To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

But they’re not all misogynistic pricks!

Id anticipate a large number of people stay well away from you, for fear of reprisal.

92% of the votes think OP is being unreasonable, do you think that says anything?

92% …. strange that… on a mostly female forum! 🤔

Its like they’ve got a strong opinion!

I'm saying that the sort of men who make unwanted sexual jokes are misogynistic pricks, and I don't spend time with them.

Funnily enough, I can have a great laugh about all kinds of crass things...but in the context of a relationship where we both know the joke is welcomed. Not to absolute strangers.

But he did ‘meet’ her. Butt first. Hence the joke. Unclench, you’ll find life much more enjoyable. We’re only here once, why look for misery ?

I would have felt embarrassed that a poor bloke had to get a close up of my fully clothed arse at a soft play. Op I think his comment was pretty tame considering it was your arse in his face.

That would make most of the women on here misogynistic pricks then as we are all sighing at your bonkers viewpoint.

Oh more name calling!

You’re a shining light of decency aren’t you!

Name calling more than once women that don’t agree with you!

Wow you also posted it on Facebook ?

I guess you’re lucky as this is clearly unusual situation for you for a man to say something remotely sexual, so you’re telling as many people as possible and got all performative upset and ott about it.

To be clear he wasn’t cracking onto you, he wasn’t suggesting anything remotely sexual between you and him. it was just a stupid semi lewd off hand jokey comment due to what had occurred, it wasn’t even aimed at your arse In particular. More the scenario of what had occurred.

Joking aside, I really hope the chap is OK after that encounter. It must have been excruciating to have been treated as some sort of deviant by the OP and then by the staff and something like that could really prey on the mind of a normal, respectable man and affect his confidence especially when going into similar environments again.

No. As I don't spend much time around misogynist pricks. No one I know likes to make sexual jokes to women they've never met.

The comment shouldn't have happened. It wasn't going to happen again and the venue weighed up having to tell children to leave, which they decided against because it could have escalated. You might find 'no adults on the frame' next time you go in, it's more trouble than it's worth. Your lack of attention didn't help.

I wouldn’t have been offended - it was an awkward situation and he made a silly comment. PPs wanting him to be banned are ridiculous

I love a local FB group! The latest absolute outrage on ours was the introduction of food waste bins, the absolute rage and shock was unbelievable!

Eventually someone snapped and said FFS, they’re not obligatory, stop bloody moaning…… threatened with a ban.

Local FB posts are you moaning and outrage only…… not for critical thinkers!

Stop the world i want to get off ffs can no one go out have a laugh now or is every man supposed to keep his eyes and mouth shut..it was a joke..do you remember them..why are people so uptight nowadays ??

Oh poor you OP, so pure and innocent! My days, have you ever heard of nuance? The man clearly did nothing wrong and I am very critical of men in general. What if a woman said the same thing to you? Would it be acceptable to you then? You have massively overreacted.

It's not a work place though and the soft play staff are not HR. Do people really need to explain to you why making that comment to an adult women (probably well over 18) is very different to making that comment to a child.

Pretty obvious when you think about it!

OMG!! Embarrassing, you do realise the ones that disagreed were doing the whole “look at the shit posted on the local FB page”, like we’re interested! Then sitting on their hands to not type “get a life” because they’ll ve identified, and labelled!

Mayfair community FB perhaps?

I would imagine it depends on whether men come into contact with womens’ arses as standard in the workplace, surely ? Have we really reached a point where women are so devoid of a sense of humour that they would seek to have a man banned from somewhere for trying to defuse a potentially embarrassing situation with comedy ? One of the things I find most attractive in a man is a sense of humour and the ability to make me laugh. Clearly I’m one of a dying breed.

Weird how you felt the need to also post in here then, huh? 🤔

Not surprising as FB isn’t anonymous so local people will be agreeing with you rather than giving their honest opinion

Well you got the validation you were looking for there. Well done. What are we then - handmaidens ? That’s the usual trope. These days there’s stuff on SM that occasionally makes me ashamed to be female. Your post is one of them. This man was making light of an embarrassing incident with a humorous comment. Why couldn’t you see it for what it was instead of blowing it out of all proportion ?

I think this is pretty funny comment, and delivered appropriately it defuses how near the knuckle it is. It definitely lands better if you knew each other, and knew that you would find it funny. Like, if he said it when you two were away from everyone for some reason, that'd certainly seem creepy.
Basically, you have to just have to be aware of how the other person might feel - if you don't know, don't say it!

I'm betting if this man was good looking, OP would have been flattered and laughed.