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Does anyone else feel stressed at how busy/overcrowded everything is all the time?

107 replies

Walkyrie · 08/06/2026 18:52

Just that really. Supermarkets, the roads, even what used to be fairly quiet dog walks. Pavements, beaches, bus stops, it just feels like everything is really busy and there are very few places you can go outside your home, even at off peak hours, that are peaceful and quiet. Even then our house is very overlooked with constant traffic and mopeds outside.

I totally appreciate I am also a person and therefore contributing to this by the way! It just feels like everything is so hectic. I’m having a tough time at the moment and just went out to what used to be a fairly quiet dog walking route, hoping for a bit of quiet, but nope - people everywhere. Just constant mental noise.

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FudgeFudy · 08/06/2026 20:24

BEAchDays2 · 08/06/2026 19:28

Northumberland is your answer. North Northumberland.

I can confirm that lots of North Yorkshire fits the bill too. The most common number of people I see when out for a run on the moors is zero. When I go back to visit my parents down south I am struck by how busy everywhere is though so I do get it. It used to be a bit of a backwater when I was growing up but these days it's considered London commuter territory so the towns have all greatly increased in size and it seems you're never more than six feet from an aggressive stressed out cretin. I've never been great with busy places so I couldn't live there now (and lots of city slickers would die of boredom living where I do).

Walkyrie · 08/06/2026 20:18

frozendaisy · 08/06/2026 20:14

More people WFH so can do things locally in their lunch hours? Or around their working day

Think of how many used to be on the commute and then in offices/business districts full time.

Plus schools are on exam leave
Uni students coming home for summer

The explosion of dog ownership

Closure of local high streets do more people in cars travelling further just to do normal errands
Closure of places obviously pushes everyone into what remains open.

It’s not surprising, and can’t see much changing.

Yes I think you have a point about wfh - it used to make town centres busy during working hours, and residential areas more quiet. But now everyone runs errands on and off throughout the day so a lot of people coming and going, plus we have the usual renovations going on constantly around us so a lot of doors slamming, power tools and tradespeople yelling to each other.

Few people can afford to live outside of busy roads and estates

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Walkyrie · 08/06/2026 20:15

Of course it’s logical that more people equals less space and more noise. I don’t actually mind crowds, in the sort of way that you expect to see them - gigs, bank holiday at the beach, Christmas shopping and so on. I can cope with ‘busy’. But now it just feels relentless, like there is almost nowhere you can go to have fairly good odds of getting a few minutes peace. And I live in a town in the south west, not London or somewhere you would expect this. Driving is a nightmare - everyone seems so rushed, stressed and angry.

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Sweepyed · 08/06/2026 20:15

I also hate it. Too many people.
The worst is having to go on holidays in school holidays. We literally do nothing on BH.

Driving to devon we dont go on weekends.

Theme parks. We got there on opening time and were in overflow parking.
By the time we got in first ride q it was 35min wait already.

Our area traffic is awful and yet the city is set to grow hugely. The schools have doubled!

My particular hatred is how our school is 2 firm entry and does everything together so any play they did had 120 parents and relatives and it was pointkess you couldnt see and all kids had to stand still. The xmas show is whole of key stage - cant see.a thing.

stillcantfindreverse · 08/06/2026 20:14

Yes.

Most American states have much lower populations to equal space in comparison, we're a very overpopulated country. Losing green spaces constantly is not helping either, there's no escape.

frozendaisy · 08/06/2026 20:14

More people WFH so can do things locally in their lunch hours? Or around their working day

Think of how many used to be on the commute and then in offices/business districts full time.

Plus schools are on exam leave
Uni students coming home for summer

The explosion of dog ownership

Closure of local high streets do more people in cars travelling further just to do normal errands
Closure of places obviously pushes everyone into what remains open.

It’s not surprising, and can’t see much changing.

Gowlett · 08/06/2026 20:13

Life in general is much busier. There’s not as much physical or mental space. I think people are craving a more analogue life as a result.

Greenwitchart · 08/06/2026 20:12

Indeed.

The overcrowding and the constant noise is one of the main reasons why I left London and moved to a small seaside town.

I notice everyday how people are less stressed, friendlier and frankly happier than in London.

I don't think all the rushing around and constant over-stimulation is healthy in the long run.

heartsinvisiblefury · 08/06/2026 20:12

I’m the same as you OP. I tend to stay at home as often as I can. Never happier than when away from crowds

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 08/06/2026 20:11

I live in South London and travel to central London on public transport most days.

I hate crowded environments and avoid them whenever possible and even living where I do I'd say I'm successful at this more than 85% of the time. I travel off peak, I'll walk down Wigmore St not Oxford St, I get buses not tubes when it's practical. Nothing would induce me to go into our local Tesco on a Saturday or Sunday. I've given up driving because the roads are so busy.

smallglassbottle · 08/06/2026 20:09

We don't go out as much as we used to. No shops at the weekend, no coastal areas unless it's the colder weather.

