To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

It's interesting, the way you think unsolicited sexual jokes are funny and fine, but the term 'dick panderer' has really struck a nerve for you. It really hit home, it seems.

Anyway, cheers! We're just going in circles, so let's agree to disagree.

But they don’t have to throw insults like dick panderer, now do they!

Get on the naughty step with your deleted comment!

It’s not funny. It’s sexualising a woman which is wrong anyway, in a very inappropriate setting (around kids) which to me is even more wrong, and just weird, not at all funny. A normal response would be ‘sorry/no worries/take your time/oops//i’ll move’. Why does it have to be a sex related joke to ‘break the tension’ or whatever pp are saying? Do we think a woman would have cracked this joke to another mum there? Why do we excuse these guys with haha it’s ‘banter’? Not so long ago an arse slap or boob grope was dismissed as ‘banter’ or ‘lads will be lads’ but that didn’t make it ok for the woman on the receiving end. If I had a partner who had come home laughing about the situation and reported what he’d said to another woman, I’d be disgusted. If my daughter had it said to her, I’d be disgusted. For those saying just to laugh about it, facesitting is a whole thing and can be a fetish, the joke implied him getting a free sexual service included with the entry to SOFT PLAY of all places fgs. I’m with you OP, inappropriate, pervy, and I’d have wanted him kicked out as well.

like you’d say that in soft play! Oh you should evict that man and if you don’t your a dick panderer 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Keyboard warrior!

Glad to see it was deleted, slapped wrist for you, like the soft play man! I’m sure you’re not bothered, neither is he. I’m sure he has a good laugh about it later with friends, wife etc.

He seems like quite a happy, friendly bloke. What if he'd decided to make a fuss and get you thrown out instead ....? It's really no big deal at all....

It probably took a lot for a man to take his child to a women dominated play area, and will probably never return, poor bloke.

Yes, everyone has an opinion, and people can disagree and have vigorous debate over the disagreement of opinion. If you're looking to have everyone agree with you all the time, then the internet might not be the place for you.

Lol, what would happen if I was in front of you?

And yes, if I was speaking to a hall full of teenagers who were 16+ (as I was not conversing with an individual then, but speaking about the thread in general) I would likely use the term dick-panderer to refer to women and teenage girls who place male validation above being feminist, and excuse misogyny. Trust me, they've heard, and use, far worse on a daily basis.

Oh it wasn’t a slur????

What was it then? A term of endearment?

I’ve taken it as a slur, I’ve a different opinion to you!

And the bloke didn’t make a sexual comment, it was a joke? My opinion!

I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

Given you think this is acceptable, because you don’t agree with another woman, that we’re sick panderers, then I’m not sure your opinion holds much importance.

If you stood in front of me and called me a dick panderer, I think the outcome would be interesting!

Would you say that to a 16,17,18 year old? Why is it therefore acceptable to say it on here? There may be 16,17,18 year olds reading? But even if not, why is it acceptable to say it to older women?

POT.KETTLE.BLACK

I meant to imply that the women on this thread who are displaying internalised misogyny, are very busy catering to precious male feelings. HTH.

(I'm not sure that either 'pick me' or 'dick pandering' is a slur.)

Given you think this is acceptable, because you don’t agree with another woman, that we’re sick panderers, then I’m not sure your opinion holds much importance.

If you stood in front of me and called me a dick panderer, I think the outcome would be interesting!

Would you say that to a 16,17,18 year old? Why is it therefore acceptable to say it on here? There may be 16,17,18 year olds reading? But even if not, why is it acceptable to say it to older women?

POT.KETTLE.BLACK

Because it's true. But if it'll make you feel less offended to imagine I was 'just joking' then please, feel free.

And I guess you don't have an actual answer, huh? Except that you think it's grand for men to make unsolicited sexual comments to women, as long as it's 'a joke'.

Not really it might have been worth £25? he made an off the cuff remark, a joke!

Is this a joke

the pick mes on this thread are very busy dick pandering”

I mean I’m not laughing? Did you mean it as a slur or a joke?

Why is this ok to say?

The pick mes on this thread are very busy dick pandering”

Please explain why this is ok to say to a woman?

Ah you didn’t just revert to trying to insult her did you? Disappointing.