To not want to drive someone else’s car all week?

Call 101 and ask for advice.
This is absolutely deranged, even by MN standards.
Agree with above.
It needs reporting as stolen.

Report it as stolen.

This is wild. Drive to wherever she is. Surely she can pop out if work to swap keys!

Stand up to her! In her mind, you're letting her borrow it for longer with your passive response to her. Be firm, you need your car now, she'll have to meet you outside of her workplace to swap vehicles immediately.

At what point will you escalate this?

OP she has taken your car without consent and she has had it for five days now. Speak to the police, this is completely unacceptable. Don’t warn her or give her notice, just do it now.

She’s a piss taker, don’t contact her again and NEVER agree to any of this car swapping again with anyone. Someone else’s small car or too full car problem is their problem. If they’re organised enough to have passed a driving test and bought a car, they’re organised enough to hire a van.

Please, do this for yourself, it is a valuable skill to say ‘enough now, police are involved’.

She is refusing to give you your property back. In your shoes I would now dump her car at her place (regardless of the difficulties in doing so), to make it clear that there is no kind of "swap" taking place. You can't then continue to see her as a friend, can you? Accept that's the case and contact the police - it's theft.

Why are you tolerating this from your ‘friend’? I genuinely don’t have any friends who would do this-they are all nice people which is why I’m
friends with them!

I find it bizarre that you appear to be pointlessly posting on here but not actually doing anything proactive about getting it back.

Where does she work? Go there?
Phone her up and say you need it back now and where is she?
Go to her house this evening with the kids in the car and take your car back.

Just do something!

This woman is clearly no friend of yours. Tell her that you have withdrawn your permission for her to drive it, ask her where it is and say you want to swap immediately, and if she doesn't swap the cars that day, you will be ringing the police to report it as stolen because she won't give it back.

The friendship is over whichever way you look at it!

Give her a deadline of tonight.
Then ring the police.
They may be unable or unwilling to assist.

I'd be worried she's damaged it.

What does your insurance say? If you want all hell to potentially let loose give them a call.

Why are you just accepting this from her? Have you spoke to her or is this over text? What EXACTLY have you said and her exact responses?

You need to stand up for yourself and make it clear this isn’t a request. The car belongs to you and you want it back. Why, oh why did you agree to the swap in the first place? I might have gratuitously offered to collect the item for her, but she has a car that’s big enough, she just has to clear it out.

This woman has proven she is not your friend. Once you get your car back, I suggest you block her as you clearly struggle to say no to her.

Call her right now and ask her where she is. Tell her you are coming now to swap the cars and if she refuses, you need to tell her that you will be reporting your car as stolen as you do not consent to her continuing to use it. Or tell her one of the kids left something in it that they need for school so you need to come and collect it, then once there don’t leave without your car! Tell her that you are not happy to have her driving your car with only 3rd party insurance, and that she is driving without insurance the moment you withdrew consent for her to use your car. Tell her you are not happy to drive her car with only 3rd party insurance, given how expensive it would be should you have an accident.

This whole situation is batshit. She is walking all over you, but you are letting her.

Mmmm this sounds like she is up to no good or she has crashed your car !!! If ring 101 and get some advise if I was u x

I think the likelihood of having an accident in a car with which you are not familiar is much higher than in your own car. Also, if she has had an accident the repair is not happening at short notice! She took the car last Friday and is now saying she can't return it until "after" this Friday!

Agree with @TwinklyRoseTurtle the time has come to say return it now or I’m calling the police to report it as stolen. If you can I’d also leave her car at her house and put the keys through the letterbox. That way you haven’t “stolen” her car.

i am not really sure how you get to this position as I wouldn’t swap cars with my closest friend.

I think she's just a super charged CF, the likelihood of her coincidentally having an accident on the day she borrowed a car and then being able to get if fixed at short notice seems very low

I hope we get to find out soon

Agree with others she’s either damaged it or gone on holiday- tell her she’s got 1 hour to return or you are ringing the police

Have you told her how annoyed you are and demanded she give it back now? Go round again in the evening when she’s likely to be home

So now she's driving your car without permission which means the 3rd party insurance is void, and refusing to return it.

You need to tell her she is now driving and insured vehicle and unless she returns it immediately (you go to meet her in her vehicle to swap, or preferably one that isn't hers) or you will report it as theft to the police.

So unacceptable :(

Does her place of work have a staff car park? I'd be going to her place of work to see if your car is in their car park.

Are you really driving around in a car that's full of "stuff". Where do your children sit when you take them out?

I'd have got my car back before now, but as a minimum, I'd have gone to her home and emptied her "stuff" into her garden.

The HP repo was an interesting theory, as was the NC500.

Have you collected the car yet OP?

Lesson to be learnt here!

I really hope she hasn't; one damaged yours or two gone to do the NC500 in yours as she didn't wanna put the miles on hers.

Unbelievable OP.
Could you be more of a doormat?

Get your car back.
Why are you tolerating this?

Drive over and get your car back.
Do you actually believe this shit is normal?🙄

It truly is terrifying to realise that so many people with such non existence boundaries have children.
Wtf?

I wouldn't drive to hers - it's up to her to drive to you. I'd be so annoyed with her.