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Husband’s gym diet driving me crazy

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Nomorepenguins · 08/06/2026 18:24

I earn £500 a month more than my husband. We split the bills, childcare and mortgage 50/50 but I cover the weekly food shops with my own money to make it fair. We each pay for our own fuel and phones. Because of how expensive everything is nowadays, we don’t have much money left over once everything has been paid. We have around £300 - £400 left. We put half in savings then use the rest for days out and things our toddler might need. Child benefit is put into savings for our toddler, with some of it used occasionally when he needs new shoes, clothes, etc.

My husband goes to the gym. I don’t care that he goes but it’s got him into calorie and protein tracking and it’s driving me up the wall. I did the big shop on Sunday. I came home from work today to find he’d eaten the entire pack of penguin biscuits and KitKats that I’d bought (I never even got one), most of the crisps I’d bought, all the yogurts and fruit I’d bought, and used up most of the milk for his protein shakes. He’s now started adding things to our weekly food shop list, including £20 worth of Greek yogurt a week. I’m refusing to pay for this.
He’s just eating everything to meet his calories! When we have dinner he takes most of the meat for himself for protein, gives himself huge portions, etc. Then eats anything else he can find to hit his goals. I’ve even caught him eating our toddlers rusks.

He’s very fit and healthy and in great shape but he’s costing so much money to feed and has gone so selfish, taking all the food for himself. I’m sick to death of it. I’ve started making him pay for everything he over consumes but it hasn’t changed anything. Our fridge is always empty and top up shops are costing him a fortune. It’s started eating into our very limited budget for days out.

AIBU to be irritated? I think he’s so selfish. He says I don’t understand the gym or appreciate the diet needed to build muscle

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Iwanttobeafraser · 08/06/2026 18:30

I've never seen a gym/fitness based diet that requires endless packets of penguin biscuits or kitkats.

Hss just selfish.

Dh has a tendency to food fads. But he gets the need to do it in budget
Eg ge will up his mince eating as a cheaper source of animal.protein, or eat his own body weight in beans...

Lammveg · 08/06/2026 18:29

He needs to figure out cheaper ways to reach his 'goals'.

Locks on cupboards 🤣

icouldholditwithacobweb · 08/06/2026 18:28

He sounds ridiculously selfish and is taking it to extremes. Tell him to figure out cheaper, more budget-friendly meals and he can buy his own food.

Twiglets1 · 08/06/2026 18:28

Wow he really thinks the world revolves him and his “needs”.

Therealjudgejudy · 08/06/2026 18:27

Yuck, what a selfish twat. Literally stealing his child's food!