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Boy 'accidentaly' touching my daughter at school

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Starsugar · 10/06/2026 16:31

My daughter is 11 (Yr 6) and a boy in her year has been repeatedly touching her chest, elbow, leg, bum etc and claims it is an accident. This started about a year ago and I have been in touch with the school several times. It did stop for a long while, so I thought they must have resolved it, but now he has started doing it again and I fear he had just moved on to someone else in that time. My daughter does not like it and feels he is doing it on purpose. She is quite developed for her age, has her period and it makes her feel very uncomfortable. I have no idea whether this child has issues or what his home life is like. In my mind I just assumed the school would deal with it in the best way as they know the child. The school have down played this and have said he didnt mean to do it, but it keeps happening. They said they would split them up but this obviously hasn't happened. If this was happening to me at work it would not be acceptable and I dont want my daughter to experience this. Im not sure what the next step would be here, am I getting worked up over nothing?

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OrchardDoor · 10/06/2026 16:37

As the school are downplaying it maybe complain higher and say the school are allowing your dd to be regularly sexually assaulted

sheisforrealatiger · 10/06/2026 16:37

You are not over reacting. He needs to stop or be threatened with suspension.

Ablondiebutagoody · 10/06/2026 16:36

She needs to physically push him away or smack him, even in the middle of lessons whilst loudly saying "keep your hands to yourself". You have plenty of evidence that this is a long running problem so she shouldn't be punished.

Devilsmommy · 10/06/2026 16:36

Tell the school that if they don't do something sharpish you'll be getting the police involved for sexual harassment. That will light a fire under them if bet. No girl should have to put up with this shit at all. If your daughter isnt going to get in trouble with you then I'd tell her to smack him in the mouth next time he does it

Floppyearedlab · 10/06/2026 16:35

You need to talk to the safeguarding lead and demand a meeting with the class teacher and your daughter present.
This is not on

Erin1975 · 10/06/2026 16:35

If they were adults this would be sexual assault. The fact it has happened multiple times means it is not an accident. Whether or not the boy realises what he is doing the school need to take action.

I would be on the phone pronto and get a meeting with the teacher or headteacher to make sure they understand it is not acceptable and do something about it.

SecretSquirrelLoo · 10/06/2026 16:34

That’s sexual assault. Go ballistic.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/06/2026 16:32

How awful of the school. Keep kicking up a stink imo, and enrol your girl into self defence classes 🥺 (which you shouldnt have to even to). Yanbu x

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