Snugglemonkey · 08/06/2026 20:09

OonaStubbs · 08/06/2026 19:25

This country is vastly overpopulated. The population should only be approx 3 million.

3 million? There are more people than that in Ireland, where it is a lot smaller and the population numbers were ravaged by famine and large scale emmigration.

MyLimeGuide · 08/06/2026 20:07

This is why I love it when it rains. Less people.

UrOutdoors · 08/06/2026 20:06

I don’t have this experience. I live in central London in zone 1, and I find it quite easy to avoid crowds. I get a seat on the tube most mornings, I’m only going a couple of stops so I usually stand. I often have lunch in a quiet park. When I walk home, I avoid London Bridge and the millennium Bridge and cross at Blackfriars Bridge which is much quieter and then take the backstreets home. I do adjust my day so that I can avoid crowds, but it’s not difficult. I go to Borough Market at 10 o’clock every Saturday morning and it’s quiet enough, and I don’t have to queue for anything. Ditto the supermarkets.

Galaxylights · 08/06/2026 20:03

Too many people on a little island. This is what happens when have 70 million is it now?

Crazy numbers.

And before anyone starts.... I'm not being political. 🙄

ThisNoisyPoet · 08/06/2026 20:02

I live in a town in north east Scotland and every time I go to the south of England I cannot cope with how busy it is. I assume you get used to it but maybe not!

TheeNotoriousPIG · 08/06/2026 20:00

I'm the same, OP. It is one of the reasons why I wanted to move far away from where I grew up (a village that is being swallowed up by a nearby town because the town is having to spread out to keep up with housing demand)... and one of the reasons that I rarely go back. If I go, my dogs are walked very early in the morning or late at night.

I now live rurally. I work nearby. If I need to pop into town, it's again early in the morning or after 7pm when it's quiet (and in the evenings, you get a lot of reductions).

I went away to somewhere even more remote. If I could move there, I would, and I would try to avoid ever leaving! (I got off the plane, went to the nearest town to a car hire, and wondered if it was too late to turn back).

BEAchDays2 · 08/06/2026 19:28

Northumberland is your answer. North Northumberland.

Badbadbunny · 08/06/2026 19:26

Yup, had to go to a health centre today for an x-ray. Car park absolutely rammed, so had to park on a residential street and hobble there. Inside, long queue for reception, hiddeously crowded waiting room, long wait for the x-ray, long queue for the loo, and everything was also so noisy - lots of people everywhere all talking loudly and radio blaring from the x-ray reception. Needed a lie down in a darkened room when I finally got home, after the journey back taking a long time due to traffic everywhere, traffic lights, road works, etc.

That was after going with DH to his oncology appointment last week, where we had to stand for 90 minutes in the waiting room which was rammed with cancer patients all waiting for consultations/appointments/treatments, with only the most seriously ill patients getting the chance of a seat.

I don't think it's all down to more people, though the population increase inevitably has an impact, it's also down to poor organisation, poor planning/layout etc where no thought seems to be given to the poor sods suffering being crowded, often unnecessarily, in pretty small spaces.

OonaStubbs · 08/06/2026 19:25

This country is vastly overpopulated. The population should only be approx 3 million.

3678194b · 08/06/2026 19:24

I've always had a day off in the week and now, say compared to 10 or 20 years ago I feel it is much busier, where I go anyway.

Supermarket for example, unless you go at 8 am or after 7 pm in the week, the car park will be full. I've noticed this moreso in the last 5 years to so.

I guess it could be that we are an aging society with more and more retired people, and obviously people living longer. Where I live the population demographics do skew on the older side.

suburburban · 08/06/2026 19:15

Yes it’s very busy

i noticed it was quieter on roads when schools are off

Walkyrie · 08/06/2026 19:10

And yes why the fuck do they play rave volume music in supermarkets? It’s absolutely awful, does anyone actually enjoy it?

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Walkyrie · 08/06/2026 19:07

I’m probably just getting older and grumpier but between the screaming and crying of my kids, constant traffic noise and being bombarded with messages via tech, I was hoping for just 20 minutes in peace without having to interact with another living soul!

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Laiste · 08/06/2026 19:03

Yes totally.

Even taking into account that over the last 10 years or so i've become extra sensitive to noise and crowds, i'm sure everything and everywhere is busier than 'before'.

Before when i don't know.

Whereas once you used to guaranteed a parking place for example, now you're cruising for ages. And then loads of rude pushy people. It's made me almost reclusive! I time outings to avoid crowded times and even those outings are very local.

When we go away on holls (uk) and it's going to be a sunny day, we are up at stupid o'clock and on the beach before most other holiday makers have even thought about a bacon sandwich. And we're off the beach at midday when the main crush is arriving.

I like the peace of home.