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AIBU to want to visit a friend without her dog jumping all over me

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Twizzletoe · 10/06/2026 13:40

One of my closest friends has a dog that is around 3 years old. Every time I visit or just stop to pick her up when we are car sharing it is a nightmare. She struggles to open the door because he is barking and wiggling. Once inside the house he continually tries to jump up on me and barks so loudly. If I’m just picking her up I now just tend to message that I am waiting outside as I find it so unpleasant.

So my question is, is it unreasonale to expect to walk inside and not be jumped all over?

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Delladuck · 10/06/2026 13:55

I have a friend who's massive rescue staffie leaps up,barks in your face and has been known to knock grown adults off their feet

I once managed to get in,sit down and he jumped on top of me,pinning me to the sofa,ripping my hair out of its roots while she stood there laughing at him

I dont visit her anymore-i love dogs but dont need to be barrelled at as I walk through the door

She refuses to train him (and its a shame as he is lovely and desperate to please) as 'hes my baby,he had such a shitty start in life,he can do what he likes'

Not if it means im covered in wet doggy smell (she refuses to bath him), be knocked over and have my hair ripped out it doesnt

ImpatientlyWaitingForSummer · 10/06/2026 13:50

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 10/06/2026 13:45

Don’t go, and tell her why. She can then decide whether she cares enough to stop the dog’s behaviour.

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Completely agree with this. I have a dog and think dogs are very lovely but I’d still be totally within my rights to not want a friend’s dog jumping all over me!

ByWittyGoose · 10/06/2026 13:49

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 10/06/2026 13:45

Don’t go, and tell her why. She can then decide whether she cares enough to stop the dog’s behaviour.

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I have a family member and a friend that I no longer visit at home due to badly behaved dogs and I ADORE dogs!

Train your dogs, they aren't babies, they aren't cute, they are fucking annoying

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 10/06/2026 13:45

Twizzletoe · 10/06/2026 13:44

Yes but cant stay outside when Ive been invited over for a cuppa or food. I wonder whether I can suggest he is put into another room to avoid it?

Don’t go, and tell her why. She can then decide whether she cares enough to stop the dog’s behaviour.

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 10/06/2026 13:45

I wouldn’t like it either, but it’s her house and her dog living in the house so I don’t think you can expect anything different as your friend clearly doesn’t have an issue with her dog behaving like that or she’d have trained the dog not to do it.

Staying outside / meeting elsewhere seems the best solution.

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Twizzletoe · 10/06/2026 13:44

Yes but cant stay outside when Ive been invited over for a cuppa or food. I wonder whether I can suggest he is put into another room to avoid it?

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TheresMillionsOfGeoffreys · 10/06/2026 13:42

You'll get loads of people calling you a dog-hater but YANBU. I couldn't stand this.
You're probably taking the best course of action by staying outside, so hopefully no further issues.