AIBU to want to visit a friend without her dog jumping all over me

You are being unreasonable. Just don't go in. If the dog was anywhere else, you would be perfectly reasonable but he's in his owner's house. Her house, her rules. Why don't you communicate with her, just be honest and say you're not keen on the dog. Let her offer to put it in a different room if that's feasible. For many dogs, it wouldn't be so it is unreasonable to ask.

I have a relative with dogs like this, but who are also actually incredibly well trained for shows, they just get super excited when people visit!

So when I go, I deploy my best Barbara Woodhouse* and command them to "SIT!". Only then do I fuss them. If they jump up, I ignore/command again.

But no, of course YANBU for not wanting jumpy dogs.

(*I like to keep my cultural references bang up to date! 😆)

A well-trained dog will have the manners not to do that. It's your friend's fault for not training him.

She should put him in another room because it's polite to make your guests comfortable, but I bet she won't. Dog owners like this never do.

Urgh. No YANBU. I don’t want a dog jumping up and pulling at my nice clothes

My friend used to train guide dog puppies so I am sure that if they jump the word is off (not down, that is lie down) and you turn your back, they do not get your attention and facing them if they are jumping. You fold your arms oo and keep your back to them.

This might help when you arrive but I would be completely honest about how much you dislike it. I know a dog trainer on Youtube (Victoria something used to be a tv program called me or the dog) basically trains the dogs that you won't open the door unless they are sitting and more calm. These are older dogs too who have been doing this a long time, not puppies. Dogs can be trained but a lot of people cannot be arsed.

Completely disagree that it's unreasonable to ask that the dog is put in another room. A trained one yes, not one that is all over you and where it's clearly unwelcome.

Next time you're asked I'd simply say, "that would be lovely but is it possible to put Rover in another room. I appreciate he's just excited but I really don't like being jumped at. No worries if that's a problem, happy to meet you at Costat". If the answer is not in the immediate affirmative then you know you are dealing with someone who has no intention of training their dog properly.

That’s worrying! How can you ever leave the children with them?
I like dogs but don’t like them jumping up at me; owners seem offended if you don’t like their darling dogs jumping and slobbering around you!

My father’s dog is generally a lovely boy but small children unnerve him - so he bites them. DF and step mother don’t seem to see any reason to shut him away when we visit, even though last time I spent the entire time standing up with my 3 yr old in my arms to protect her. We simply don’t go any more.

My dog is a total pain in the arse, he loses his mind when people come in, i have him on a lead,.and if im being picked up for anything, the person texts me, yanbu you should be able to go in without a dog annoying you, just tell your friend it is too much that is why you are waiting in the car.

Say "control your dog or i will leave. And do it.

Just meet her out or at yours.

I’m a total dog lover who thoroughly enjoys having animals jumping all over me, but I voted YANBU.

You don’t like it, so don’t put yourself in that position. You are being completely reasonable.

I would either be honest or lie and say you’ve discovered your allergic

Yanbu. My parent in law's dog is very similar. Jumps up when you sitting on the sofa, tries to eat off plates and even humps your shoes and legs if you are really lucky. My daughter hates the dog jumping up so we don't visit. They won't put the dog into another room as "it's the dog's home" despite my daughter being very uncomfortable so not visiting is the only option.

I love dogs. This dog needs some training. A crazy bouncy puppy I’d tolerate it from albeit ignore until they calmed down. A 3 year old should be trained better than this.

god no, I hate it. it feels like being violated and assaulted. you should not have to put up with it. i hate being told the dog is "friendly" when I'm on a walk or whatever, these people just don't understand.

check out r/dogfree on reddit, it's a great place to meet others who haven't bought into liking dogs, you will feel sanity...

Not everybody loves the dog as much as the owner… same applies to children. Owners need to be aware when yet another chin full of drool is wiped across your lap or your seat is being kicked from behind…

I love dogs , have my own dog ( have had 3 over the years ) he’s very much part of the family.
If she wants you to go to her house she’ll have to get the dog trained or shut him away if you’re only there for a short time .

I have an over excited dog, he stays in the kitchen behind the staircase until hes calmed down. If he stays calm hes allowed to stay out. If not hes off back in the kitchen.
I havent been to my friends in 3 years because her dog is allowed to stand on the sofa and growl at us, kids included, and she just talks to him in the most high pitched voice like hes a baby it makes me cringe.

I’d invite her to mine or suggest meeting at different place completely

I've had the same issue. I love my friend dearly, but I've said it's their home, and they can do what they want, but it upsets me. So we still meet, but outside her house. Sorted.

I was also there when both his siblings told him they’d never visited his new house due to said dog as they didn’t want it jumping on their young kids . He then totally tried to deny to me they’d ever said that . He seemed to think anyone bothered by his dog was unreasonable. Boiled my piss .

Pretty much. I have done this. I now see my friend elsewhere.

My ex has a dog like this
I used to leave covered in bruises from it