To report my ex’s relationship with teacher to the school

If anything I’d go to the teacher herself show her the messages and let her know that he is telling you about her sex life

The issue here for the school is that the teacher is vulnerable.

If this has been shared with the OP who else is he sharing with.

I wouldn't be reporting the teacher for a relationship. I would be informing the school that the teacher was in a vulnerable position - and potentially open to being blackmailed sexually for example.

I would stress that if the teacher is happy with the relationship that was fine by me but the school/teacher should be aware of how she might be put into a position which was problematic and you have concerns about how this might ultimately impact on your child if it was made public.

Sounds like a ‘relationship’ based on cheap shags and little else.

Bollocks.

It’s not ‘incredibly unprofessional’ for a teacher to have a personal relationship with a parent and if you would expect to be ‘pulled up’ for doing so then you should find a different school to work in.

I have changed my user name for obvious reasons.

Ex and I have a very fractious relationship, despite my best efforts to keep things civil for our child’s sake. He has become increasingly nasty in recent weeks and is rubbing his new relationship in my face.

I’ve found out through a third party that the woman he is seeing is a teacher at our child’s primary school. My ex repeatedly denied this when I asked him but at the weekend admitted to this and sent me a string of gloating messages including graphic description of what she lets him do (stuff I was never keen on) and how he feels alive again after many miserable years. He said they both laughed when he told her about our lack of sex life. Really hurtful.

I know I shouldn’t but I really want to retaliate. My friend has suggested that a teacher needs to declare any relationship with a parent and that I should contact the school to raise this.

Is this too petty? Any other suggestions for revenge?

Sounds like a ‘relationship’ based on cheap shags and little else.

I have changed my user name for obvious reasons.

Ex and I have a very fractious relationship, despite my best efforts to keep things civil for our child’s sake. He has become increasingly nasty in recent weeks and is rubbing his new relationship in my face.

I’ve found out through a third party that the woman he is seeing is a teacher at our child’s primary school. My ex repeatedly denied this when I asked him but at the weekend admitted to this and sent me a string of gloating messages including graphic description of what she lets him do (stuff I was never keen on) and how he feels alive again after many miserable years. He said they both laughed when he told her about our lack of sex life. Really hurtful.

I know I shouldn’t but I really want to retaliate. My friend has suggested that a teacher needs to declare any relationship with a parent and that I should contact the school to raise this.

Is this too petty? Any other suggestions for revenge?

She is being incredibly unprofessional so there is no reason you need to protect him or her

i work in a school and I would expect to be pulled up if I were having a relationship with a parent, especially one who was going through a difficult break up with another parent. Students come first, not cheap shags.

He obviously doesn’t care much about her or her career or he wouldn’t be opening her up to such easy criticism.

Do her a favour and report it to the school OP.

Do you want to be seen as being as pathetic as he is?

But cruel though isn’t when they are laughing about it and she’s a teacher at the child’s school. Morals have sunk

Cheap sex and little else can be loads of fun and are teachers are not exempt from enjoying it!

I have changed my user name for obvious reasons.

Ex and I have a very fractious relationship, despite my best efforts to keep things civil for our child’s sake. He has become increasingly nasty in recent weeks and is rubbing his new relationship in my face.

I’ve found out through a third party that the woman he is seeing is a teacher at our child’s primary school. My ex repeatedly denied this when I asked him but at the weekend admitted to this and sent me a string of gloating messages including graphic description of what she lets him do (stuff I was never keen on) and how he feels alive again after many miserable years. He said they both laughed when he told her about our lack of sex life. Really hurtful.

I know I shouldn’t but I really want to retaliate. My friend has suggested that a teacher needs to declare any relationship with a parent and that I should contact the school to raise this.

Is this too petty? Any other suggestions for revenge?

I have changed my user name for obvious reasons.

Ex and I have a very fractious relationship, despite my best efforts to keep things civil for our child’s sake. He has become increasingly nasty in recent weeks and is rubbing his new relationship in my face.

I’ve found out through a third party that the woman he is seeing is a teacher at our child’s primary school. My ex repeatedly denied this when I asked him but at the weekend admitted to this and sent me a string of gloating messages including graphic description of what she lets him do (stuff I was never keen on) and how he feels alive again after many miserable years. He said they both laughed when he told her about our lack of sex life. Really hurtful.

I know I shouldn’t but I really want to retaliate. My friend has suggested that a teacher needs to declare any relationship with a parent and that I should contact the school to raise this.

Is this too petty? Any other suggestions for revenge?

My sons primary would have wanted to know so that teacher never taught your child secondary didn't give a shit