Boy 'accidentaly' touching my daughter at school

Testing boundaries......how long before he moves on to intimate areas, trying to touch.
I have an idea, tell her to YELL !!! FIRE!!!!!! Because THIS IS WHAT IS TAUGHT IN TRAINING COURSES AS SHOUTING HELP DOES NO GOOD.!!!!!...Good Luck !

Forget the school and make a complaint of sexual assault to the police. That is what is happening.

At the very least they will visit the school and the boys home to talk with his parents.

That ought to fix it and focus everyones mind.

Our daughter had an incident once and - though minor on the grand scale - we took this robust option to show that we were not putting up with any shit from fellow pupils or the school.

Suggest getting everything in writing to head teacher, governors and safeguarding lead - ask for safety plan and say you will be going to the police - that is harmful sexual behaviour and your DD should never have to put up with it - if the child has issues/challenges which diminish his responsibility, that increasing the schools - safeguarding is for all kids.

Labelling it as sexual assault seems over the top too when the perpetrator is 10/11 years old.

Bollocks. It's assault, and it's sexual. What else would you call it?

Tell the school if it doesnt stop right now the police will be informed or jist get on and report the little pervert

Agree with this. Labelling it as sexual assault seems over the top too when the perpetrator is 10/11 years old.

I know.

It would be so much nicer if it wasn't necessary. But if the situation has been going on for a year and the school has its head in the sand ...

Maybe I’m psycho but I’d find his parents and have a word, to be honest I’d probably get DH to do it as he’s much more composed than me. Keep going to the school and kick up a real fuss. I’d also be telling my daughter to punch him next time he does it and that she will absolutely not get in trouble from me or her dad for doing so.

You are under reacting. I would not be sending my daughter to school until they had sorted this out.
Call the police. School are not dealing with it and it is assault.

1. Police. And email the school head, safeguarding lead, and governors as well. Tonight.

2. While your daughter is absolutely entitled to shout and to defend herself physically, this can be very hard to do - and the latter could be dangerous if it's outside class, because he will be stronger than her. And shouting and shoving is easy for staff to ignore or to both-sides. Get her a rape alarm and tell her to use it next time he touches her anywhere on her body or tries to do so.

Agree with all the above about pushing this until something is done to protect your daughter.

Also the boy is quite young, I'd be concerned he's been exposed to porn or abuse so he needs to be on someone's radar. You'll be protecting him by reporting to police or social services.

Organisation OP.

In writing to the school, the teacher, safeguarding lead, head and the governors.

They need to keep him away from her.

She needs self defence lessons - build her confidence up and if he comes near her again she is fully permitted to whack him.

Also- what about the Residential? Is she doing this? If so, ask the school for their Risk Assessment for avoiding sexual assault in the evenings. How will they keep this boy away from your daughter at night? Are the dorms on different floors (they usually are.) Will a member of staff be on duty all night?

This sounds like ‘child-on-child abuse’ there is reference to how schools should address this in statutory kcsie (keeping children safe in education) documentation.

Yes. A lot of Y6 now is just about getting to the end of the year. But this, this needs sorting out right fucking now. As a conscientious teacher, I am outraged. Your poor daughter.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/review-of-sexual-abuse-in-schools-and-colleges/review-of-sexual-abuse-in-schools-and-colleges#introduction

In my Y6 class this year, a boy touched a girl- with clear intent- on her chest. He was suspended for a few days. Secondary school informed. Parents told. Boy spoken to about how wrong this was, girl offered counselling. My school often lets things go, but on this the HT rightfully went ballistic.
I am normally an advocate of schools, and teachers, as I know how wrong parents can sometimes be with their thoughtless, ridiculous demands, but the situation you describe is outrageous. The school is failing their duty of care towards your daughter. You need to call the police. You need to demand the HT sorts this out. I would never normally recommend this either, but I'd even put a message on class Whatsapp- without naming the child- along the lines of 'X has an issue at school, being touched/groped at school. If anyone else has had the same with their daughter, please let me know.'
Tell your daughter to raise her voice if he tries it again. Stop touching me, STOP!
Ask the school to teach the lesson consent/unwanted touching on the Y6 PSHE Scarf scheme of work.
Whatever you decide, good luck.

Your DD is repeatedly being sexually assaulted. You call the police, Ofsted, the board of governors and the local authority. Do not delay. Sounds like the school is just hoping to get to the end of the school year and the boy won't be their problem anymore. The school is an absolute disgrace. The school is massively failing their safeguarding duties here.

Also get the school to have an assembly and to have the police come in to discuss rights and wrongs to all kids appropriately aged to understand. The school is a joke btw.

That’s a great way for the father to have the police called on him and really unwise.

Take it up with the school, the safeguarding lead, the governing body and if needs be the police. Taking the law into your own hands is best avoided.

@Starsugar Be prepared for meaningless noises from the school if they failed to deal with it before. If the boy and DD are separated make sure its the boy who is moved and disrupted, not DD.

Great idea for a grown man to intimidate a 10/11 year old boy

Op you have to take it as far as possible your dd is being assaulted in school which should be her safe space it’s not accidental it’s on purpose he probably knows it’s wrong but either way get your dd protected and if the police need to have words do that now. The school need a kick up the arse as well for allowing it. Contact the governors and council if it has them. Your poor daughter. Another boy starting early god knows what he will be like when he is older.

Show your daughter some self defence moves and how to give an excellent slap. Then she can practice saying it happened accidentally.