AIBU to think one day’s leave for a far-away funeral is harsh?

I don’t think there is compassionate leave in my job- we don’t get sick pay (beyond SSP) so I would assume there wouldn’t be paid time off for bereavement or a funeral- I’d have to take unpaid or AL, regardless of which family member had died.

The problem is that people take the piss and given half a chance, they'd take multiple days off for every great aunt, uncle, grandfather and cousin.

Im sorry for your loss.
I think one day is ok as long as they are ok for you to use annual leave if you need extra time.

For which family member tho? 2 weeks leave for every relative inc in laws for every member of staff is ridiculous.

I don’t think you’d get two weeks for an inlaw.

Travel the night before after work and travel back the afternoon of the funeral. Not hard

This allowance for every funeral you needed to attend? I wouldn’t think so. Maybe just for a parent, spouse or child you’d get this.

I'm sure some people do take advantage , I definitely didn't, I put in initially for 2 weeks A/L when my grandson was life threateningly ill but my line manager rejected it and said I could have paid compassionate leave which ended up being 6 weeks. I'll be forever grateful.

Yeah I don't disagree with you. Overall a lot of things are worse now. No one has any give & take.Everyone is entitled.

You are lucky to get one day. It would be annual leave for me for mother in law.

You get time off for a wedding ? Or you mean your own ?

One day compassionate leave for an in-law is probably quite normal unfortunately!

I was given 5 days compassionate leave for my dad and 1 day for his funeral. NHS. I worked for a manager with zero compassion. The policy allows up to 10 days with manager's discretion. Thankfully have moved roles.

I think so too if it's a long journey. We get two days for a wedding but one for a funeral which is illogical to me.

Gosh this is all sad reading.

Our policy says 5 days but we always, always flex on this. Each case and time depends on the requirements of the individual.

It’s the worst time in someone’s life and our small gesture is a tiny way to make things less awful for them. It isn’t called compassionate leave for no reason, where is the compassion in many of these stories?

I’m sorry for your loss op

Agree 1 day is standard op.

I was once unable to get time off work at all to attend for a colleague. I was lucky that my shift started in the afternoon and so i made the funeral in the morning but had to miss the wake.

I am sorry for your loss. One day off to attend a funeral is fair, but I don’t think it’s fair to expect work to give you paid time off to travel - it’s not their fault or business that it is so far away.

Mine did, I got over two weeks off for the passing and the funeral combined.

And flowers and a card. I said I would log on after a hospital visit one day and I burst into tears due to exhaustion so they told me to log off. I am still there 7 years later.

Its a large corporate too.

Pretty standard.
In my first job I got no compassionate time at all for my grandfather.
We now get 2 weeks for the death of a spouse, parent or child. (I’m not sure about unmarried partners).
1 day for a grandparent.

clearly not so fond of her that you don’t begrudge giving up a day of your a L to travel to her funeral or take it unpaid.

i own a micro company and it’s bloody hard making money these days. It’s wild the expectations that employees have

Sadly, your workplace don't care about your feelings.
People get leave for immediate family because of the admin, not how upset they are.

My grown up DC each had 5 days for their Grandpa’s funeral ( compassionate leave )
DH and I are retired so had no need to take leave

Life can be awful when a parent in law dies. Yes they’re not your parent but you’re dealing with a heartbroken spouse and possibly heartbroken children or children who have no idea what’s going on but your spouse can’t function.

Losing MIL was exhausting physically and mentally and it was heartbreaking, we couldn’t sleep and we had to visit her daily for two weeks as any day could be her last.

A days leave is normal. You want more as travelling. Not their issue

if you loved mil as much as you say you do then surely she is worth a days holiday or a day not paid ?

2weeks from old firm sounds amazing - who were they and why did you leave ?

sorry for you and dh loss

I had one day off for my grandad who is a close blood relative. It’s only more than one day for a parent or sibling. You’re fortunate you’ve got one day for someone who isn’t related to you. You’ll need to use your AL.

Our company used to be 2 days compassionate for the death of a close relative. A colleague very sadly lost both her Mum and her Dad in the space of a month, both in another country. The HR person department actually questioned her having 4 days of compassionate leave (in addition to her obviously having to use annual leave) in one month. Thankfully in more recent times the company has loosened up and compassionate leave is still ‘officially’ 2 days for a death but line managers have discretion to authorise / extend depending on circumstances.