To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

Sorry I would have laughed and may also have said something similar!

Maybe your arse being close to his face made him feel uncomfortable but knew it wasn’t a deliberate act so was trying to make a joke of it to avoid awkwardness. He also may have tried to make a joke of it so you didn’t accuse him of trying to put his face near your arse in an inappropriate way? Men can’t be too careful now a days so sounds awkward all round. Feel sorry for him that you put your bum near him that you felt the need to apologise, he made a joke of it and then he was told off by staff! Actually feel sorry for him.

Im sorry you felt uncomfortable too but actually the guy was just playing on soft play with his kids…

I mean yeah, it’s a little weird of a comment to a stranger, but it’s a joke. I would of laughed and carried on with my day not report him.

He made an awkward joke to try and finish an awkward situation … hardly a sexualised comment.

Its exactly the same

As she was climbing down onto him maybe he could have sighted harassment. OP could then have been the one to be removed!

Ahhh the mysogony is coming from inside the house. Women defending perverts due to conditioning is sad and damaging and perpetuates rape culture. Get underneath your conditioning or your children are doomed

Get a grip seriously its funny and a joke

That’s very different. It really also depends how the man said this to OP. Some things can still be a harmless joke.

Oh come on … your over-reaction is ridiculous.

Lighten up, for Gods sake.

There is an enormous difference between "not funny" and "predatory and should be banned."

I know men who would 100% have made that kind of joke to each other. I also know women who would have said that, either to men or to other women.

I’d also have found this funny , I can’t imagine reporting it never mind wanting the guy chucked out, it was clearly a joke, yes inappropriate and yes he hugely misjudged, but hardly something worthy of hysteria.

One was an accident. The other was a deliberately aimed comment.
Had he been coming down as she went up and they accidentally connected, I’m fairly sure she’d have been fine with it had he apologised as she did to him.

If it had been the other way round and he had put his arse in her face I'm sure he would still be getting stick for it, the op would probably have reported him for sexual assault, rather than trying to laugh it off.

Are you using “some people” to mean me? If so, please do just say so. No need to stand in ceremony being passive aggressive here. 🤣

I’m fully grown thanks. I just don’t find “jokes” like this man had aimed at OP funny. We do all have different senses of humour (and different boundaries as well) and if not finding this funny makes
me a humourless old prude, I accept that with pride.

I think it was inappropriate but he was probably embarrassed too. It's just not something to make a big deal out of and expecting the staff to throw him out of the soft play is beyond ridiculous. Some people need to grow up.

Why, do you think that’s as bad as making a sexual comment to a child too?

I have an issue with women telling the OP and other who agree with her that she needs to lighten up, it’s just a joke, it was her fault that she “shoved” her arse in his face, that she’s overreacting etc etc.

A stranger said something to her that was uninvited and inappropriate and she felt embarrassed enough to both challenge him on it as well as to tell the staff. And yet she should lighten up, see it is a joke, she has no sense of humour etc.

It’s like an episode of Carry on at Softplay. Fully expecting Sid James to pop us shouting oooh matron at every opportunity.

OP I fully understand how you feel and you’re entitled to feel like that.

Would he have made that joke to an adult man?

Gosh this thread is depressing. The misogyny is coming from inside the house.

Why would kids understand that? If they know what "facesitting" is then that's a huge safeguarding concern itself.

I haven’t said they aren’t, it’s you who has an issue with people finding it funny

It was a slightly stupid joke trying to downplay what was probably a really embarrassing situation for both of you, and he apologised for it. That should be enough. Getting him and his kids kicked out for that would be a huge overreaction.