To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

It sounds like you would have complained about him if he had have struck his ass in your face. He couldn't win. But basically you stuck your ass in his face. He was nice about it. You want him to be in trouble.

Sorry but you are being completely unreasonable and over sensitive. There are many women who have ACTUALLY been SA’d or worse and you’re moaning about some silly comment someone happened to say as a joke? Probably as a result of embarrassment and trying to break any possible tension? Honestly, get over yourself 🙄

@Neverwatchedgameofthrones OP’s action was accidental, the man had control over what words came out of his mouth

Hypothetical question: there is a workplace event involving coming up/going down a ladder, eg, a team building event or a site visit to a power plant, etc. The female Head of HR or the female CEO is going down the ladder. Unbeknownst to her, a male colleague is coming up the ladder at the same time. He says that if he knew this visit included him getting an arse in his face, he would have visited months ago. Is the reaction:
a) stern from HR.
b) laughed off as a harmless joke, and if the CEO is not happy about that, she’s told to lighten up.

It's unsavoury sure. But you were the one who made him uncomfortable first. You didn't mean to? Neither did he.

And then yo say the people on facebook agreed with you haha, of course they did that's what facebook is for isnt it? People who can't manage their big feelings and need external validation?

Grow up.

Sorry but you have overreacted. This was just jokey and diffusing embarrassment. It’s really sad that nobody is allowed a sense of humour any more.

Pull your self together! How ridiculous, what a huge overreaction

defo being unreasonable, it’s just a joke to cover an awkard situation! What a horrible scene that would have been to kick him out, presumably his child would have to go with him. What would kicking him out achieved?

What I find very concerning is the women on here calling out women with different view as dick pleasers! Revolting!

But some people have commended her for reporting it. It is asking for him to be removed from the venue that seems OTT.

What I find quite concerning, is not that other women found this comment funny, but some posters on here are telling OP she is wrong for not finding it funny and that she obviously doesn't have a sense of humour. Isn't that the bullshit women have had to put up with from men for years, telling us the reason we don't find their sexualised banter funny is our fault because we don't have a sense of humour. Yes this comment may be at the lower end of the scale but OP didn't appreciate it, and it was sexual in nature.

I would have found this quite funny.

If they turn out anything like their father, they'll be very well-read feminists 🤷🏼‍♀️

With a great sense of humour.

😂😂😂

She wasn’t expected to be complimented or pleased - he used humour to diffuse an embarrassing situation. Just a shame he picked someone with no sense of humour.
i was rushing at work the other day and ran straight into a bloke from another department. I got a fright and said “fuck Greg) as he was lurking. He then replied ‘best offer I’ve had all day’. Cue a lot of awkwardness and blushing and apologising from him and me and we went our separate ways. I feel no need to go to HR or make a deal of it as it wasn’t creepy or threatening. It was a tip of the tongue comment. In fact I’d forgotten about it until I read this thread

I can't make any promises 🤣

😂

You make such ridiculous assumptions.

All because you have to defend men making sexual comments, against someone who is merely saying 'that's inappropriate and unnecessary'. Well, I suppose I know how your sons or daughters will turn out, if you're in such strong favour of men making unsolicited sexual comments without censure.

I'm going to very slowly back away, now...

Mind where you put your arse! 😉🤣

I'm going to very slowly back away, now...

And hope for your daughters that they are not so damaged by your beliefs that they struggle to function in society or form healthy relationships.

Seriously, he was laughing off what was an uncomfortable situation. And this kind of reaction is what is wrong with the world right now...christ. Enough internet for me today.

Are you going to be writing a letter to The Times about it as well ? 🤣

Yes. I think it is easy to underestimate the effect feeling a bit silly or awkward can have on us.

I remember as an awkward teen being at someone's house with my friend and her older brother and their large dog came up and planted its muzzle right in my crotch and started sniffing deeply. Of course, at that age I was deeply mortified but tried to pass it off as a bit of a laugh and said something with a casual laugh to her older brother along the lines of "I suppose he's following your example there." I nearly died after the words came out of my mouth; it wasn't particularly true of this guy but I had just been left flailing trying to keep my teenage cool, say something offhand and seem like I had not been flustered. But I really wish I hadn't said it. It was totally out of character. Thankfully I think her mum was understanding and I was neither asked to apologise nor remove myself from the premises.

I think we need to give people a bit of slack when feeling awkward.

It wasn't a sexual comment.

The OP literally stuck her arse in this face and he made a stupid joke about it.

That's it.

"We're so past sexism that now it's okay to be sexist!"

Hm.

Clearly the misogyny is just too ingrained for you to grasp the idea that a man might refrain from making a sexual comment to a woman he doesn't know.