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AIBU to think this is pretty poor form (job interview related)

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Itsmeanttobesummer · 10/06/2026 13:09

Went for a job interview last Tuesday. Bit of a long story but the interviews were being held in central London, despite the role not being located there.

I know from where the role is located that none of the candidates, including myself live in or near central London.

For me, it was 3 hours on a train each way which cost me £78 return. All day travelling, days preparing for the interview etc, time off work.

I’ve heard nothing so I’m assuming I didn’t get the role, which is fine but AIBU to think it’s really poor form dragging people down for an interview (which in hindsight, they really could’ve just done over Teams) hours from where they live, knowing that it would’ve cost them a lot of time and money, only to not even be bothered to tell them they haven’t got the job?

I chased yesterday and haven’t heard anything.

Is this what the job market is like nowadays?! I wouldn’t be bothered if it had been a local interview that was an hour of my time and a fiver in fuel or whatever, but this really wasn’t and it makes me angry they can’t even be arsed to email and say ‘sorry, you’ve not been successful’ over a week later!

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Dillatente · 11/06/2026 09:59

Sartre · 11/06/2026 09:38

A colleague and I were hiring a research assistant a few weeks back and did it on teams, we were just looking for a PGR student to help us. I didn’t care at all if they’d used AI in their application, nor their interview. We sent the questions in advance so they could prepare. I gave the role to the candidate who was the most personable! That’s what mattered to me most of all, can I get on well with them and do I think they’d work hard? Yes and so far so good.

People place way too much emphasis on AI being evil but you have to consider most candidates have applied for hundreds of jobs, why should they individually personalise CVs and cover letters themselves when a bot can do it for them?

Did they declare that they'd used AI for their form etc? Because if not, you might have a research integrity issue down the line if they aren't transparent about their use of AI...

louderthan · 11/06/2026 09:49

I’ve claimed travel costs back for an interview before. I didn’t get the job. It was a bit of a faff but worth it as I was skint at the time.

Sartre · 11/06/2026 09:41

Whattodo127845 · 11/06/2026 09:28

The job market at the moment is SAVAGE!

I work in finance and it's so difficult. I had an online interview for Revolute the other day and the interviewer yawned during the meeting and didn't even apolgise.

I got a rejection but feedback to HR how unprofessional the interviewer was.

Oh god I had this same thing once a few years back now so not even in the current climate. I was applying for a junior lecturer role and the professor interviewing me was an utter pig. He literally looked me up and down as I walked in, kept glancing at the clock, sighing, audibly tutted as I answered a question, would butt in constantly, pulled a few weird faces as I was speaking.

He was the rudest person I’ve ever come across in my academic career thus far. To be honest though, it makes you happy you didn’t get the role because like hell you’d want to work with them!

Sartre · 11/06/2026 09:38

aCatCalledFawkes · 11/06/2026 08:25

I find this baffling as employers use AI to screen CVs in the first place. But any how, the last teams interview I had I had my CV open with notes on it and my Linkedin profile on my other monitor. I know them both really, i can't imagine how I would just stop and read chatgpt without looking obvious in an interview or what chatgpt could actually answer given my competencies are either in my notes or my head.

A colleague and I were hiring a research assistant a few weeks back and did it on teams, we were just looking for a PGR student to help us. I didn’t care at all if they’d used AI in their application, nor their interview. We sent the questions in advance so they could prepare. I gave the role to the candidate who was the most personable! That’s what mattered to me most of all, can I get on well with them and do I think they’d work hard? Yes and so far so good.

People place way too much emphasis on AI being evil but you have to consider most candidates have applied for hundreds of jobs, why should they individually personalise CVs and cover letters themselves when a bot can do it for them?

Whattodo127845 · 11/06/2026 09:28

The job market at the moment is SAVAGE!

I work in finance and it's so difficult. I had an online interview for Revolute the other day and the interviewer yawned during the meeting and didn't even apolgise.

I got a rejection but feedback to HR how unprofessional the interviewer was.

socialdilemmawhattodo · 11/06/2026 09:20

Ndd1356387 · 11/06/2026 08:16

It’s not respectful or polite no. Even if it is taking a while they could at least let you know that. What is becoming bad as well these days is the demands for interview - big pieces of work which often add up to significant pieces of consultation that can take days of your time. Then not hearing back - or asking for the work and then choosing an internal candidate - so they get a piece of free consultation - is happening a lot more now IMO. I have been interviewing for about 4 months now and it’s a trend.

