To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

I’m with you OP. It’s not funny and it’s not appropriate.
Would he have said the same to a man?

I don't know why everyone is saying that the OP 'shoved her arse' in the man's face. I suggest you reread the OP. She says she was climbing down backwards while the man was climbing up. It's not an unusual or embarrassing situation in itself and happens all the time at soft play. There was absolutely no reason at all for him to make a joke to 'lighten the tension' or whatever people are saying. He had been perving on her arse and made an inappropriate sexual comment.

If the OP had slipped and landed on the man's face then I can understand a jokey comment of this type, but that's not what happened.

Bloody hell it wasn't out of blue .op didn't look where she was going stuck her arse in the man's face.he made a stupid joke she runs crying to staff like a 6 year old telling tales .it was her fault for not looking .not everyman is a pervert you know talk about ott
post christ who burned your toast

You’re right! The poor man! He could have just said ‘no problem’ but he felt he needed to make a sexual joke about op’s arse in his face just to be able to cope. Who will think of the men in the world

Its clearly a joke but perhaps inappropriate with a women who is a stranger to the joke teller. A female friend or colleague, who had a relationship with the man already, might have found it funny.

Honestly you are the one who sat on his face, if anything you should have been asked to leave for being inappropriate with him. Poor chap must have been embarrassed and tried to make light of the situation. In poor taste on your part to go complain. What if it had been the other way around?! You should have apologised and then moved on.

I'm embarrassed for you, I really am

When you say you’re in fear of what will come up, It’s that a double entendre?

”goes and sits on naughty step”

I wouldn't find it funny but it would be ridiculous to tell him to leave. He's apologised. Get a grip.

I’m sure I’ve seen exactly this scenario on here before, but I dare not google mumsnet softlpay arse for fear of what will come up.

I agree. Whilst I wouldn’t have wanted my DH to make the comment directed at the OP, I found it harmless compared to the comment made to @SnappyQuoter. I’m not completely sure why I find them so different but I do.

I’d have laughed and I’m all for calling out men behaving like dicks.

He apologised, I’d have moved on and not thought any more of it.

The key word in all of that was ‘micro’ - mountain out of a mole hill. It was a joke.

He would have suffocated if he bumped into my bum going down as he was coming up😂

The mental gymnastics are outstanding!

This is such a hard one because on the one hand he was trying to lighten the mood and make fun of the silly situation you were in and it’s objectively quite funny. On the other, if we don’t call out these micro instances of objectification then the bigger ones get through and we are stuck. The way women’s bodies are seen as fair game, the site of jokes posts into a wider narrative of sexism and misogyny and whilst its easy to scoff and say you’re over reacting, where do we draw the line? When does it become not ok? Is it contextual? Does it depend on your age/attractiveness as to how much of a ‘joke’ it was? I think everyone telling you to unclench is being unfair really. You weren’t happy with the situation and that’s important.

Aw, how naice!

That sounds very much like a 'you' problem rather than a 'them' problem ('them' being the soft play staff). By all means give the man what for if you're really that bothered, but you can't expect the staff to act as judge, jury and executioner every time somebody gets a bit upset with somebody else over not much.

No I haven’t. I don’t think he should have been kicked out either.

But I also don’t think it’s funny or something to be laughed off when men make sexual jokes at women

Not really, women can like arses too, they can also make jokes

It’s not really the same is it, she did put her arse in his face. It was a joke, the majority of people would have found it funny or not been bothered.

You've turned a man who made a daft joke into a monster!

69 tee hee

I’d have laughed too OP, and can’t believe people are saying he should be banned from soft play. Glad that common sense prevails and the vast majority of posters wouldn’t have been offended!