To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

She did. Can no one read? I challenged him and then reported to staff.

She also apologised for accidentally putting her bottom near him I said a polite sorry

Tbh it’s more than I’d have done which is laugh awkwardly and felt embarrassed which is what it was designed to do.

Fuck me, lighten up.

I’ve just answered this above. I would address directly. And not rely on national minimum wage employees to do my dirty work for me.

You seem lovely. Thanks for your input.

Actually it’s the progressive left that have normalized a highly sexualised, exploitative culture through promoting kink, reframing strangling women as breath play, reframing racism as sexualised ‘race play’, defending the exploitation of women through prostitution as ‘sex work’, and destroying women’s basic rights to bodily autonomy, privacy and dignity by attempting to destroy women’s sex based spaces. So if you want to make a political point from this, you really need to take a good hard look at the progressive left.

I'm interested in hearing the answer to that as well.

It’s absolutely appropriate to report behaviour you feel uncomfortable with to the staff at the establishment. I wouldn’t have personally but suggesting the OP was wrong to do so and immature is really out of order.

It is all in the same sort of category. It’s only a wolf whistle; page three is just a harmless laugh; I’m only joking don’t you know, don’t be so touchy. That’s at one end of the extreme and the problem with ‘harmless’ comments is that it blurs the lines. Sexual comments should just be a no unless you’re 100% sure someone’s OK with that.

Did he report you for shoving your arse in his face ?

Well, without the word salad, if I were offended, I would actually say so, directly, to the other human being. It’s how I live my life. I find it serves me well. I also find that plain English helps.

I'm normally quite sensitive to these things but I honestly think that was not so bad. It really depends if he said it in a self-mocking kind of way that still gave you the upper hand (in which case I would probably have laughed) or whether it was delivered with a pervy wink (gross and definitelyin sexual harrasment territory). Only you know the answer to this.

And who do you vote for? Let's hope it's not Greens who think it's OK for men to pretend to be women and go into women's changing rooms or Kier who doesn't know the difference between a man and woman, let alone care about our safety. The irony of the left.

As a courageous adult how would you have tackled this offence without the offensive recourse to complaining that our op resorted to, you’ve officially outdone the aggrieved op and proven that you’re morally superior already. Tell us how you’ d tackle the abomination of the arse joke. It’s a teaching moment.

That's a stretch.

That’s a much worse comment.

Not just you, I cringe every time I see it on here.

The thread is fascinating as it shows how as a society we just accept sexualised comments to women while we absolutely don’t accept other ‘isms.’

I don’t actually blame the man, it’s a cultural thing, but people tee heeing about it - it really isn’t funny.

As an adult woman, and not a ‘cool girl’, I would have had the courage of my convictions to tackle someone I believed to have made a sexual joke towards me directly. I would not have been so callow as to run off to the national minimum wage staff to ask them to do my dirty work. OP, if you believe it, then own it.

I would have said that if you had done that to me. Jeez it's clearly a joke

😂

I would have laughed. Most defintely would not have reported him. What the heck is the matter with people today. No sense of humour and complete and utter prudes. For goodness sake lighten up.

Crikey, definitely don’t escalate to RUNNING!

I know right…I mean, we’re not even allowed to say the n-word anymore. It’s political correctness gone mad. Nobody’s allowed to say ANYTHING racist or sexist anymore. We’re forced to walk around being serious and can’t laugh anymore at the racist and sexist banter. What is the world coming to?

I don’t think we need to escalate to rimming, do we? 😂

Obviously it’s a sexual joke. I’m saying it’s not necessarily a reference to a specific sexual act, since it was also a description of what happened.

How would you have felt if he’d reported you for putting your arse in his face?

Would you have felt it appropriate for you to be asked to leave?

Soft plays are always uncomfortably close range to complete strangers.

Exactly! Or a prostituted woman. Commodifying and dehumanising. I don't care if that makes me uptight/uncool/a banterless harridan from the 70s.

It's a fucking soft play! Who's thinking about their cock in soft play? The shittest grossest men, that's who. His comment was absolutely not a compliment to her. I don't want to ease the path for grotesque men, I'm very happy to make them uncomfortable.