Husband’s gym diet driving me crazy

That's the gym diet for me
Mint penguins...mmmm.

The Fage 0% is for when finely balanced macros are the priority, normally if you’re trying to recomp or cut. Eating anything and everything isn’t in line with that, so sounds like he’s bulking in which case the cheap stuff will help him meet his goals and hopefully stop being so selfish!

I’m excited to try the penguin/Kit Kat/ crisps healthy eating calorie counted plan.
Can you link me to it please OP?
In all seriousness, he’s being a selfish, greedy prick. I’d be telling him he can supply his own over and above the usual shopping requirements he wants.

Look at the comment I'm replying to; it's not the OP.

i'm really confused.
he does need to eat (based on age size work) most likely 3000+ calories a day.
now regardless of how he achieves that both of you should have/buy enough groceries for the week.

if his meals don't fill him (mashed potatoes carrots turnip sprouts etc etc etc) then he will fill up on easy to reach for quick "junk".

my dh has taken to buying breaded haddock from costco and adding a quick fish portion (sometimes two) to his lunch or supper which i'm not sure is better than the past which was loaves of bread and peanut butter.

whether logging and noticing the various categories or not filling up an active healthy man costs grocery money.

@LittleMermaid123- he probably makes his protein shakes with water because it it broken down and digested more quickly that with milk products and much more efficient with water.

That would drive me bonkers.
DH also goes through fads - he currently lets chatgpt dictate his ‘nutrition’.
Same frustrations here - every week I compile a bonkers list and drag my kids round Tesco for the astronomical shop. Every couple of days we have to do some sort of top up shop - I would say our weeky food bill is about £200.
I would say you need a chat about finances - if you were to split the foodshop and it hits his pocket he may decide to be more picky with regards to his requests!

No gym diet requires eating an entire packet of kitkats. Why is he leaving you & your child with no meat for your dinner let alone food in general? Tell him to stop being a selfish fucking pig.

I’m not a gym goer but my brother is a body builder. He buys all meat in bulk and does deals with local butchers. Most other things are Costco bought in bulk. Eggs from a farm in bulk etc.
Then it’s meal prep, he will spend a day portioning and tubbing up whatever amounts he needs. I seem to think he makes his protein shakes with water.
and then just for the laughs he takes a cooler bag round with him everywhere and eats at strict times, you get used to him whipping out a meal in the car 🤦‍♀️

What’s this gym diet that involves eating entire packs of kitkats?

My DC is an elite level athlete and does not eat anywhere near that amount of junk! Totally ripped and very little body fat due to his sport.

But presumably you're not spending over £80 of that on yogurt for one person?

Ask him why he doesnt care if you have enough to eat or not.

He’s just eating everything to meet his calories! When we have dinner he takes most of the meat for himself for protein, gives himself huge portions, etc. Then eats anything else he can find to hit his goals. I’ve even caught him eating our toddlers rusks.
How on earth does this happen more than once?
Eating all the penguins? Does he perhaps have an earring disorder that he's masking?

Obviously this situation can't continue and you (both) need to find a way to manage it better, but I can't imagine denying anyone I love food, especially not if they do actually need the calories (ie are not over weight).

Our food bill is £400 a month from Ocado. Four of us - two older teenagers including my 16 year old weight lifting son.

My DH is a bit of a gym fiend and had a phase where he was muscle building/fat reducing. That included a lot of protein which included shakes and protein drinks along with meat, eggs, dairy and veg. It did not include scoffing 6 packs of biscuit bars, crisps and the kids rusks.

Your DH is being a CF tbh. Start locking stuff away and shop at Lidl if you don't already. Get him to buy his own protein packs from places like Muscle Food.

PS look at Scott Babtie on YouTube for good healthy recipes that everyone can eat.

He needs to be buying all of this himself. How selfish

People who are serious about the gym and their body don't gorge on family packs of chocolate bars op.

There's plenty of Youtubers that show you how to back cook/meal prep for the week to match macros needed.

I would stop covering all the food shops now anyway, maybe being held financially responsible himself will give him the motivation to be more economically savvy with his diet, it's easy to be a gannet when someone else is paying for it.

@Nomorepenguins you said that your DH had ‘eaten the entire pack of penguin biscuits and KitKats that I’d bought (I never even got one), most of the crisps I’d bought, all the yogurts and fruit I’d bought, and used up most of the milk for his protein shakes.’

So.. he ate an entire pack of penguins. Then and entire pack of Kit Kats. Then nearly all of the crisps plus all of the yoghurt fruit and milk? Really?

Sounds like he’s got worms…

His diet is terrible! UPF central by the sound of it. As a PP asked - is he not very bright?

Yeah, that kind of eating bears no relation to any health-based regimen that I know of! All calories are not equal, no matter how quickly you’re burning them, and the selfishness of prioritising himself and choking down a week’s supply of family treats because ‘calories’ is honestly a bit sickening.

He needs to start following better dietary advice for a start, and he also needs to start paying for his own extra food if he can’t manage to even consider his wife and children every time he opens the fridge. No matter how buff, he’s not a fucking caveman.

1.5g of complete protein per kg of bodyweight is more than adequate for someone resistance training. If he's so serious about the gym then his diet should more or less look as follows:
eggs, sourdough bread, complete protein (meat/fish/tofu), rice/potatoes, protein shakes, ungodly amounts of greek yoghurt

A good habit to get into is filling up on these kinds of things, hitting your protein for the day and then having some dark chocolate as a treat. Hoovering down an entire packet of penguin bars under the premise of being a big strong man is ridiculous.

Maybe he could channel all that additional energy into increasing his income and providing for his family properly. Food for a family costs more than £500 a month now so I think you're being mugged off frankly.