To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

It was an embarrassing incident for you and he tried to make light of it, he could have been very offended by getting some strange woman's arse in his face.

And other women are not fine with it.

You do know that our feelings are equally valid don’t you?

Plenty of women on this thread DO feel fine with it, it was a joke. Suggesting it’s the same as a man making sexual comments at a child is ridiculous

Because when you look back in history, the majority have always been on the right side?

No, because that's how laws/rules are made.

Having a bum in your face and someone sitting on your face are two very different things.

i don’t think the man was suggesting that he’d have come to softplay sooner if he’d known the £10 entry fee covered the chance to perform cunnilingus.

I’m a big fan of ‘if you have to exaggerate to make your point, you might not have a point’

Because when you look back in history, the majority have always been on the right side?
I think the message here is that she was humiliated. He made an unwanted comment that she (and plenty of others) on this thread have felt was inappropriate and sexual.
Yes we may be in the minority and - as others have tried to assert - have no sense of humour but this sort of humour is just not funny if someone is left humiliated.

The concept of payment doesn't make something sexual or not sexual though. Appreciate your point about different perspectives on banter, but if we're going to start talking about reporting people/getting people banned from places then we should take the majority definition, surely.

Well he mentioned payment in exchange for having her bum in his face so yes I’d say so. Some people may see it so, others may see it as banter.
It’s a bit like when someone makes a shitty comment to you and you object and they pull out the “I was only joking” retort. One persons banter is another persons bullying.

How do we know it was sexist? I work out at an 'all men's' (bodybuilder-focused) type gym and I hear the fellas saying this sort of thing to one another often.

Sorry OP, I think you need to lighten up. I may have said something similar to you if it was me. He was making light of a situation in which you may have felt awkward, he wasn't saying 'oooh lovely arse, shove it nearer!'

Does this really even count as a sexual comment? It was a comment about a body part. He didn't actually mention sex.

Then it will have done the trick and he might think twice in future before he speaks.

The OP seems to have been pretty embarrassed by what he said to her so I can’t really care that the bloke that caused it might them feel uncomfortable.

@Playcomment it could have been him making a sexual harrassment complaint for you sticking your bum in his face.

Instead he saw the funny side and made a joke of it.

Had it been the other way round and his bum or crotch ended up in your face would you have made a complaint or laughed it off?

Massive overreaction! The poor bloke was probably mortified when the staff had a word.

Why thank you. I love an achievement.

In all seriousness though, do you honestly not see why it’s extremely inappropriate for a man to make an unwanted and uninvited sexual comment to a woman who is a stranger to him? I’ll add here that it’s probably exacerbated by it being a child centred setting - so a (presumably) dad spending time with his children thinks it ok to still do the sexual innuendos when he should be concentrating on his kids.

I’m asking seriously now because I feel genuinely so despairing at how many people on this thread think it’s just a joke that women should be fine with and if we aren’t we have no sense of humour.

I'm a bit surprised at everyone saying it's fine and funny, I don't think that it was funny at all. Such a weird thing for him to say at a soft play. I would have been really weirded out if it had happened to me and I think you're courageous to challenge him in the moment, OP

Men can't do right for doing wrong these days . Op I should imagine the degenerate will have been suitably humiliated and felt like a pervert when staff spoke to him about this heinous crime ,I really dont think he needed to be removed ,next you will want him on he sex offenders register 🙄 ridiculous nonsense .

He made a joke to an adult woman, of course it would have been 100% different he if made that same joke to a child. Don’t be so daft. Probably the silliest comment on this thread.

It’s no more acceptable to make an unwanted and uninvited sexual comment to a woman who is a stranger than it is to a child.

Agree, and furthermore, things like this are why people in the real world don't take women seriously when they report actual harassment.

Oh it gets worse: we are "tradwife handmaiden Tatelicking ‘boys will be boys’ bots" because we don't hate men. We must immediately assume everything that comes out of a man's mouth has the worst possible motivation. Even when it is a humorous response to an awkward situation.

The "Karen" meme is also misogynistic but the report it to the manager types are certainly trying to live up to it.

Can you stretch any further!

Presumably (hopefully) the man was accompanying a child or children, so the staff were probably aware that removing him would have caused upset for them too - imagine being little and your dad explaining that you've got to put your shoes on and leave the soft play early because he's made an inappropriate comment to someone, it would be awful so the justification for staff doing that would need to be strong.

If the comment had been more serious then that might well have been proportionate, but in this case it sounds like a clumsy attempt to diffuse the tension and the fact he's been spoken to and apologised might make him think twice next time.

I find it strange you wanted to report this. Yabu.

Me too. Why are people so lacking in humour these days? (actually it's not people so much as MNers, who are oh so boring serious.

Bonkers to faff about. Sorry.