What do you consider a treat?

A takeaway and a take away coffee is a treat as I don’t do them often. Also a meal out , theatre, holiday, weekend away. But also stuff like a long bath, a new book, a bar of chocolate or a large bag of crisps.

I think, for me, the whole 'treat' thing is just quite a different mindset.

if someone else pays for me, that's them treating me. Though that really doesn't happen anymore. I have people in my life where we might take it in turns to pay, but no one that really 'treats' me to anything.

If I pay, it's just 'a choice'. Whether it's a cup of coffee or a weekend away. It's how I've chosen to spend MY money.

I have health issues that mean I shouldn't eat/drink a lot of different things. If I do it's just a choice I'm making, it's not 'a treat'

3 kids books from a charity shop & a chopping board. Beyond belief how anybody thinks they're treats 🤣🤣

Joyful, calm moments, whatever they look like.

I took my older child to the museum without the younger one a couple of weeks ago, and bought him a hugely overpriced ice cream and we sat on some steps watching the world go by, and he let me have a couple of licks. That was a treat.

I wouldn't necessarily class a takeaway coffee as a treat, but if I'm enjoying it sitting on the grass in a beautiful park next to a river, then yes, it's probably a treat. We unexpectedly found a fountain during the recent heatwave, and the kids were running about in it having fun and splashing while I enjoyed...yes, a takeaway coffee. That was a treat.

The last time we went to a theme park, despite being very expensive, was not a 'treat' for any of us. We had to queue for hours for every ride, managed to do about 4 rides and there were even long queues for ice cream and cold drinks. Very little shade and the grassy spots were rammed. I'd rather 'treat myself' to tidying the kitchen drawers than go again 😂.

A one-night hotel stay, perhaps with a meal in their bar

Surely you already knew that people with less money than you exist?

New make-up, lingerie, clothes, shoes. I spend most of my time in crocs and a lab coat so it's nice to feel dressed up. I don't agree with food as a treat.

The things is, if you live in a bubble where everyone you know can afford to regularly spaff £50 on a brunch for 2 people just because you can’t be bothered to cook, you’re obviously not going to see that sort of thing as a treat. Doesn’t mean it’s not a treat for many other people.

I think sometimes things feel like a treat because of what you are used to growing up, even if you can afford it now. A take away coffee for me for example.

A day of sewing. Some new fabric, a new pattern.

I can think of some non materialistic treats like a morning reading a book, no phones, no distractions and sitting by the sea watching the waves crash

Treat can be used in a lot of different contexts.
A small icecream or chocolate bar I would say ‘oh shall we have a treat’ and have that.
also went to Six by Nico Sunday and going on holiday this weekend and consider them big / luxury treats.

I would refer to buying myself something new as a treat, like new shoes, but not a new washer if it broke.

If it is a want, not a need, it’s a treat, there are just levels.

Brunch, Donuts, Coffee out is a treat. Might not be a big treat, but still something nice you had for yourself.

Going to bed really early.

My current favourite is rice pudding and jam - kind of like frozen very creamy ambrosia rice pudding , the rice grains don’t quite freeze and add a slightly chewy texture. With raspberry “jam” rippled through it 🤤 .
I am obsessed with really good ice cream, always a treat !

Humans are very adaptable, which is great, but unfortunately this means when we have something regularly it becomes the new normal. So something that felt like a treat no longer does once you've got used to it (unless there is some sort of baseline reset).

On your last thread, the issue for lots of people was probably that your baseline seems quite high

Taking my grandbaby out and watch him explore the world. He's the most fastenating creature I've ever spent time with

It was more the fact that you said you’d spent money on ‘nothing’ that made people suggest that actually, an expensive brunch out isn’t ’nothing’, and many people would consider it a treat.
I don’t think you can really define a treat, as it depends on your baseline. So above you say that a Michelin starred restaurant is a treat. Obviously that’s out of reach for many people, but they can maybe very occasionally afford to go to somewhere like Wagamamas. That would be a treat for those people, because it’s something that’s a step up from their ‘baseline’. Just as very wealthy people may not even consider a Michelin starred restaurant as a treat, because it’s something they do all the time.
It’s clear that you are wealthy, so a treat for you would look different to a treat for others.

Sitting with a cup of tea under the trees at the bottom of the garden listening to the birds and looking at the flowers or just the changing seasons around me.

My Sunday morning ritual of a foot spa and pedicure at home.

A candlelit bath.

Homemade bread eaten still warm with butter.

A new plant and pot.

ETA: I treat myself all the time!

The waxiness with Cadbury now is horrible, and I used to really love it every now and again! Eating the kids' leftover Easter eggs this year just wasn't the same 🤣

For me it’s buying myself a bunch of flowers , I do most weeks but they still feel like a treat as not strictly necessary I suppose.
Also an ice cream from my local independent ice cream shop is a delicious treat!

No, I think on the other thread people (myself included) were stuck on the fact you said you did nothing/had nothing to show for it!

Anyway, not to derail into a TAAT 😉🤣

I always feel relieved I can't eat Cadbury any more because they've lowered the cocoa and upped the oils and I find it waxy and too sweet. Tony's chocoloney on the other hand...that is an expensive treat to remember what chocolate used to taste like (amazon have the multi-taster bars that go down to £6 for the pack if you wait long enough).