To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

I would have laughed. Most defintely would not have reported him. What the heck is the matter with people today. No sense of humour and complete and utter prudes. For goodness sake lighten up.

Sexual comments towards a stranger aren't appropriate, certainly not in a soft play. There's no excuse and OP didn't ask for it simply due to what happened.

Of course someone gets to decide that they don't want a sexual comment aimed towards them.

You’ll get a pile on saying this was a joke and to get over it, but I’d agree he should have been told to leave. We need to come down hard on all these comments by men every single time.
When my kids were toddlers, I was in a cafe and knelt down to tie it oldest son’s shoelace when a man at the next table open his legs a bit and said, “while you’re down there love” with a guffaw. I had a very loud reply, and they were asked to leave but only because I made a fuss and that cafe replied on mums with toddlers to earn it’s money.
It’s just men treating women as objects. It should be dealt with every time.

I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

I'm honestly bewildered by the attitudes on this thread. It's like we've fallen back into the sixties, where a sexual comment/joke towards a woman – in an entirely non-sexual context – was expected to be taken as a compliment and appreciated by the little lady.

These sorts of attitudes just help to support casual sexual harassment.

What OP did was accidental and she apologised. A sexual comment is deliberate.

It's bizarre that you don't see the difference.

I think he tried to ease up an embarrassing moment by making a joke. I would have laughed out loud because it was quite funny.

Of course I see the difference, but you don't get to decide how people react to your carelessness. He chose risque humour as a direct response to what happened, not as a random unsolicited comment. It's bizarre that you ignore the context.

But we’re all different aren’t we ? What’s the end game here ? That we’re all conditioned to respond in the same way and spontaneity is erased lest it cause offence ? So we all end up vanilla. What a depressing thought.

It’s funny how the views I got on my local Facebook community page when I shared this last night differ to here. Most were outraged and concerned such a comment was made to me.

What OP did was accidental and she apologised. A sexual comment is deliberate.

It's bizarre that you don't see the difference.

What OP did was accidental and she apologised. A sexual comment is deliberate.

It's bizarre that you don't see the difference.

Does this mean banging your (male or female) arse in someone's (male or female) face is entirely normal and any indication of amusement/anger/whatever should not be tolerated?

No. As I don't spend much time around misogynist pricks. No one I know likes to make sexual jokes to women they've never met.

I would have laughed, told my husband afterwards and he would have laughed too.

I'm sorry but I feel embarrassed for you that you went and told staff.
It was just a bit of banter. I'm not surprised no one is allowed to say anything these days. Peoples sense of humour has just gone these days. Sorry OP.

A polite sorry on her part (which she gave), and a 'no worries' on his part, along with an awkward chuckle at the situation, is more what I'd expect. Not a joke about how if he'd known he'd get an arse to the face he'd have gone there months ago.

A polite sorry on her part (which she gave), and a 'no worries' on his part, along with an awkward chuckle at the situation, is more what I'd expect. Not a joke about how if he'd known he'd get an arse to the face he'd have gone there months ago.

Op all but sat on this guy’s head! Of course he was going to react in some way.
He didn’t just stroll up to her and make the joke out of a clear blue sky.

Yeah bet he engineered that didn’t he, I mean he was loitering for hours waiting for an opportunity!

Op all but sat on this guy’s head! Of course he was going to react in some way.
He didn’t just stroll up to her and make the joke out of a clear blue sky.

I'm saying that the sort of men who make unwanted sexual jokes are misogynistic pricks, and I don't spend time with them.

Funnily enough, I can have a great laugh about all kinds of crass things...but in the context of a relationship where we both know the joke is welcomed. Not to absolute strangers.

It’s funny how the views I got on my local Facebook community page when I shared this last night differ to here. Most were outraged and concerned such a comment was made to me.