Been going on longer than that. Had exactly this scenario for a big job at FCA. 4 or 5 years ago. Big piece of work to be submitted, never discussed at i/v, then ghosted for outcome. I gave very detailed feedback as I was appalled.

Whyherewego · 11/06/2026 08:59

aCatCalledFawkes · 11/06/2026 08:25

I find this baffling as employers use AI to screen CVs in the first place. But any how, the last teams interview I had I had my CV open with notes on it and my Linkedin profile on my other monitor. I know them both really, i can't imagine how I would just stop and read chatgpt without looking obvious in an interview or what chatgpt could actually answer given my competencies are either in my notes or my head.

Well of course it's less good on the "gice an example.of...". But if you have technical questions which we do then it is fairly easy to use it.c
It is kind of obvious but it's not easy to mark them down if they answer the question so simpler to bring them to the office

Charlize43 · 11/06/2026 08:59

If I didn't get the job, I'd be writing and sending them my travel receipts as it may make them reconsider their recruitment practices. Remind them of the Cost of Living Crisis and how frivolous it is for them to presume that everyone has £80 to blow on just attending an interview, especially when so many people will be unsuccessful. Copy in the CEO. Also mention sustainability (environmental protection, pollution, etc).

thinkfast · 11/06/2026 08:43

Next time ask if they cover travel expenses when agreeing to the interview OP

PandaBear12345 · 11/06/2026 08:36

I had a remote interview for a professional job almost 3 years ago now, needed post grad qualifications and experience for it, had to prepare and deliver a presentation, was asked about start dates etc and I was doing the exact same role for another business. Despite thinking it had gone well (and I never ever think that) and them discussing how they’d be able to get me in quicker than notice period, I was totally ghosted following it. I contacted the interviewer and HR (it’s a big organisation) a number of times and absolutely zero response. Every time I see another role advertised my husband tells me to contact them and ask about the outcome since technically I’ve still not been rejected! Really frustrating people think it’s okay for you to give up your time and energy into preparing for something (and in your case money) and not have the decency to tell you the outcome. I hope you hear soon!

Daysgo · 11/06/2026 08:36

Itsmeanttobesummer · 10/06/2026 13:17

They said Monday or Tuesday of this week. I mean, I guess there’s a small chance they may still be deciding but I have a feeling not!

Like I say, it’s fine if I haven’t got it (it was good interview experience if nothing else. Though I do stand by the fact it was nothing that couldn’t have been done over Teams and would’ve saved me £80 in travel fares and a day travelling!) but I do have a feeling they’re just dragging their feet with the rejection list.

I haven’t interviewed for a role in a long time (and have never had to wait over a week for a decision before) so wasn’t sure if this was fairly typical now of employers.

It depends on the job and the interviewers needs. Having interviewed a lot, I'd always regard in person interviews as being more effective.

aCatCalledFawkes · 11/06/2026 08:25

Whyherewego · 11/06/2026 06:51

We are pulling back from Teams interviews due to candidates using AI to answer the questions.
It's a retrograde step as it used to be very convenient to do by Teams but now candidates just have ChatGPT listening to the question and prompting the answer. **

I find this baffling as employers use AI to screen CVs in the first place. But any how, the last teams interview I had I had my CV open with notes on it and my Linkedin profile on my other monitor. I know them both really, i can't imagine how I would just stop and read chatgpt without looking obvious in an interview or what chatgpt could actually answer given my competencies are either in my notes or my head.

aCatCalledFawkes · 11/06/2026 08:20

browneyes77 · 11/06/2026 07:38

Internal Recruiter here 🙋🏽‍♀️

Just to say, it’s fine if you want to get an offer in the bag before declining the other candidates.

However, if you don’t give some kind of communication to the other candidates you’re keeping waiting, then that is a poor recruitment experience for them and you lose good candidates this way.

At the very least, they should be sent an update email or given a phone call to just say that you’re still shortlisting etc and that they will be contacted with an update in the coming x amount of days/weeks. They don’t have to wait around and may get offered elsewhere, but at least you’ve not completely left them hanging.

