AIBU to expect vegan guests to avoid preaching at shared meals?

Really, how extrodinary? I can't think of a single vegan (and I know very many) who would rock up at a meal without first checking there was something they could eat and/or bringing something. How very made up unfortunate in your acquaintance you must be.

I lost you at flexitarian 😂 Basically, you eat anything.

I’m vegan and I know a few vegans. I’ve never encountered a vegan who was as you describe so maybe you’ve been unlucky with guests, could be their awful personality rather than the fact they are vegan? It is definitely rude to preach to people in their homes. However, on the other side I get so much shit as a vegan, I’m literally in it for the animals, all I want is to not take part in harming animals and yet meat eaters constantly make jokes, attempt to belittle me and bring me down. They try to start arguments, lots of Sarcasm etc. It doesn’t actually bother me as I know I’m 100% true to my beliefs but honestly meat eaters can get very aggressive.
Also I’d say Flexitarian doesn’t mean anything at all. If you’re eating most food groups then you’re doing what most people do!

Veggie for 50 years, my experience exactly, although doesn’t happen so often these days.

I agree with a PP - it is never me who brings up my dietary choices. People are curious and I’m constantly being asked why I’m vegan, what do I miss, what do I actually eat etc. in fact, today at tea break someone said to me ‘it’s just the circle of life’ without me even bringing the subject up.

then - if you reply and tell them why you’ve made the decision, people end up getting defensive and start throwing stupid comments into the mix to help them justify their own choices.

i don’t care what anyone else eats and i shouldn’t have to justify why i eat a vegan diet. And yet, it’s always a hot topic of conversation especially with people I don’t know very well.

I've never preached, but if people ask me question, I’ll answer them 🤷🏼‍♀️

I agree that "flexitarian" is a pointless phrase. "Omnivore" and "meat eater" are already very broad, inclusive terms. Very few people eat a genuinely carnivorous diet. I only drink alcohol about once a month, but I wouldn't call myself a "flexitotaller".

Ok, so the thread's op went weird, but I still want to come on to say that I'm grateful to my vegan friends and colleagues. One was militant, and although it made me uncomfortable, I did learn some things that I'm glad to know. Another one is very gentle about it, and again I've learned some things in very glad to know. Over the years, partly because of their and my vegetarian friend's input, my diet had changed massively and I'm glad for that.

When I was in a hostel making some dinner I found myself in the company of THREE other vegans. I was delighted! Ten minutes into the conversation it transpired one ate chocolate, one ate yoghurt and cheese and the other ate fish.

It was on the tip of my tongue to say "See lads, this is why people don't like us"

I’m ok with eating meat. I’d like to pay for better meat more consistently but 3dc and cost of living. We grow some fruit and veg. We don’t eat meat every meal. I pay for a collect textile recycling service for clothes too worn to donate, and spend a lot of time I dont have trying to recycle things rather than bin them.
we get a fruit and veggie delivery that reduces plastic and landfill. We are trying, like many. While we bring up 3 active dc who eat all day long and play sports all weekend and every night. But you do you and carry on having a go at people.

"I’ve just found a choc muffin recipe with zucchini and cannellini beans to try on my dc."

That reminds me of one of the characters in The Vicar of Dibley (Letitia Cropley) 😁

Do I? Am I? I love veg. And lentils, I cook an awesome basil chili lentil dish. I’ve just found a choc muffin recipe with zucchini and cannellini beans to try on my dc.

Not solely by Vegans... Soy products are extremely common in Asian cultures.

Ad why do people invite others round for a meal and are then not prepared to host them properly by giving them vegetarian or vegan foods if they require it? Just why?

It isn't difficult.

ARE you ok with murdering animals and destroying the planet?

Just out of interest.

It's that kind of mental gymnastics to avoid realising you're the problem that pisses people off.

Has anyone noticed that there seems to be a common denominator among the posters on this thread that keep trotting out the garbage of vegans always announcing they are vegan?

I suspect they tend to be the goady sort who eat a limited diet and can't think outside the meat and 2 veg box (if they even eat vegetables, that is)

No not the next generation up. They’d have to be more directly insulting rather than just very very wearing in their single mindedness. Some neurodiversity. My generation now…

That's fine, no need to apologise.

Ohh I eat a lot of nooch yeast so that could be it!

So 25% end up being eaten by vegans...so they're contributing to the clearance 🤷‍♀️

I'm just saying if people are going to preach about morals and ethics they probably shouldn't be throwing stones.

TBF I have. A son of a friend who is very enthusiastic, decided to have a pop at me because I took my daughter to a farm park 🤷‍♀️

I didn't engage!

Yes but with family, surely you can be direct and tell them to STFU?

Jealous of their confidence we are not.

I didn’t say anything about it being male or female morons. Although in my experience, it’s men who are going to try to tell I’m missing out on eating pigs

Hahhaaa haha you have clearly not met the preachy vegans among us. ‘Well if you’re ok with murdering animals and destroying the planet, I’m sure it tastes nice.’
a family member so no one is uninviting her, but it’s hard work!

Sorry. I have just edited my post to say about fortified foods. There is a podcast on the Vegan Society page about B12 following the death of a vegan who didn't consume any B12 at all.