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AIBU to think it odd to tell children where they were conceived?

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ramorna · 09/06/2026 23:14

To think it’s odd to tell your kids where they were conceived?

I’ve always had a love of Italy and even went on to study Italian at university. My mum recently and rather casually dropped into conversation that I was conceived in Rome!

My parents had been in Rome for two weeks that summer.

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ourSusie · 10/06/2026 10:33

Pistachiocake · 09/06/2026 23:24

Ick. Well, some people name their kids for it. And proudly tell you why India got her name!

yes, some are more obvious, than others,
Paris, Lynton, Kendal, (known as Ken) Lincoln, Richmond (Yorks) Chelsea,
Barnes (middle name) India, Marlow, Chester, of my own acquaintance.

Famously, Rudyard Kipling, named after the Midlands lake where his parents honeymooned.

FragrantPalms · 10/06/2026 10:30

Sahara123 · 10/06/2026 10:24

Yes, that makes sense. I had trouble conceiving, over a long period of time so I had no idea when it actually happened!

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Believe me, we were totally taken aback. I was 39, and thought it would take ages, or possibly not happen at all, so everything happened far faster than expected!

AffableApple · 10/06/2026 10:30

OhBotherSaidPoo · 10/06/2026 10:18

I'm amazed people know. Are they having that little sex they can recall exactly when and where?

Yes, we were TTC. I was using ovulation sticks, and tracking other (too gross to type here) fertile time symptoms, so I know exactly when the well-timed deeds happened! My husband was away doing training for work, I turned up at his hotel, and went home the next day. I know it was then 😂

Sahara123 · 10/06/2026 10:24

FragrantPalms · 10/06/2026 10:17

Well, I only have one child, and DH and I were living in different countries for work at the time, so we only had unprotected sex once, and that was when DS was conceived.

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Yes, that makes sense. I had trouble conceiving, over a long period of time so I had no idea when it actually happened!

EverytimeItPours · 10/06/2026 10:24

OhBotherSaidPoo · 10/06/2026 10:18

I'm amazed people know. Are they having that little sex they can recall exactly when and where?

I know exactly where my children were conceived. And not because we were having v little sex, but because when we were trying we were always at home!

McSpoot · 10/06/2026 10:24

FragrantPalms · 10/06/2026 10:17

Well, I only have one child, and DH and I were living in different countries for work at the time, so we only had unprotected sex once, and that was when DS was conceived.

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Similar story here - my parents were living in separate countries when I was conceived so it could only have happened when she was visiting where he was. They were also trying to conceive so, I guess, were paying more attention to things.

GreenSmallBird · 10/06/2026 10:22

I had morning sickness almost from the point of conception and I got pregnant the first month we tried to conceive every time so I know exactly when all my DC were conceived. I also know I was conceived in a holiday cottage in Norfolk because I randomly drove past it with my mum in the car and she laughed and said that’s where I was created 😂

OhBotherSaidPoo · 10/06/2026 10:18

I'm amazed people know. Are they having that little sex they can recall exactly when and where?

FragrantPalms · 10/06/2026 10:17

Sahara123 · 10/06/2026 10:12

How do people know the specific occasion their children were conceived, I’ve never had a clue ! Not that I’d have told them anyway, what child or adult come to that needs to hear that.
If my mum told me now I’d be 🤢 no thanks, I don’t need to know that !

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Well, I only have one child, and DH and I were living in different countries for work at the time, so we only had unprotected sex once, and that was when DS was conceived.

Sahara123 · 10/06/2026 10:14

Sanguinello · 10/06/2026 01:14

That's how Brooklyn Beckham got his name as he was conceived there

No wonder the poor guy has issues, it can’t help that the whole world knows that, surely !

Sahara123 · 10/06/2026 10:12

LeedsLoiner · 10/06/2026 08:32

Presumably Romeo was in the back of an Alfa 164…😄

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How do people know the specific occasion their children were conceived, I’ve never had a clue ! Not that I’d have told them anyway, what child or adult come to that needs to hear that.
If my mum told me now I’d be 🤢 no thanks, I don’t need to know that !

Greengage1983 · 10/06/2026 10:01

Yep, definitely weird! I wouldn't want to know!

thebabessavedme · 10/06/2026 09:56

😂I was conceived in a cupboard under the stairs in a house in Golders Green during a party, the swinging sixties (not that M&D did swinging😂, just quickie among the cleaning things)

Pericombobulations · 10/06/2026 09:47

I think it’s often a case of TMI!

Having said that dad told me I was the result of him coming back from a tour of duty in RAF to their base as I was clearly an unexpected extra.

FragrantPalms · 10/06/2026 09:46

Telling your eight year old they were conceived in a 'drunken knee-trembler around the back of the Colosseum when your father and I just couldn't keep our hands off one another for one more second, even though we were in the middle of a guided tour'? Weird.

Telling your adult child they were conceived in a particular city? Not weird.

Clawdy · 10/06/2026 09:42

My friend’s mum told her she was conceived on a Cornwall holiday, in a hammock! Too much info, I thought, but my friend loved it!

ByRoseBiscuit · 10/06/2026 09:32

Telling you as an adult, when there is a link because you love Italy, is not that odd to me.

LeedsLoiner · 10/06/2026 08:32

Sanguinello · 10/06/2026 01:14

That's how Brooklyn Beckham got his name as he was conceived there

Presumably Romeo was in the back of an Alfa 164…😄

FannyNesbet · 10/06/2026 08:05

I know a lot of parents that give this info and I always found it to be ick but I'm quite prude. Good to be in prudish company!

MargaretThursday · 10/06/2026 08:04

I don't think dropped casually into conversation as an adult anything to find odd about at all.
I was conceived in a tent on my parent's back lawn when they decided it was too hot to sleep inside so put the tent up and slept out!
I think I was told that as a teen and never thought anything of it other than vaguely amusing.

If they'd made a huge thing when you were small insisting that you must love everything Italian because that was where you were conceived, then that would be odd, but not what you said.

allhailtheeyeballsinthesky · 10/06/2026 06:58

Im an unexpected honeymoon baby, born 9 months later, no doubt about my conception, mind you I'm not called Grasmere thankfully

TheRealWhacker · 10/06/2026 06:51

Pretty gross, nobody wants to think about their parents having sex. I think the only time it’s fine is if they were conceived via fertility treatment.

Goblinmusic · 10/06/2026 06:11

I think it's fine.

McSpoot · 10/06/2026 06:09

Sanguinello · 10/06/2026 01:14

That's how Brooklyn Beckham got his name as he was conceived there

It's how I got my name too (not Brooklyn). My name isn't super obviously a place name (even though there are a number of cities/towns/areas with the name).

And, yes, my parents did tell me :)

Thepeopleversuswork · 10/06/2026 06:08

It’s really cringe. I had a boyfriend years ago who had been named after the place he was conceived a la Brooklyn Beckham.

In his case though the dad turned out to be an abusive alcoholic and the parents split.

What was obviously intended at the time as a romantic nod to his conception is forever associated with an abusive dad getting his end away in a low rent seaside holiday campsite.

Nasty.