To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

Also think this is funny. Honestly - the humourless complaining about light hearted conversations during a slightly awkward moment aren’t making anyone’s life easier.

I can see both sides of this. He made a joke because you did put your backside in his face. It could have been that he got offended or even made a point of putting you in your place. What if he didn't make a joke and said " you need to be more careful and look where you're going as putting your bottom in someone's face could result in a sexual assault complaint". How would you have felt about that? What if he'd gone to complain and you were asked to leave for an accident? How would you're child have responded to that? He apologised, realised his error and is unlikely to say something like that again.

My husband makes jokes when he's embarrassed and I can imagine how upset he would have been if that happened to him. It would probably knock his confidence for engaging with people in public spaces.

That being said, raising it as inappropriate was brave and if comments come across as inappropriate and sexual, men do need to be put in their places and that what happened. Move on

Yep. 18 is an adult. It can be difficult to establish, purely from appearance, one's age, and so it is common practice to approach with caution if unsure.

As for why it's ok to say it to an adult but not a teenager... Teenagers are children. Children don't have the same ability as adults to understand the nuances of language, because they are not yet mature enough. It seems you have not yet matured to that point, either.

I'm more concerned with why the woman thought it was ok to shove her arse in this guy's face. Someone so concerned about a potential sexual inference should be far more careful where she puts her hiny. Maybe the bloke has been on the receiving end of unwanted attention, in the past, and now struggles with women's arses. Perhaps he was exceptionally uncomfortable and nervous, and tried to lighten the situation but has gone home deeply disturbed by the position she put him in.

Why are you so concerned about what he said as a reaction to having a woman's arse in his face?

I agree.

And on top of that, he did apologise. Why the need to go further and remove him? He didn't come near you again did he? In fact probably stayed well clear of your protruding posterior.

I also think this. I think the op doesn’t often get comments like this and she’s rushed around telling as many people as she can, from the staff to face book to here.

but some of the comments on here are wild. People are going far too far. Accusing this man of all sorts.

it was clearly an inane comment to an embarassing moment, an off hand comment too, simply in reaction to the situation.

id suggest the op is more careful in soft play in future, looks where she’s going, so she avoids shoving her arse in men’s faces.

So many strangers will have clicked your profile page to check to see if they can spy your bottom

She got 92% YABU probably because other people who wouldn’t have found the comment funny still found her response to it complete overkill. Way over the top

Oh sorry, I hasn't read this before commenting. Basically snap!

Did you consider that you put him in a uncomfortable situation?

You, a stranger, put him in a physically awkward position with an intimate party of your body (I appreciate you say it was an accident and I take your word for it) and he tried to make light of it in response.

People react to uncomfortable situations with deflecting humour all the time and don't always have perfect reactions when confronted with it.

I'm not sure your perpetrator-victim axis is in entirely the right balance.

This is so much worse than the OP!

I’m sorry, but the mindset behind wanting this bloke kicked out is a massive overreaction.

By your own admission, you were the one climbing down without checking. It was a complete accident, but you initiated the physical contact.

Now look at the reverse scenario, imagine if he had been the one to back into you, put his body inches from your face, and then demanded you be kicked out of the center because he didn't like how you reacted to the awkwardness. It’s completely backwards.

You are in soft play, where adults are forced to squeeze past strangers. Have some thick skin, physical contact is pretty much guaranteed.

His comment was a spur of the moment attempt to laugh off an awkward situation that you caught him off guard with so nobody felt weird about it.

If 2 blokes or 2 women bumped into each other like that, they’d laugh about getting up close and personal. But because it’s a man and a woman, a joke about an accident you caused is suddenly treated as a serious safeguarding issue?

The staff did exactly the right thing. He admitted what he said, confirmed it was a joke, and apologised. Expecting a parent to be thrown out and humiliated in front of their kids over it is wild.

Honestly, without the internet, this whole post wouldn’t even exist, and neither would this hypersensitive mindset.

In the real world, you'd roll your eyes, forget about it by the time you got to the car, and move on. But today, everyone has a burning need to run to social media, desperate to have their outrage validated by strangers online to convince themselves they were the victim.

Read the room, accept responsibility for the awkward bump, and just move on. Life's much better this way 😀

I'm sorry but when you are a parent... You literally have to be able to laugh things off... He was trying to make it cool and less awkward ... I would have died laughing at this comment... I don't see the issue and if you can't laugh at this hilarious friendly batter.. after a completely awkward situation... Dang... You have a long road ahead of you being a parent... And spoiler alert you are going to spend it pretty much pissed off, not letting stuff go, & making posts about it all.

Wales and Scotland have had em for years. No outrage at all. Less smelly bins. Win, win, win, win, win!

The country is definitely doomed if 92% will vote Reform as 92% on this thread have said that the OP is being unreasonable.

blimey, that's an interesting take ! I've missed all these sexualised Reform supporter comments -please enlighten us

Yes, that is true - and a good distinction drawn between the two situations.

I was really only commenting in jest though.

I think it is easy to be too serious about this. OP accidentally did something we all would find faintly embarrassing both on her end and his receiving end, and I don't think trying to be light-hearted was too unreasonable as an on the spot response from him. He possibly veered into poor taste but I think it was the awkwardness of the moment. I really don't see a pervy creep in this.

That would have made me laugh too 😂😂

He was still in a state of trauma after encountering said bum, so he can’t be held accountable for his immediate response

If she had shoved her bum in his face as a joke on purpose then it would be the same situation but she didn't. It was an accident and she apologised.

Of course someone gets to decide that they don't want a sexual comment aimed towards them.

What about a bum aimed towards them?

Sexual comments towards a stranger aren't appropriate, certainly not in a soft play.
😂Aaah... just when I think I'm getting sick of MN a gem like this lands.

There are mixed opinions on here as a woman in my late 40's I would have possibly found it amusing depending on how it was said and my mood. I guess we grew up at a time we would get wolfwhisltled from a building sight, so anything like that I would take it in a light hearted way. I think the next generation down wouldn't be used to things like that and that things are not accepted like years ago. I am interested to see age of the people making comments and of it's to do with being raised in a different time

I'm coming with you.

This thread has made it to FB by the way. There are some belting comments on there. 🤣

If OP deliberately put her arse in his face then I would agree but she didn't. He didn't accidently make a sexual comment.