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To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

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Playcomment · 10/06/2026 15:59

I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

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Mumofsondownunder · 11/06/2026 16:42

DancingAtLunacy · 11/06/2026 15:54

Are all the PPs saying ‘I’d have found that funny’ have thought it was as hilarious if it was their DH? Because if my DH said that, I’d be shocked, disappointed and he’d have the bollocking of a lifetime after he’d apologised in person. The bar is in hell

Wouldn’t have been in the least bit bothered if my husband said that ! Because he’s not a pervert or a twit, just a nice bloke who responded in an easygoing manner to a daft and somewhat embarrassing situation. Much like the guy at the soft play.

PissedOff2020 · 11/06/2026 16:41

Wow! If he’d said it to your husband would you taken it for the joke it actually was?

They handled it, you’re being ridiculous

Pleasering · 11/06/2026 16:36

ThreadGuardDog · 11/06/2026 16:33

The poster is correct - read the post she’s quoting again. Rude, but correct.

But her own spelling and punctuation was wrong too (she did edit it later)

ThreadGuardDog · 11/06/2026 16:33

Pleasering · 11/06/2026 16:24

Maybe check your grammar and punctuation before criticising others.

The poster is correct - read the post she’s quoting again. Rude, but correct.

FaceIt · 11/06/2026 16:27

He was an inappropriate twat.
I think the staff handled it at the correct level.

FckThisShit · 11/06/2026 16:26

Playcomment · 10/06/2026 16:48

It seems you are in the minority…I’ll have to accept that making a facesitting comment in front of kids is perfectly normal next time I go 🙄

It was hardly a face sitting comment op. You literally did put your arse in his face. Lighten up a touch.

FlappyDappyDoo · 11/06/2026 16:26

Lighten up OP. It's not as if he asked you for a handjob in the coloured balls.

Pleasering · 11/06/2026 16:25

Malasana · 11/06/2026 16:24

Oh no you didn’t. Thats very unkind and unnecessary.

Soz

Malasana · 11/06/2026 16:24

Pleasering · 11/06/2026 16:20

He was probably relieved to have escaped with his life rather than being suffocated by an enormous, inflatable arse

Oh no you didn’t. Thats very unkind and unnecessary.

Brokentoes85 · 11/06/2026 16:24

Allschoolsareartschools · 10/06/2026 16:09

Yes he was joking but how could he have possibly thought that was funny/appropriate in that setting? It's good that you challenged him & I'm glad the staff at least spoke to him. I would bet he feels incredibly stupid even if he wouldn't admit it. With any luck he won't do it again. What an absolute thick twat.

I think we've all said something stupid, inappropriate or ill timed. He apologised, no need to humiliate him and spoil his kids day.

Pleasering · 11/06/2026 16:24

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Maybe check your grammar and punctuation before criticising others.

BunnyMcDougall · 11/06/2026 16:22

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ExasperatedIs · 11/06/2026 16:20

You need to lighten up a bit!!! Talk about an over reaction!!!!

Pleasering · 11/06/2026 16:20

Historian0111101000 · 11/06/2026 16:18

I would take it as a compliment to be honest.

He could have pulled a disgusted face, but instead he basically said it was worth the entry fee. Sounds like a satisfied customer to me.

The guy got an arse in his face and made a joke about it. He clearly enjoyed what he got.

Next time, try looking around before climbing down on someone's head so you won't get offended by the comments.

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He was probably relieved to have escaped with his life rather than being suffocated by an enormous, inflatable arse

Historian0111101000 · 11/06/2026 16:18

I would take it as a compliment to be honest.

He could have pulled a disgusted face, but instead he basically said it was worth the entry fee. Sounds like a satisfied customer to me.

The guy got an arse in his face and made a joke about it. He clearly enjoyed what he got.

Next time, try looking around before climbing down on someone's head so you won't get offended by the comments.

Malasana · 11/06/2026 16:17

DancingAtLunacy · 11/06/2026 15:54

Are all the PPs saying ‘I’d have found that funny’ have thought it was as hilarious if it was their DH? Because if my DH said that, I’d be shocked, disappointed and he’d have the bollocking of a lifetime after he’d apologised in person. The bar is in hell

I doubt very much my other half would have said it because he’s a decent bloke that doesn’t harass women.
If he had said it though I’d hold a very different view of him and he’d definitely know my view very clearly.

RumPidgeon · 11/06/2026 16:16

I would have found that funny!! 😂😂

Jesus woman, calm down. He’s not after you.
Can’t say anything these days without someone getting offended and it’s usually a certain type who feels annoyed by any innuendo. Probably not used to it or lacking social skills and wits to have a bit of banter 😌

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 11/06/2026 16:16

Yes, obviously he should have been shown the exit and told never to darken their doors again, followed by immediate flogging and castration.
FFS.

Pinkchickenwine · 11/06/2026 16:15

Malasana · 11/06/2026 16:14

Well I didn’t find it funny and I am old. I’ll
happily be described as a snowflake though if it means I don’t find unwanted and uninvited sexual comments from men funny.
I have a sense of humour. It just seems to not be the same as yours.

I’m old and found it funny, doesn’t mean I’m right you’re wrong. 🤷‍♀️

Malasana · 11/06/2026 16:14

Imisssleep88 · 11/06/2026 15:53

Guess you off sick the day they dished out the sense of humours. It was a joke. Get over it.

Far too many snowflakes like you around that get offended far too easily nowadays, and no I am not "old" (under 40)

Well I didn’t find it funny and I am old. I’ll
happily be described as a snowflake though if it means I don’t find unwanted and uninvited sexual comments from men funny.
I have a sense of humour. It just seems to not be the same as yours.

Pleasering · 11/06/2026 16:08

The chap should have complained to the staff and called the police for being sexually harassed by the OP (or at least her arse). Was there unsolicited touching involved by said arse?

moderateme · 11/06/2026 16:06

DancingAtLunacy · 11/06/2026 15:54

Are all the PPs saying ‘I’d have found that funny’ have thought it was as hilarious if it was their DH? Because if my DH said that, I’d be shocked, disappointed and he’d have the bollocking of a lifetime after he’d apologised in person. The bar is in hell

OR.... *the bar is in different places for different people.

91% of people disagree with you and yet you still can't acknowledge or appreciate that perfectly reasonable people might take a different view on this? I can understand that some people wouldn't have appreciated the comment and they would have found it inappropriate. I personally would have found it mildly funny.

In answer to your question, if my DP had said it I'd have been surprised because it's a million miles from anything he would say but I wouldn't care if he said it, any more than I would care if someone said it to me.

LuXun · 11/06/2026 16:03

SouthLondonMum22 · 11/06/2026 15:25

It really shouldn't be tolerated at all in society and he should've been asked to leave. It isn't funny, why couldn't he have simply stopped at 'don't worry about it'?

Does this mean banging your (male or female) arse in someone's (male or female) face is entirely normal and any indication of amusement/anger/whatever should not be tolerated?

Pinkchickenwine · 11/06/2026 16:00

DancingAtLunacy · 11/06/2026 15:54

Are all the PPs saying ‘I’d have found that funny’ have thought it was as hilarious if it was their DH? Because if my DH said that, I’d be shocked, disappointed and he’d have the bollocking of a lifetime after he’d apologised in person. The bar is in hell

What happens if he does something wrong?

Blondiney · 11/06/2026 15:57

It was an inappropriate comment but that’s why I’d probably find it funny 🤭

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