@Itsmeanttobesummer If the job is one you’re keen on, I would give them a few more days, as there could be a hold up on the decision. They could be torn between you and another candidate. They could be waiting for input from someone else etc. There are sometimes things that can hold up the recruitment process a bit.

But if you haven’t heard anything by say Tuesday of next week (so giving them a week past the date they said you’d hear), I’d probably cut your loses. The lack of communication after asking you to travel that far at your own great expense, is a not a great look for them to be honest.

As someone who was offered a job yesterday after being made redundant 6 weeks ago I can only agree that its a really poor experience to leave people hanging on while you fire through your preferred candidates and then expect the 3rd/4th person to still be engaged in the job application. Most candidates will keep there options open and carrying on applying for other jobs.

The other thing I am finding baffling at the moment is the amount of senior managers who can't interview and give poor interviews that it's either not a great experience as a candidate or it puts you off the whole company. If you have to go to your 4th option because none of the other candidates want the job there is either something wrong with the way the interview was conducted or something wrong with the job description or perhaps even the way candidates were short listed.

LasersInTheJungle · 11/06/2026 08:19

FruAashild · 11/06/2026 06:13

How can dragging everyone down to the far south east of the country be 'a fair compromise between where everyone lives/ has access to'?

The OP said the job was local to her and she travelled 3 hours by train, so e.g. she could be in the North East of England or the South West. Surely it would make more sense to hold the interviews local to where the job is so candidates who are not local have an opportunity to see what the area is like. And if I was a Scottish candidate applying for the job I'd not be impressed at all to be dragged down to London for an interview for a job role in the NE. Particularly, as is suggested by the OP, travel expenses weren't paid.

ETA just realised she didn't say local to her, just implied it. But that does potentially mean she e.g. travelled from the NE to London for a job based in Scotland. And I still think interviews should be local to a job location.

Edited

Yes by "where everyone lives/ has access to" I meant the candidates not just OP, as it's not local to OP at 3 hours away.

When I've put on events for people all over then London or Birmingham is usually where it ends up due to travel connections.

Greenwitchart · 11/06/2026 08:17

OP I would question the wisdom of a company that requires candidate to travel to a random city without offering to reimburse expenses and then fails to get back to candidates within a reasonable amount of time.

Potential red flags and signs that the organisation won't be great to work for.

BeachTimeIsBliss · 11/06/2026 08:16

HoskinsChoice · 10/06/2026 18:42

It's an interesting one. I assume it's a very junior role that you're in for as for senior roles you'd expect face to face, to travel and for the selection panel to take their time. That said, I'm not sure where the tipping point is.

Personally, I wouldn't dream of final interviewing someone online at any level although I know some do for the type of junior/entry level role that you've gone for. If they don't get back to you at all then yes, that is disgraceful, but 8 days on is waaaaaaay too early to make that assumption. They may not even have finished their interviewing, let alone made a decision.

I don't think you can argue with the travel. They may have candidates all over the country, they can't travel to every one.

Condescending and superior, much?

Ndd1356387 · 11/06/2026 08:16

It’s not respectful or polite no. Even if it is taking a while they could at least let you know that. What is becoming bad as well these days is the demands for interview - big pieces of work which often add up to significant pieces of consultation that can take days of your time. Then not hearing back - or asking for the work and then choosing an internal candidate - so they get a piece of free consultation - is happening a lot more now IMO. I have been interviewing for about 4 months now and it’s a trend.

LasersInTheJungle · 11/06/2026 08:12

I assume it's a very junior role that you're in for as for senior roles you'd expect face to face, to travel and for the selection panel to take their time.

Grin love that this person didn't even read or understand the OP, who quite clearly said that she'd traveled, interviewed face-to-face and the selection panel was taking their time....

Glowingup · 11/06/2026 08:07

HoskinsChoice · 10/06/2026 18:42

It's an interesting one. I assume it's a very junior role that you're in for as for senior roles you'd expect face to face, to travel and for the selection panel to take their time. That said, I'm not sure where the tipping point is.

