What do you consider a treat?

I eat things like cakes, chocolate, biscuits etc every day so they're not a treat.

A meal out would be a treat. Either lunch or dinner. I always like a couple of drinks with the meal but I'm not a massive eater. It still costs minimum £30 so I wouldn't be able to do that often.

A trip to lidls is a bit of a treat as it's not within reasonable distance of my house. I'd need a taxi there and back which cancels the savings. But if I need to go somewhere near it then I can stock up. All the others near me are small supermarkets like Tesco express.

Hardback books and the time to read them. Expensive perfume. Expensive clothes, beautiful handbags and shoes, lovely stuff to put in the bath.
I do see take away coffee/cake/ lunch in M and S cafe as a treat but they are a different level of treat. All very spare income dependent obviously.

Yes! Just owning the book is a treat in itself, it sitting there all full of worlds or knowledge. I love it!

Quite. It’s ironic really, because I was just thinking how I would hate to have OP’s mentality. The raging status anxiety, the self-consciousness and hyper-awareness of how much things cost and where one stands in the perceived hierarchy of socio-economic worthiness…it sounds exhausting and miserable. And misery loves company, hence the deliberate baiting.

All my treats are to do with time. A lie in. Reading in bed. A leisurely browse through charity shops. Having nowhere to be by a certain time.

Now, if you add marmelade toast and a pot of tea to the lie in and reading in bed you've basically found my heaven 🤣

But what would be wrong would be if the person who buys a coffee at the station every day starts say 'wah, it's so unfair, I never have anything nice, I can't afford to treat myself', when they're spending close to £100 a month on coffees.

They are having something nice, and if it came to it, they could have less coffee, if they wanted to buy/do something else instead, eg buy some non essential shoes, go on a spa day etc because most people couldn't afford to spend endlessly on coffee and go on spa days whenever they wanted to, they'd have to see what money they had available and prioritise accordingly and a daily coffee could well mean they can never afford a spa day, but if they cut their coffees in half, they could probably afford a spa day a few times a year.

Do you not get bored of posting threads about how rich you are and looking down on everyone else? Considering you've admitted on a previous thread that you grew up with parents who didn't have very much and all your money has come from your husbands generational wealth, you don't seem to remember that not everyone has as much as you

I've even seen you go on to threads where people who are struggling financially have posted about their small budget, and you've told them how awful their life must be and you would hate to live like them and have their life

As someone with a 10mo baby, a treat for me is no longer about cakes or takeaways or chocolate…it’s time. MIL comes round every Thursday night to do his bath, bottle and bed routine so my boyfriend and I either go out, or stay in and spend our evening doing quizzes together or watching a film. That to me is the biggest treat!

I like this. I’m closest to version 1, I consider anything a treat if I enjoy it, do it mindfully, and it’s not necessary. So meals out, unless they’re for work or in transit. A nice coffee and a cake sat down in town would qualify, but a coffee in the train station probably wouldn’t. I don’t agree it’s relative to baseline cost or has to be uncommon, like others a hot chocolate curled up with a dog in front of the fire in winter or a glass of chilled drink in the garden in summer are both definitely treats despite being something I do as often as possible!

Any drink, meal or snack that I've not had to prepare or wash up myself is a treat.

Same for a breakfast out or a pub lunch - it's a treat to not have to do the labour of buying the produce, prepping and cooking the food, clearing plates and washing it all up.

A supermarket cake is a treat but a "real treat" is a hand baked flapjack.

When I say "ooo this is a real treat" it's fancier, it's a restaurant with mains over £20, it's cocktails or a decent glass of wine in a delicate large cold glass in the sunshine. It's a posh hot chocolate from melted chocolate not powder by a log fire on a cold day.

I am desperately trying to get my sewing mojo back. I have a lovely sewing machine too. Any tips or inspiration you could offer?

OP, a treat for me is something that isn't a regular purchase/occurrence.
It definitely wouldn't be a coffee on the run, but a coffee in an independant shop, accompanied by something hugely calorific would be - with the calories being the treat.

So….Your thread was posted so you could revel in the fact that things that are a treat to others aren’t to you. And you want them to list them so you can ‘understand’ the poor people’s lives? Because you’re well off. Read the fucking room love.

For me, it’s time to myself. I have a full time job and two small kids so any time I’m on my own (not working or cleaning) it’s a luxury.

Last week I went out and sat in a cafe for 45 minutes and had a lovely cake and coffee. It wasn’t the food and drink that was the treat (although it was delicious!).

Being left alone.

You’re just posting thread after thread stealth boasting about how well off you are. Take a chill pill and enjoy your riches

I buy books 📚 that's my treat 😊

A iced cherry lemonade at the local farm whilst the kids play, or a iced cream and apple jam filled doughnut from the local bakery on a Friday!

I love having a Costa hot chocolate as my treat. I don’t do it often. Perhaps once a week - but that seems like a lot actually.

I have to “earn” it though. My own categorisation. Most often by completing a list of errands or exercise.

Something I don't do often.

Grabbing a coffee is a treat for me because I generally have instant coffee (several cups!) before work and grab instant coffees from the staffroom. I don't get them on the go usually as not a convenient stop for me.

Therefore when I do get one, either by stopping off or ordering it via just eat right to my desk 😳I get a extra fancy one, not just a boring flat white, so it's definitely a treat.

But for me, lots of things I don't get to do as often as I would like are a "treat". I saw a very old friend the other day that I haven't seen for many years. I stopped by their house, had a cup of tea and caught up. I left feeling so happy to have seen them again, it was so nice. That was a treat.

I love Tony's chocaloney, I'll look out for it going down to £6 for the pack of taster bars.

I take great pleasure in small things.

I get pleasure out of a blue bit of sky, the bee drinking from the water I've put out for them, a fuss with a dog. I could go on.

that doesn't mean I see spending my money or time in the way I choose is a treat, it's a choice. Whether that's a coffee or a weekend away.

I think I've come to the conclusion that FOR ME A treat is something someone else bestows not a choice I make about how I spend my time or money.

I'm old(ish) and old-fashioned.
For me, pretty much ANY meal or drink out of the home is a treat.

I was brought up by a mother who took a flask with a hot drink, and packed a picnic lunch, if were were going to be out for the day. Otherwise, trips and activities were planned so that we were home for lunch.
Needless to say, snacks and drinks between meals were just not a thing.

I still don't like wasting money on buying lunch - there are so many better things to spend my money on.

A real treat is a nice cake, or chocolate.

Back in the day it was booze, now I don't drink!

Sugar is still a bit of a treat but I am on MJ so my eating habits have changed (and I have lost 5st in 14 months)

Current treats are my weekly coffee. It sounds pathetic but I am a tea drinker and once a week on my way back from a medical appointment I pass a lovely coffee shop so I grab a takeaway!

My other treat to myself is reading. Every night before bed I read for at least half an hour. It's not always highbrow - in fact it's often lowbrow - I am currently reading Alex Berenson but it's peaceful and meaningful. It helps me unwind and sometimes but not always helps me sleep. It's "my" dedicated time.

I am lucky that on a small scale I am able to buy myself (and the kids) things as and when we need them, some will be essentials but yes there are some treats. Occasional take aways, ice creams on hot days, new trainers when DC1's feet grow again etc. Nothing majorly expensive. I save for bigger treats like holidays.

A restaurant meal out of over £80. A purchase for myself of over £100. Taking a day off of work for myself only. A calorie dense food that I don’t eat daily/weekly.

Peace and quiet and a nap.🐑🐑😴