To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

I think it was unfair to go to staff over something so trivial. Its not their job to police conversations between grown adults.

I disagree.

as a woman I would have said similar to a male or female if I was the one with an arse plonked in my face.

But that’s the issue imo. It’s always assumed because it’s a man it’s sexualised. Rather than realising there is plenty of woman (as evidence by this thread) that have a similar dry sense of humour.

I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

It seems you are in the minority…I’ll have to accept that making a facesitting comment in front of kids is perfectly normal next time I go 🙄

Is it just me that finds the ‘cool girl’ insult misogynistic? As if there is a pre approved response that respectable women should give and those of of us that don’t conform are somehow lacking in morals?

Well, you spoke to the staff, who spoke to him and he apologised and asked the staff to convey that to you.

I think it was dealt with okay tbh. Good for you for reporting the comment and good for the staff for address it with him.

If he's a halfway decent bloke, he'll be a lot more cautious with his 'jokes' in future.

91% of us are 'cool girls' then.

Ridiculous phrase 🙄

Honestly I think it's just the kind of thing someone might say to make light of the situation without intending to sexually harass anyone.
You could have told him yourself if you found it offensive and the staff did warn him so sounds like it was handled fine.

I'm thinking it’s best you decline any hen party invites you might get…. ptsd would on the horizon.

Because attention was drawn to her arse in a sexual way? i.e. the idea of paying for it in his face?

Can you see how that coming from a random man might possibly make a woman feel a bit uncomfortable?

I’m with you OP. I’d probably have cried and left. What a disgusting sense of humour this man has.

You would’ve cried and left? You need to consider getting some resilience!

OP it's not funny or appropriate. I'm with you.

All the cool girls on this thread are unbelievable.

It seems you are in the minority…I’ll have to accept that making a facesitting comment in front of kids is perfectly normal next time I go 🙄

The thread is fascinating as it shows how as a society we just accept sexualised comments to women while we absolutely don’t accept other ‘isms.’

I don’t actually blame the man, it’s a cultural thing, but people tee heeing about it - it really isn’t funny.

I’m with you OP. I’d probably have cried and left. What a disgusting sense of humour this man has.

You’ll get a pile on saying this was a joke and to get over it, but I’d agree he should have been told to leave. We need to come down hard on all these comments by men every single time.
When my kids were toddlers, I was in a cafe and knelt down to tie it oldest son’s shoelace when a man at the next table open his legs a bit and said, “while you’re down there love” with a guffaw. I had a very loud reply, and they were asked to leave but only because I made a fuss and that cafe replied on mums with toddlers to earn it’s money.
It’s just men treating women as objects. It should be dealt with every time.

It's not funny. It was inappropriate. He should have been asked to leave. It's seems like men's worsening sexualised behaviour is just increasingly excused, especially by Reform supporters.

Other ‘isms’ are usually meant as a derogatory insult. This situation is different because it was an awkward situation initiated by the woman in question not looking where she was going.

That's pretty funny and not really that offensive. Fair enough he has somewhat objectified women but it's hardly crime of the year.