Personally, I wouldn't dream of final interviewing someone online at any level although I know some do for the type of junior/entry level role that you've gone for. If they don't get back to you at all then yes, that is disgraceful, but 8 days on is waaaaaaay too early to make that assumption. They may not even have finished their interviewing, let alone made a decision.

I don't think you can argue with the travel. They may have candidates all over the country, they can't travel to every one.

Lol “very junior”, nice and condescending. I will tell you one I would expect and that’s reimbursement of travel expenses if the interview was in person. Very poor form not to offer that.

EBearhug · 11/06/2026 08:03

We do in-person interviews, because the roles are office-based, no WFH, so if people aren't prepared to travel to interview, then they won't want the job anyway. We have had interviewees over 3 weeks, but I made it clear to candidates this was the case. We also have a policy that all interviewees must have a response and feedback. Internal candidates get feedback even if we don't interview them, which a couple of times has been a challenge to my diplomacy skills.

We knew at the end of the interview whether someone was likely to be offered or not, though we still had to go through the rest of the interviews in case there was an even stronger candidate in the potential yeses. But even once our decision was made, others had to sign off on the decision, including HR, and if a key person is on leave, that can delay things. It can be really annoying from the hiring side when we've made the decision and it then doesn't happen as quickly as we'd like, either.

Neutralnames · 11/06/2026 08:01

ThatsTrash · 11/06/2026 07:46

They may genuinely have not made a decision yet but they have shown you how little they consider employees circumstances by not even sending you a message saying "due to X we have yet to make a decision, we will get back to you by Y". They don't even have to give a genuine reason for the delay (you wouldn't know if it was true), but acknowledging it would show they care about the effort and expense you went to. I wouldn't have a good feeling about the employer and would be increasingly reluctant to accept the job or apply again in future the more they delay.

The most likely reason is that the preferred candidate has asked for a day to think about it. You can’t really send an email saying ‘hey, the person we really want is thinking about it, but if they sadly turn us down we will be forced to consider one of you lot. We’ll be in touch when the best candidate has decided. Have a nice day!’

Or none of the candidates are outstanding and the panel is taking an extra day to sleep on it. You can’t really send an email saying that either.

JacknDiane · 11/06/2026 08:01

Daygloboo · 11/06/2026 07:44

Agree. I think it's fairly normal now just to leave people hanging. Years ago, they always phoned you up whether it was a yeah or a nay. Just part of the discourteous , shitty times we live in now I'm afraid. Too many ignorant twits with no manners in positions of influence these days.

Yes i agree.
And I think this firm has treated you very poorly @Itsmeanttobesummer, although sadly with the job market in such a bad place, this seems to be the norm now.

Neutralnames · 11/06/2026 07:54

Sartre · 11/06/2026 05:53

Seriously poor form. Most interviews are online now or they will reimburse travel costs. I work in academia and even a few years ago during my last interview they reimbursed me for the travel. It’s shocking to be expected to pay so much to attend something they could (and should) offer online.

On the not hearing back, chances are it’s negative as you know. When offered roles I’ve always been told within a day or two, twice on the same day in fact. When declined, it takes days, sometimes even weeks and I’ve had to chase.

Bloody hell, I work in the public sector and paying for travel expenses for interviews was being phased out thirty years ago! Surprised academia still pays this considering they constantly complain about having no money.

Daygloboo · 11/06/2026 07:48

ThatsTrash · 11/06/2026 07:46

They may genuinely have not made a decision yet but they have shown you how little they consider employees circumstances by not even sending you a message saying "due to X we have yet to make a decision, we will get back to you by Y". They don't even have to give a genuine reason for the delay (you wouldn't know if it was true), but acknowledging it would show they care about the effort and expense you went to. I wouldn't have a good feeling about the employer and would be increasingly reluctant to accept the job or apply again in future the more they delay.

Good point.

ThatsTrash · 11/06/2026 07:46

They may genuinely have not made a decision yet but they have shown you how little they consider employees circumstances by not even sending you a message saying "due to X we have yet to make a decision, we will get back to you by Y". They don't even have to give a genuine reason for the delay (you wouldn't know if it was true), but acknowledging it would show they care about the effort and expense you went to. I wouldn't have a good feeling about the employer and would be increasingly reluctant to accept the job or apply again in future the more they delay.

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