To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

Is this a joke

the pick mes on this thread are very busy dick pandering”

I mean I’m not laughing? Did you mean it as a slur or a joke?

Why is this ok to say?

The pick mes on this thread are very busy dick pandering”

Please explain why this is ok to say to a woman?

Ah you didn’t just revert to trying to insult her did you? Disappointing.

are you playing one of those games that you have to say the numbers so many times in a day?

So your numbers are 16,17 and 18.

Mine is 20.

Go back and read the 20 replies you’ve got to this question!

There you are I’ve used 20 three times now !

So a man saying, "while you're down there, love" is fine, as it's a joke?

I would of found it funny and it would of eased the embarrassment of shoving my arse in a strangers face at a soft play !

So you think men should be able to make unsolicited sexual 'jokes' to women, if they feel like it? And women should just take it? Why?

It really shouldn't be tolerated at all in society and he should've been asked to leave. It isn't funny, why couldn't he have simply stopped at 'don't worry about it'?

Rather than keep repeating the same questions over and over again to different people, why don't you go back and read the last few pages of the thread?

It was a silly, lewd joke. Some adults find silly, lewd jokes quite funny.

It depends if it’s a joke, like in the OP or something remotely serious!

It would make me uncomfortable too, but not to the point of complaining and I wouldn’t have expected him to leave. I probably would’ve angrily texted a friend and been quite offended personally but I definitely wouldn’t have done anything about it. As much as it’s offensive and rude, it is also harmless and he was making a (poor) joke. I think you need to let it go op

So why is it fine to make an unsolicited sexual comment to an 18+ woman? Are we now okay with cat calls, too? Your boss making sexual innuendo?

I don’t suppose he’d studied OPs arse that carefully to be honest, maybe she was only worth a fiver in reality, but being an off the cuff remark 🤷‍♀️

Why is it okay to make an unsolicited sexual comment to a woman?

Many people have already explained this, in words to the effect of:

Because sometimes is it okay to say things to women that you wouldn't say to girls.

It’s fine to say to an adult… HTH

It's such a simple question to answer...if you have one. You could've answered just then, instead of the little dodge you just wrote.

I'm sorry that you find my very simple questions of "why is it acceptable to say that to a woman? Is it acceptable to say to a teenage girl? Why is it acceptable to say to a woman but not a teenage girl" too hard to follow.

That’s not what you were asking, you literally said regarding your comparison to 16 year olds. There you go tho being all twisty again. What a waste of time

Alright then, he made an insincere joke that implied he found OP's arse sexually gratifying, and was happy to pay for the pleasure of it.

Is it supposed to be better, that it was insincere? Does that make it less sexual, unwanted, or objectifying?

Agreed and I don’t think the poor chap deserved to be publicly humiliated in that way.

I don't believe you have actually explained why it's acceptable for a stranger to make an unsolicited sexual comment to someone.

You are making the assumption that he found the OPs arse to be sexually gratifying, the majority see it as a joke and no actual reflection on how appealing or otherwise the OPs arse actually is (sorry if that disappoints you OP)

That made me laugh

Agree. What that guy said was utterly disgusting. And to those of you who say it’s banter, expect better!

It's far from joke of the year - more like an awkward comment to make light of an awkward situation - but it's disturbing that adults are so quick to bypass the "roll eyes, move on" reaction and escalate straight to "complain to the manager to get someone THROWN OUT".

Did you actually feel threatened, OP? In danger? Unsafe? If this man's vibe was such that you did, my apologies - if any of that applies, you should certainly have been protected.

But if you just thought his way of trying to deal with awkward physical contact was not to your taste, this just strikes me as a bit of an attempted power move on your part.