can’t decide if you’re unreasonable. You are if you’re suggesting they do it just so they can peer at vaginas.