Boy 'accidentaly' touching my daughter at school

@Starsugar can I ask where is your husband / your daughter's father in all this?

While I agree with others about raising merry hell at the school and / or talking to the police, there is a simple and straightforward way of dealing with this which is that an adult male (husband/father/brother even) has a "serious word" with this boy outside the school.

No.

Your daughter doesn’t need to do anything. She is a child and has told adults that she is being regularly sexually assaulted.

The adults have a duty to act to protect her.
If they can’t or won’t, then the police need to be involved. Your daughter has an absolute right to be safe at school. The boy’s issues are not your concern.

Also clearly the boy has issues which will not be resolved if this is swept under the carpet, so reporting at this age (when there is still a chance he can be taught to change his behaviour) is actually doing him a favour.

No-my daughter had a girl constantly touching her at nursey-I think she had SEN, and I don't blame the chlid, but it's up to the staff to intervene and they reaarnged things with the key workers. Not the same as a man touching you at work, as an adult with such profound needs would be unlikely to be in your workplace (at least not without a risk assessment), but it is definitely not something I'd let go-the nursey told me about it, as they should.

You are doing right to push school on this it is totally wrong, at the least he doesn’t understand boundaries and worst he could have been the victim of sexual contact and doesn’t understand either way your daughter is being assaulted and they are allowing it, they have a duty to keep her safe and to safeguard him too.

What has this been allowed to go on for a year?

This is obviously not 'accidental' and the school has done nothing which is totally unacceptable but I really think you should have acted much earlier on too.

At this stage I would involve the police.

This child is being repeatedly touched inappropriately and there is a serious lack of urgency in putting a stop to this.

Try and find out when it’s happening.

In class they shouldn’t be seated next to each other.

At break time, the lunch staff need to be aware.

I’m wondering if not all staff have been told and so it’s happening away from the class teacher.

Raise it with the headteacher and threaten to take it further.

100% agree with everyone else OP. School (and his parents, and police if necessary) need to nip this in the bud NOW - although they should have done so far earlier. It's only recently come out that one of the rapists in the Fordingbridge case had a history of sex offences going back to age 10 - this is exactly how their behaviour gets worse if not checked
Fordingbridge rapist had ‘history’ of sex offences

Once is an accident, more than that and it isn’t and needs action by the school.
Them saying he doesn’t mean to is really odd! I could understand it more if he has balance issues, visual impairment etc
I worked with a little girl who was visionally impaired and from small we had to teach her social spacing awareness (not standing toe to toe with people when talking, using her cane and not hands to feel her way etc) to avoid any potential awkward encounters. In this case I’m assuming because you’ve not mentioned any reason why this has happened, the boy in question is randomly doing it?
I have a son the same age and I’d be mortified if he was doing this, did the school say they had spoken to his parents and made them aware?!
It just sounds so odd that an 11 year old boy can keeping touching another child inappropriately and the school is washing their hands of it by saying it’s an accident.
I wouldn’t phone, I would email so your concerns are in writing and ask for a meeting with the designated safe guarding lead, which is usually a member of SLT.
Make it clear that it’s totally inappropriate, ask them how they are planning to manage the situation and that you will be reporting it to the police each time now so that every incident is logged.

Tell her to 'accidentally' punch him. Preferably below the belt. I'd go mental at the school for allowing repeated sexual assaults.

This is peer on peer abuse, ask to speak to the schools designated safeguarding lead

This is 100% a police matter.
Unfortunately in todays world there is no room for doubts.
Your child needs protecting.
That boy could be acting out from viewing porn.
Your child is entitled to be safe.
Hand it over completely to the police.
I'm so sorry.
Your poor little girl.

Shes not in a position to demand anything, that’s just stupid talk

In the case of sexual assault I think to demand a meeting with school where it is being allowed to happen is perfectly acceptable.

Police. One time, possibly, the school could have been left to deal with.

This is so far into unacceptable. And (genuinely without wanting to be unkind or an arse) you are wrong for having allowed this to continue for a year. A YEAR.

Police, maybe not tonight. But tomorrow. Keep her off school. Report it.

In addition to getting it dealt with, the school will be in shit loads of trouble.

OP has been in contact with the school nicely several times and they have done nothing to safeguard her daughter.

“demand”? How about request?

Report the assaults to the police.
Report the safeguarding failures to OFSTED.

I'm sorry your daughter and you are having to deal with this.

Brilliant. And I'm guessing he never bothered her again?

If he can't keep his hands to himself, she should slap him across the face. Worked a treat for me when I was being harassed, and worked for women in the Seventies. He'll never touch her again.

Go to the head teacher and say if this does not stop immediately you are going to the police. AND DO SO!!! Also say this boy obviously has few boundaries and should be monitored closely in his interactions with girls.

Agree the girl should be protected but this isn't the way to do it. It could escalate, his parents might turn violent , and in the eyes of the school it may turn it into an inter- family squabble, rather than something they are responsible for.

They are unlikely to react well, and he might take it out on her.

You find the parents and tell them to get the boy to leave your daughter alone.
it doesn’t matter what might be happening at home etc PROTECT your daughter.

I echo everyone else about it not being on and the school should be doing more to protect your child.

Just an FYI they're probably imminently going to be doing their sex education lessons as we're nearing the end of term so you don't want it to escalate.

Email the school with the safeguarding team on it.

Write it all out write how the school have continued to fail to protect her from repeated sexual assault on their premises and so on.

Mention the police as well. Make sure you call it that as well as touching someone’s breasts or bottom is exactly that.

paper trail.

Also she doesn’t get moved or miss out to keep her safe no no that’s victim blamey. He is the one moved from things.

I'm with everyone telling you they would call the police. 50% of child sexual abuse is from other children. He is in Year 6 and 10 is the criminal age of responsibility, he knows what he is doing, the school is not doing enough, and you as her parent need to do what she needs you to do. Emailing the school who are doing nothing is clearly getting nowhere. Make an online report and then someone will be in touch, then let the school know and the governers. They are giving this boy a free pass he is old enough now to know right and wrong. Wonder what else he will accidentally do as he gets older if this is not nipped in the bud.