Boy 'accidentaly' touching my daughter at school

You can also report to MASH and LADO for safeguarding OP. The school are failing your daughter. Doesn’t matter if this kid has shit going on at home. Your daughter doesn’t want him touching her. Go fucking nuts!

You are extremely naive if you believe a woman won’t be punished for this.

You tell the school and the chair of governors that you have informed them that your daughter is being sexually assaulted and have not had a satisfactory response. You want a written response which includes a risk assessment. If it happens again you will be informing the police and Ofsted. The boy also better be careful she doesn’t accidentally knee him in the nads or punch him on the nose as an involuntary response to being assaulted.

Also wanted to add that all my kids are boys too and my youngest is 12.

I would be absolutely beside myself if I found out he was doing anything like this. And I would welcome input from any services, including police, who were able to help me deal with it.

The best outcome is that the parents are made aware, a police officer comes out and has a talk with him, and he realises 1) how serious this is and 2) WHY it is unacceptable.

I would hope that's how it ends up rather than it having to be taken any further. But I can't stress enough how much you need proper services involved.
Aside from the risks to your daughter and other children he is around, his situation needs assessing in case there is an underlying reason that he feels this is OK

Tell her to slap him if he does it again, make a fuss and shout leave me alone you pervert. Then walk out of the classroom and go to the heads office.

As has been.stated insist on.seeing the head with the schools safeguarding team and her class tutor and give a time period ie within one week and send via email and say if you dont have a meeting within a week you are going to the police, this is disgusting nothing has been done

You need to email your daughter's DSL (Designated Safeguarding Lead) which will be listed on the school web site. In the email you need to outline what has happened, giving as much factual detail as possible. Ask within the email what steps the school will be taking to ensure your daughter is safe. A one off incident is an accident, repeated incidents are not accidental, they are intentional. You need to request a meeting with the DSL too.

If this happened in the workplace, it would be classed as sexual assault and harassment.

I hope the poll results reassure you you're not overreacting

Letter in writing sent registered post to head teacher. . Copy in governers etc Bullet points. School failing to safeguard my daughter. All the points made above re message it’s giving.
Finish with what you want. Assurance kept apart in class etc etc. Make sure you empower your daughter to tell teacher loudly that she won’t sit beside x ‘because he assaults me ‘. She must understand that you’ll back her to the hilt.

Make your child’s problem their problem.

From now on keep a written record of each and every occasion and the details of it as reported by your daughter. Encourage her to say 'Stop touching me' very loudly and firmly every time he does it, loud enough for adults to hear.

The school have had too many chances and so has the boy. I'd get the police involved now, not only to teach the school and boy a lesson, but to confirm to your daughter that this behaviour is illegal and a police matter. Hope she's okay.

Copy of letter to headteacher (plus your previous complaints) head of governors and head of trust.

If school strategies have failed to stop it you need to report to the police as sexual assault, and do not be fobbed off with an 'out of court disposal' where the boy apologises or whatever - the time for that has passed.

This and now raise it in writing and tell them it is repeatedly sexual assault. Once an accident, twice for an 11 year old child warnings and now tell them your daughter is not being kept safe she is experiencing repeated daily / weekly assaults of a sexual nature and the school are minimising and victim blaming and they need to get properly tough about it.

It's not accidental if it happens frequently. This boy is 11 so over age of criminal responsibility. Write to Headteacher, Chair of Governors, Safeguarding Lead and inform police. It is assault. It is horrific for your DD. This boy must be made to face consequences of his behaviour.

Go full nuclear on this OP. Show your daughter that she doesn't have to accept unwanted touching or attention from males.

The only way we'll turn the tide on these awful men is to teach our daughters they can say no and will be supported unconditionally.

Get incredibly angry that your poor DD has had to endure this.

The message dd is receiving is that basically it's ok for him to do this and she's expected to not mind. You've reported it, they've mumbled and messed around a bit. They had their shot.

Email to governors and report to the police. It should result in a visit to school by them to talk to dd and this boy, I hope that scares both boy and the school, as well as prove to dd that this is unacceptable and not something she has to deal with purely because of walking around in a female body. This also might get the school to wake up and sort it out not wanting Ofsted safeguarding or police on the premises again because they're not doing their job.

To pps saying encourage dd to yell and physically retaliate hard - I was badly bullied at school, remember vividly walking down a hallway being repeatedly stabbed in the bum with a compass while the bullies laughing behind me threatened what they'd do if I dared react or turn around. I was a nice kid with nice parents and nice teachers all of whom exorted the bigger person schtik and ignoring and rising above it - yeah that cost a lot of mental health issues, not least believing that I deserved abuse. It would have been so very much better for me mentally for a lifetime to have turned around, lost it, and gone for those twerps, and made it clear I wasn't taking it and I was not someone to mess with. A detention and a call home would have been very cheap at the price.

I would be finding out where the parents lived and going postal on them and yes involve the police and the school again.

A male is touching your young daughter's breasts and you're worried the police might be taking it too far? No.

Why should she have to move class? The boy should be moved.

Why does it have to be anonymous?

I would 100% no question involve the police.
I've worked with adolescent boys who exhibit harmful sexual behaviour, and that is what this is!

It isn't age appropriate, it's without consent, it's repeated... it's absolutely essential that this is dealt with properly before it can turn into anything more serious.
And from what you've said the school cannot deal with it properly.

I'm so sorry your daughter has been going through this.

I would ring local police non urgent line anonymously and ask for advice being he is over 10 he’s now considered old enough to commit a crime

Totally agree with previous posters. This is an urgent police matter. The school had an opportunity to resolve it and haven’t taken it.

Failure to do something now just teaches your daughter than she isn’t in charge of her body.

I'd encourage your daughter to go nuclear on him personally... And also go to the police.

The lad is 11 - he's criminally responsible.