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Ariana Grande dilemma

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coulditbeme2323 · 09/06/2026 14:01

OK we are spending the summer in Florida. Myself, husband, and children. As it is half work half holiday - we are taking our 19 year old niece for the 6 weeks to help out when we are working.

My girl is 15 and we have managed to get Ariana Grande tickets in Atlanta. For information it's about a two hour flight from Orlando.

Now my husband is happy for our 19 year old niece (who is very sensible) to go with our daughter.

I have said it's a big city, and I would rather go. Not to the concert, but just travel with them.

They only plan to be gone 48 hours.

Who is right?

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Sunnydaysarehereagain2026 · 09/06/2026 14:15

My 19yo dd has a baby. If she wanted to fly abroad and manage her dc she could. Why don't you trust your dn?

Hidefromthecow · 09/06/2026 14:15

Having just flown in from Atlanta, it’s a HUGE airport, but easy enough to navigate. Lots of helpful workers.

What are the logistics of getting to the concert after the flight?

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coulditbeme2323 · 09/06/2026 14:13

RedToothBrush · 09/06/2026 14:12

You don't say whether the niece is British or from the US. If British no, I wouldn't be happy with them travelling in a strange overseas city - it's different to the same within the UK. If the niece lives in the US it would also be a no from me because the two don't know each other well enough.

I travelled by myself from age 17 but the additional responsibility of someone else's child in a foreign country is one I'd still spend time to consider. I certainly don't think it's wise at 19.

British

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RedToothBrush · 09/06/2026 14:12

You don't say whether the niece is British or from the US. If British no, I wouldn't be happy with them travelling in a strange overseas city - it's different to the same within the UK. If the niece lives in the US it would also be a no from me because the two don't know each other well enough.

I travelled by myself from age 17 but the additional responsibility of someone else's child in a foreign country is one I'd still spend time to consider. I certainly don't think it's wise at 19.

minipie · 09/06/2026 14:10

Your niece could be the most sensible girl alive but she’s still only 19 and doesn’t have enough life experience to travel with a child.

19? Many 19 year olds have jobs, children, and travel all over the world independently.

At 19 I travelled to and around SE Asia and that was without backup of phones or internet to consult if something goes wrong. I’m sure many MNers did the same.

Honestly I think you’re being a bit OTT.

WeatherOrNothing · 09/06/2026 14:09

I wouldn’t leave a 19yo in charge a whole 2 hour flight away. I’m with you op. Take them to the concert and bring them back. Anything could go wrong and you would have to fly there and have no clue how to deal with it.

murasaki · 09/06/2026 14:09

Another vote for go with them. And find yourself somewhere lovely to eat, something to do etc while the concert is on.

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coulditbeme2323 · 09/06/2026 14:08

DaisyChain505 · 09/06/2026 14:07

No I wouldn’t be letting them fly alone, not in a million years. Your niece could be the most sensible girl alive but she’s still only 19 and doesn’t have enough life experience to travel with a child.

Fly with them and then drop them at the concert alone.

Yes not even a conversation, this is what I am doing.

Thank you everybody for reassuring me I wasn't being an overprotective old bat.

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DaisyChain505 · 09/06/2026 14:07

No I wouldn’t be letting them fly alone, not in a million years. Your niece could be the most sensible girl alive but she’s still only 19 and doesn’t have enough life experience to travel with a child.

Fly with them and then drop them at the concert alone.

Snorlaxo · 09/06/2026 14:07

Do you disagree with your h’s decision because I assume that’s the actual problem? We don’t know your niece so it’s hard to comment but in the surface you are because the average 19 year old can travel 2 hours away without another adult.

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coulditbeme2323 · 09/06/2026 14:06

user678435 · 09/06/2026 14:03

You are

I am going to screen shot this!

Thank you!

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user678435 · 09/06/2026 14:03

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