To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

Yikes! The amount of justification for such a sexist and inappropriate comment gives my pause. But also...I would consider this sorted. What are they supposed to do? Leave shunning for the church. You are both adults. If he saw you again, it probably was just more embarrassment for him. What a cretin.

Apparently she did "challenge" him and that would have been okay but expecting the staff to get involved and even throw him out was ridiculous.

I guess we don't expect risque jokes these days. It WAS cheeky and a bit off but frankly I am sick of cancel culture.

Sometimes people say stupid things in embarrassing situations.

An apology is enough. The OP literally stuck her arse in his face, on another thread people would be insisting she should have been chucked out for doing that.

Actually, OP did not confront him. She went whining to the staff and had them handle it. The adult thing to do, if she really was offended, is to tell him, face to face, "hey, that's rude." Or "I don't think that's funny". Or just a dirty look. And let's consider the possibility that he was embarrassed & surprised by having your arse in his face & tried to ease the situation by making a joke, even if you think it was in poor taste.

How some people manage to get through life at all is beyond me.

FFS it was a joke. If you’re that easily offended maybe you should stay home and keep your blinds closed.

face sitting comment - did he really? That's not what you said originally - if he said he wanted you to sit on his face you would have got a very different response

In another universe he reported you thinking you did it deliberately and you got thrown out. How you feeling?

It is a shame he made the comment and didn't apologise. Also a shame that OP made a big deal out of it and actually expected the soft play to throw him out.

@Pikachu150 I suppose it is just a shame that the first thing he could think of to say was a sexual comment. He should have apologised before being asked to

It wasn't a chat up line or a flirty conversation. It was a clumsy comment from someone who was probably embarrassed. OP made the situation more embarrassing imo but regardless he apologised. Expecting him to be chucked out of the soft play is ridiculous especially as his children did nothing wrong.

In OP’s example she was neither looking for a chat up line or a flirty conversation with this man so he shouidn’t have made the comment. He didn’t check the lie of the land

We shouldn’t have to listen to comments and then get an apology if we don’t like them, the preferred option is not to hear them in the first instance until we give the green light for flirty conversation

Your last four words are inaccurate and ridiculous.

Stupid comment. You reported it. He apologised. Nothing happened.

Obviously 😅 please read the comment I was responding to!

Soft play isn’t somewhere where people make sexual comments, then take them home to fuck.

Yes - and that's precisely the point - nuance! Sometimes sexual comments can be okay depending on the circumstances - as you say, if your son had got the lie of the land first and knew it would be well received.

We should guard against extreme/absolute views in all directions, in my opinion. Saying that it's never okay to make a sexual comment to a person you don't know is an extreme, absolute statement. I like living in a society where I get to choose.

It can be perfectly fine in the pub! And even if you think the comment is inappropriate you can just ignore it, tell the person where to go or whatever.

I suppose I have taught DS to be respectful, be mindful of what he says and if he does see a girl he wants to meet up with to not lead with a sexual comment. At least see the lie of the land first (both for her sake and his) before you get flirty etc

If a bloke shouts across a bar ‘nice tits luv, I’d pay good money to have some of that’ to some random woman I wouldn’t be impressed with him but I would wonder why someone would think he was a good catch.

And those sort of unwanted comments are targeted on a daily basis to females in schools and not just to the pupils

So maybe women do have to raise their bar slightly so other women can enjoy their lives more and not have such comments thrown at them randomly. Maybe there needs to be a little bit of chat before comments like that come into the conversation

Well, what if they were the opening line, and that was fine with me? Comments about where my bar is aside, it's not for you to decide what is acceptable to every woman. It's not for me to decide either of course, but my point is that if we start getting people thrown out of places for making any comments with a sexual connotation then we are ultimately not only outlawing joking, we're outlawing flirting and hookups too.

It was a awkward moment, he made a misplaced joke. You complained, ge was spoken to, done.

I would have laughed awkwardly while thinking give over

But did he? It was probably one of those embarrassing moments when you think “why did I say that”? It was awkward all round. I still think it was totally overreaction from OP to try to get him thrown out

Insulting the poster as her choices are different to yours is really misogynistic and unacceptable behaviour. She’s a grown up able to make her own decisions.

For you. And that’s your boundary, and that’s fine. Other women feel differently. No one thinks sexual comments are ok at work. But many don’t then think that means they are not ok ever. And that’s their choice.