Boy 'accidentaly' touching my daughter at school

They may be able just to talk to him and tell him why his behaviour is wrong. They msy also inform him of the consequences if he continues, worth a shot, no one else seems to be doing what's needed

We had a similar incident happen although DD was older and in secondary school. There were multiple incidents of touching especially on the bum and chest. School acted like they were talking it seriously but clearly nothing was done.
DD was a brown belt in kickboxing and I told her to use one of her kicks on him next time he touched her. She eventually did because she was fed up.
School tried to punish her but we kicked up a massive fuss said we'd go to the governors, name and shame on social media (the school not the boy) and reminded them how many times DD had told them he was harassing her. They dropped the punishment pretty quickly after that.
Go all out to protect her. If he's allowed (as he feels) to touch her then she's allowed to hit him as hard as she can. Presumably she can claim it's an accident as that's an acceptable excuse. If she doesn't feel able to do that then I think you need to go to the police. In any case ask her if she wants to do some form of martial arts as it might help her feel more confident.

Yes, they will totally be thinking they can ride this out till the end of the term and then it's not their problem any more... OP, if you don't get a satisfactory response, then you can contact Ofsted.

Like fuck is that accidental. That is deliberate repeated sexual assault. Your poor daughter. It is past time to go nuclear at the school. Email, so it is in writing. Title the email "Repeated sexual assault of my daughter in school". Demand that they inform you of the safeguarding plan that will ensure this never happens again in their care, and state that if there is any repeat you will call the police. And follow through.

Unless you’re in Scotland 10 is the age of criminal responsibility so police are absolutely appropriate. It’s sexual assault and l would inform the school that you have involved the police because by not taking action on your report they are condoning it.

I’d also take the opportunity to get something positive out of this for your DD. Teach her that her body is her own and no-one gets to touch her if she doesn’t want them to. Tell her to be assertive and not to be afraid to stop him, that it’s fine to make a fuss if he does it again - push him away and shout for him to stop, thereby also letting others know what’s going on.

it sounds to me as though a visit from the local police would do the little shit the world of good - scare the crap out of him.

Police. At the very least they should be knocking on his parents door and having a word if they don’t know, and if they’re decent people they’ll be horrified at the police being involved in their kid committing sexual assault.

I’ll add to this I also have a DS.

I would be telling him in NO uncertain terms it stops or I’ll be reporting him to the police myself.

once is accidental. Repeatedly is deliberate SA.

School can't ignore and dismiss the police like they have you and your daughter.

Time to report the assaults to the police.

Agree with other posters , I’d tell her to be as loud as she can , yell “ get away from me you little pervert “ and I’d escalate with the school, social work dept and the police

“Even in the middle of a lesson” - I’d say ESPECIALLY if in the middle of a lesson. Ought to get their attention

You have been too passive about this so far, not a good lesson for DD. Find your inner tigress, OP.

How would his teacher feel if she was being repeatedly touched, by this child, on her chest, leg or bum?

She is being sexually assaulted. The school should be protecting her and they like his parents if they have been informed are failing. I’m not sure of all the paths but it needs escalation and possible police involvement.

She shouldn’t have to shout, slap or bring any more attention, what should have happen is he should leave her alone. Please dont put any responsibility on her that she is doing something wrong by not reacting or shouting etc

Contact the Police. Your daughter is being assaulted and schools lax attitude is why it has continued. The school is part of the problem.

Why would reporting your DD being repeatedly sexually assaulted to the Police be "taking it to far"? Don't get it. If this continually happened outside school grounda then I'm sure you would! Shouldnt be any difference because it's happening at school.

Glad you’re going back to the school, OP. Agree with others that this is sexual assault and you need a face to face with the head immediately.

Make sure you read and refer to their safeguarding policy and ask for a specific plan to keep your DD safe. Ask them to confirm their next steps in writing. Go to the governors, police and LEA if they even hesitate to act.

she is being sexually assaulted, I agree go ballistic and tell school you will report to police if it happens again. Or report now.

Tell the Local Authority Education Department, Governors, and Police with assault charges against the boy and a massive safe-guarding failure against the school. If the child is a normal 11 year old, he knows NOT to do this and, especially since a tell off by the school didn't work, he deserves to be going through young offenders.

If there is something else there, like he has a serious disability which means he doesn't understand what he is doing is wrong, then the school need to be caring for him in a way that includes stopping this behaviour. One slip up, one second where a TA didn't catch him before he did it, ok even those looking after disabled people can slip up, more than one, their care and safeguarding procedures are majorly flawed which is their fault entirely!

These boys need to be told this type of thing in unacceptable. I would email the school about it to have a paper trail and escalate it if needed.
Dd had this at secondary when she was around 14. The boy was sitting beside her in class and kept touching her arm or her leg and she pushed his hand away but it was continuing. Teacher aware but not doing anything.
I told her next time shout loudly 'stop touching me' and get up and move. If the teacher isn't happy with her shouting then they could phone me.

It drives me mad how many excuses are made for these boys. You're not overreacting OP.

Next time call the police.

This. Whatever the school have done so far is not working. Reporting it to the police will mean social services will get involved and the boy will hopefully get whatever help he needs.

The school doing nothing and making excuses isn’t helping anyone. It’s not protecting the victims. And it’s not helping this boy, he will only escalate these sexual assaults as he gets older.

The only thing it’s doing is protecting the teachers from having to deal with difficult issues, unhappy parents and lots of paperwork .

Threaten police involvement - You would probably be doing the boy a favour nipping it in the bud

It’s bloody disgusting, weirdo, at 11 you know what’s right and wrong, and if he has issues, he shouldn’t be in that school then, where will it lead if he’s not stopped

Your poor daughter. I would be contacting the police immediately and going totally zero tolerance on the school.