Boy 'accidentaly' touching my daughter at school

This exactly. Escalate, do not tolerate.

Your daughter should knee him in the balls....accidentally of course.

This is a big red flag for a boy of this age to inappropriately touch her and the safeguarding lead of the school would/should have been informed. Seek advice from local family centres and tell the school you are doing this. The parents need to address this immediately, though part of my reaction is learned behaviour through home life but it may be outside the home the child has perceived it as acceptable.

Situations like this can be so much deeper and serious than a seemingly playful fumble.

You are not being unreasonable.

I know of a school that took a similar approach to this sort of behaviour and was put into special measures, as a result. And this is knowing from the inside, having spoken directly with the Headteacher at interview when she maintained that it was harmless.

It is not acceptable at any level. Take it further. Report it to Ofsted as a safeguarding concern. Ofsted will want to know.

Your poor daughter. Reinforce that she is absolutely meant to feel uncomfortable and angry at being on the receiving end of such behaviour. Do not downplay it with her or give her any reason to think she should concede in any way that this isn't serious. It is. We cannot normalise this in any way otherwise who knows what unwanted attention she will question as being acceptable in future.

The home life, additional needs whatever of the other child are irrelevant. One's freedom ends where it impacts on another's liberty.

I’d be going straight into that school and demanding action. If they don’t take this seriously, it needs to be reported to the police—this is sexual harassment, regardless of his age. It’s completely unacceptable.

Those voting 'unreasonable' might be because OP seems undecided about whether any action needs to be taken.

Its a sad indictment of society that women are socialised to just suck it up and not make a fuss, to the extent that mum's worry about protecting their daughters or even question whether they should.

Make the fuss! Its not your/her fault this is happening. Any consequences for the boy are entirely justified, do not feel guilty!

This is a HUGE safeguarding issue that needs reporting. The school are failing in their duty of care. Massively. Your poor daughter is being sexually assaulted. Report it. Please.

I don’t believe that you’re undecided about what to do. Ridiculous.

And Social Services under Safeguarding. I removed my daughter from a school over similar. Later I was in contact with the Safeguarding Team at Social Services over a different issue and mentioned what had happened. They were all over it and wanted to know.
That’s a route I wish I had thought of earlier.

Go to the police.

Responding here as a teacher of the same age group. The school is absolutely not doing their job in protecting your daughter. They have a duty of care towards your child. What is happening here is actually sexual assault. If they are not going to take their duty seriously then I would write a complaint to the school governors and make a referral/report to police myself.

Who the fk is the 1% that said the OP is being unreasonable?? Enablers of males who think they have the right to do what they want to females? Shame on you. If the school doesn't help go to the police. This behaviour needs stamped out now and forever. Girls and women are more vulnerable than ever. We are safe nowhere and if the school won't deal go elsewhere. At least your daughter tells you which is great. Protect her at all costs. ❤️

I would report to the police, then email the school to say due to a lack of action, you have had no choice but to report this to the police as the issue continues to persist. That should light a fire in them

How about raising it as a safeguarding with the local authority / social workers? You could even raise it against the school that they are a) failing to protect your daughter and b) presumably showing a lack of care and curiosity as to why this child is exhibiting these persistent worrying behaviours.

If you can afford it, hire an attorney to write a letter to the school. That should remove the molester from her classroom. It's worth the money. I had to get an actual restraining order against a boy because he would not stop harassing my daughter. When there are no consequences, they do whatever they want. I am so sorry your daughter has to endure regular harassment and the school is doing nothing. It's criminal or it should be, not just him, the school as well. They have a duty to protect her. I found a website, copied in below. Maybe it has something helpful.

Here is website I found :
enough.campaign.gov.uk/what-is-abuse/unwanted-touching

Id inform the school if it happens again youll report it to the police.

I'd be asking for a formal Victims Right to Review and looking at this page by Leigh Day, the collective letter of which says that schools that fail to address abuse may be in breach of equality law to see if you can find some helpful leverage.

I'd report to the police and ask for it to be investigated as an offence. Just because its at a schoo it doesn't make it less serious or not a crime.

I’d be accidentally touching him in a way he’d definitely find painful and unpleasant.

No fucking way! You think SHE should be punished by being moved away from her friends because of unwanted sexual assault??????

Similar thing at my daughters school, my daughter is also year 6. Was a girl touching other girls inappropriately, and when being told to stop she didnt. My daughter went mad amd other girls it had been happening to also then told staff members what had been going on.
There was like 8 kids it was happening to, police spoke to all us parents together. Then literally the other day the police called to say they dont want to bring criminal charges against an 11 year old, however social services are working with the family and also with the school to safeguard everyone including the perpetrator.
Also jad an email off the school yesterday outlining extra time to speak to all of year 6 about touching amd consent ect. Who to go to in school of anything like this happens again, and also that the perpetrator will be kept separate from victims and have adult supervision the entire school day.

I can understand if your dauhjrer isnt confident enough to kick up a fuss in the moment (my oldest would be too scared), but this happened with my youngest who is alot more confident and assertive.
So my advice would be to let the school know that you are not letting this go. Try and encourage your daughter to kick up a fuss in the moment if she has the confidence to do so. If she doesnt have the confidence contact EVERYONE DfE, governors, OFSTED, the police ect. Give the school no choice.
Find out if you can if he is doing this to any other child, or if any other child is witnessing it happening.

report to the police (former teacher here- the school will only take it seriously if you become ‘that’ parent to them- which doesn’t matter as you’re daughter will be leaving this year).

So if an 11 year old boy rapes someone it's not rape because he is 11?

When Jamie Bulger was killed by 10 year old boys, it wasn't murder because they were 10?

This boy is a child still. He needs the responsible adults in his life (including the SLT at his school) to be making it very clear that what he is doing is wrong and illegal. Hopefully that will stop him doing the same thing when he is older. It shouldn't be brushed aside.

The age for criminal responsibility in England is 10. Once someone that age commits a crime they need to be held accountable. Of course the punishment for a young person should reflect their age. They shouldn't be sentenced as a fully developed adult would be but there definitely should be consequences for anti social or illegal behaviour.

This is completely unacceptable. This is sexual harassment, sexual assault and sexual abuse. The teachers should've had Sexual Harassment Training in their Safeguarding Training this year.

I would explain to your DD that it is acceptable to scream/hit/make a fuss when this happens. I'd love to explain to the school that your DD may break his nose if this is allowed to continue as part of a natural reflex response. I've accidentally broken the nose of someone who was sexually assaulting me. This behaviour is extremely concerning in a Primary School aged child too. Are the school addressing where these behaviours are originating from?

This is definitely something that needs to be reported to the school DSL (Designated Safeguarding Lead). It's officially reportable to the Police too.

why not put him in a different class?