To want to move back to england with my 5 children

Do you honestly think the benefits are important here?

Billions gets given away to refugees and asylum seekers plus billions more in overseas aid.

Supporting one extra family especially when Mum is UK citizen to claim who's has had a shit start in life and isn't going to make any difference to the benefits situation.

Dear OP please ignore the negative posts. There are many of us on here who feel sympathy and empathy for your position.

I was stuck in a Gulf region country and am now back in the UK. It took me 5 years to be able to move back but I did. So see this as a long term project.

As I said in my earlier post take one step at a time. Step one stay safe. Priorities your own health. Your kids need you as the sane parent. Get your treatment and the best care you can for your current pregnancy. Does your partner insist on being at all your appointments? Can you talk to your doctors about contraception for as soon as you give birth perhaps with a slant on a need to protect your health after so many pregnancies and previous preeclampsia? Would you be able to get your tubes tied when you give birth?

You must be exhausted and scared. I know and wish I could give you a big hug.

Once you have your baby and your contraception sorted you can start to build on your own health. Again start with small steps. Get as much rest as you can (really difficult with small kids I know). Eat as healthy as you can. Can you get the other little ones into some day care in Poland to help with this?

And for now this is probably enough. Once you are feeling stronger you can will feel better able to support all your kids. And maybe start looking for work but that is further down the line.

Step 2 start saving any money you can as an emergency fund. Every little helps if you can.

Step 3 get support now where you live. Some posters have offered to look for you. Can you find mum and baby groups you could attend? Again this is for you and your own mental health.

To other posters please be gentle with OP. She needs support not questioning about her use of the NHS or benefits she hasn’t even claimed yet!

Big hugs OP stay strong- your kids have a great mum who loves and cares for them.

Do you honestly think the benefits are important here?

Billions gets given away to refugees and asylum seekers plus billions more in overseas aid.

Supporting one extra family especially when Mum is UK citizen to claim who's has had a shit start in life and isn't going to make any difference to the benefits situation.

You do realise keeping women pregnant and vulnerable is often part of the cycle of abuse?

She says the baby wasn't planned, does that also mean he's interfered with her contraception?

Please think before you post

She doesn’t have family here. Her children have been raised as Polish. She would just be claiming thousands/millions in benefits over their lifetime

Your husband has taken you to Poland, where it's been easy to isolate you. It may be where you have grown up in care, you are perhaps vulnerable too. You have no family or friends to speak of in the UK, so no support system to turn to either. Individually, these things probably aren't that significant but together, it paints a picture of a man, who wants to control you, he wants you dependant on him (hence why he's not keen on you working) and by you keep having babies, it keeps you trapped and tied to him. He knows he can treat you as he wishes, because he knows you have no where to go, and no support system. In essence, he's a nasty, abusive bully.

You can't simply leave the country. Your children's primary residence is in Poland, and one child is Polish born. You would need to seek proper legal advice regarding this, otherwise you could be in an even more dreadful situation.

You may need to find out, what help there is for you in Poland, and separate. You would sadly, have no choice but to stay in Poland, because there's no way your partner is going to agree to you and the children moving back to the UK.

Once the baby is born, sort out proper contraception. Stop having babies with this man.

Does Poland even have an equivalent of Womans Aid?

Op i think the place to start is the British Embassy see what help they can give you.

Your oldest boy is 15, when are the exam years and whats the school leaving age in Poland?
I think 15 could be a very difficult time to move.

But I do think you should arrange to be sterilised as soon as this baby is born. 6 kids is a lot even through they are spaced out it's a lot to try and support them all

Oh OP I'm so sorry. Ignore anyone who says you are being melodramatic. Postpartum depression can stem from feeling powerless and like everyone around you ignored your feelings. Take back control. As PPs have said start preparing for an exit, even if you don't go you will feel more in control of your life. Go back to the UK to have your baby with everything ready to go so you don't have to go back to Poland, and then decide what to do when there - you could seek help and explain your situation and try to stay in the UK, or go back to Poland. When you are in front of the authorities, charities etc in the UK you have the best chance of remaining. As PPs have said also prepare for your separated life in Poland - ensure all child benefits etc are paid to you, that you know how to get support with housing, what the legalities are around separated parents in Poland. This info gathering may also help you in making your decision - if eg you found that fathers generally get custody of the kids in Poland you may want to take them back to UK.

Alternatively do you have Polish residency? If so do you have the right to move anywhere in Europe? If so perhaps in time you could seek to move elsewhere- but with six ery young children that doesn't feel immediately practical. However could be a good future option to get further away from partner whilst not going all the way back to the UK.

She doesn’t have family here. Her children have been raised as Polish. She would just be claiming thousands/millions in benefits over their lifetime

Does Poland even have an equivalent of Womans Aid?

Is there a reason why you are not seeking support from Women's Aid in Poland, I'm sure they can arrange interpreter?

I am not sure you can, it sounds like 4 of your children (soon to be 5) were born in Poland? Surely there are laws stopping parents from taking kids abroad?

Yes, also having six kids with a man you and your kids aren't happy with is...inexcusable.

Why did you move to Poland in the first place? And please use contraception once baby no6 arrives so you don't end up with baby no7.

Op is British, I assume, as are her children so why wouldn't they be welcome to use the NHS and re-establish themselves there?
Op will need support and will need to find housing and work.
Why can't she stay near her UK family?

It makes sense for the best outcomes for her children that they keep and build a connection to their birth country.