To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

You posted it on mumsnet and your local Facebook community page... I think you probably need to find a more productive use of the time you have available to you in the evenings.

If this was a workplace would it be okay to make a lewd joke? Why does turning 18 make it okay for men to make lewd comments to women?

Sense of humour needed in aisle 69

See now, because you wrote that I just had to look. And yes, I wish I’d heeded your warning !!

I think he tried to ease up an embarrassing moment by making a joke. I would have laughed out loud because it was quite funny.

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We’re headed for a time when men will need permission to even speak to women, let alone make jokes. Makes me cringe to think that women can be so self absorbed they would take offence at something like this.

I hate this. God forbid anyone should make a joke ever. I honestly think this kind of thing makes a mockery of #metoo

I don’t think it’s a funny joke it’s inappropriate but I don’t think it’s really worth throwing him out of soft play over it. I feel sorry for the staff as well to be honest being asked to intervene I mean it’s not something that you couldn’t just deal with yourself without involving them and getting them to relay his apology. Ffs

I'd say get a grip!! Complaining over something like that is beyond ridiculous! You must be a barrel of laughs to be around!

And accused him of saying something he didn’t, so they could then get abusive, like we couldn’t all see what the op wrote he said.

Weird that people keep saying stuff like ‘you shoved your arse in his face’. If someone is climbing down a ladder the piece of anatomy that will greet someone coming up is their feet. Climbing down a ladder doesn’t equate to ‘shoving your arse in someone’s face’, it’s very weird that people keep saying this, it’s deliberately placing blame on the OP for doing nothing wrong.

I don’t find the comment is funny either but I think I would have just ignored him, not complained nor requested he was kicked out.

Bloody hell! There is no need to be so rude - this man made a joke (personally I would find it funny) to lighten an uncomfortable situation. You’ve just called the poor sod a porn sick loser and a fucking pig!
I know who is being rude and it isn’t him.

And there is also the whole business of it being clothed, which in most cases takes the hole out of the whole equation.

Admittedly, it wasn't a side-splittingly funny joke, but joking is what we do sometimes to alleviate embarrassment and, given the op had just planted her bum on his face, embarrassment is a not unlikely explanation.

I bet afterwards he wished he'd got in first and complained ...

Exactly , an arse, is not ops arse, irs a random arse. And your arse covers more than just your arse hole. I jist don’t understand why people write stuff like this, we all know he never said any such thing.

How rude!

Yes, there was no mention of a literal arsehole. Many people don't know what literal means.

I assume he wouldn’t have said it to a man

Learnt to beware of batshit crazy women maybe.

What on earth has happened to the British sense of humour. This is why we are not allowed to make jokes any more. People like the OP who is feeling like a victim instead of laughing this off. Dear me.

It's grim but you told him off, staff told him off, why should his child leave early because their dad is a throw back? I'm sure he learned his lessons from being admonished twice.

YABU.

You confronted him. He apologised and was probably embarrassed in front of staff

and it’s STILL not enough?

FGS please get a grip. He made joke about an awkward situation. It was mildly inappropriate But clearly intended to be humorous and contextual. Won’t somebody think of the children!!

If he had approached the lady in question with no prior contact, then yes, it would be wrong. She had literally shoved her arse in his face. He was embarrassed. I make jokes when I am embarrassed. I never mean to offend.