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Examples of rich people being stingy!

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50sandFabulous · 09/06/2026 12:55

MIL worth Millions. Huge house, several cars, hundreds of thousands in cash ISA's and Bonds. Owns at least 8 properties that she rents out, so monthly income from that must be at least £7k a month, plus a few pensions, so probably income of £10k per month. No mortgage. Will she treat her son and me for a meal? Fuck no. We either pay or it's split 50/50. I just don't get it. When we eat out with our adult kids we always pay, as even though they work, we know they don't have as much as we do. Anyone else got in-laws or friends like this?

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Blauehortensie · 09/06/2026 13:17

BIL earns over 250K a year, no children of his own. Wouldn't sponsor our 6 year old son (his only nephew) for a fun run he is doing. Not even a fiver 😅 I'll know not to ask again!

Other family members with nowhere near as much money all kindly gave him something. It does often seem to be the way.

TheMillionthBeautyAddict · 09/06/2026 13:10

I used to be friends with someone quite wealthy who mysteriously disappeared to the toilet every time it was her turn to buy a round at the pub. The rest of us stopped inviting her out eventually.

Auroraloves · 09/06/2026 13:10

Well, when she goes she can’t take it with her.

Cant understand people like this, if I had that amount of wealth I’d happily treat my loved ones

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 09/06/2026 13:04

over50andfab · 09/06/2026 13:02

So your expectation is that whether it's family members or friends whoever has the most money should pay? Or is it an in-law thing?

No, I think her opinion is that her MIL could put her hand in her pocket once in a while.

over50andfab · 09/06/2026 13:02

So your expectation is that whether it's family members or friends whoever has the most money should pay? Or is it an in-law thing?

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 09/06/2026 13:00

🙄 I'm happy to pay my way as well, but I hate stinginess and would also judge your MIL. I wouldn't "get worked up about it", but I would share your opinion that she's mean spirited

BillieWiper · 09/06/2026 13:00

My cousin is a multi- multi millionaire and would never even buy me a pint. Not that I expect him to but he's also ripped me and a couple of close friends off to the tune of thousands of pounds. So not only is he tight, he got his money by stepping on people.

Firesidechatter · 09/06/2026 12:58

Couldn’t get worked up about this, happy to pay my way.

InOverMyHead84 · 09/06/2026 12:57

You know what they say.

You don't get rich by spending money!