To report my ex’s relationship with teacher to the school

He definitely knows how to push your buttons doesn't he??

She can have a relationship with whoever she likes. He's a single man and her taste in men / style of relationship is none of your business.

Next time he shares details of their sex life I would simply reply that you don't believe him and you don't want know!

If you absolutely feel you must do something I would screenshot his messages about what she does in the bedroom and (calmly, because she is not at fault!) approach her as a concerned fellow woman and if you were her you would want to know and show her what he is sharing about her. After that, I would stay the hell out of it.

Your friend is wrong.

There are lots of things that teachers can't do but having a relationship with a divorced(?) adult man who coparents with his ex isn't one of them

Unless the teacher is grading the child's work, there's no conflict of interest. The school won't take action.

Years ago, 'a member of the public' tried to report two teachers at the school where I worked - they were going out and subsequently got married. It was widely believed that an ex had made the report. The complaint was that teachers shouldn't be dating and that one of them was still legally married to his ex.

Why would you potentially put her career at risk? She’s not your ex and she hasn’t done anything wrong. You should send her the text messages though. I’d be furious if my boyfriend was talking about me like that to other people.

Tbh op I don't understand why you and your ex are discussing your sex lives with each other at all. Stop any talk like this, it's ridiculous!!! He sounds like he's about 15 bragging about a shag, don't stoop to his level by getting involved with his games ffs.

I highly doubt the school would care about her dating an adult who happens to be a students parent

She's a teacher, not a nun. She can have sex with whoever she wants. If she was your kid's class teacher she should let the SLT know she's seeing your ex, but it doesn't sound like she is.

He's the issue with his texts, not her.

Back right off and focus on yourself.

What’s missing in your life that will make you feel better? Try and think about that and if you can take action such as as a new hobby then you’ll feel better about yourself.

My sons primary would have wanted to know so that teacher never taught your child secondary didn't give a shit

At most I would check with her if she knows he is sharing details of their sex life.

Part of the problem here is that you kept pushing him to share details of his private life with you. I think that shows you need firmer boundaries.

Sir, Sir! Miss has got a boyfriend!

Get a grip. Your ex is lashing out, most people would do the same if they were being harassed and wound up like this.

No reason why a teacher can’t have a relationship with a parent. Every reason why you should not blame a woman for a man’s shitty behaviour.

Didn’t know shags could be cheap or expensive

So, its a casual relationship, still not an issue in terms of her job.

You would be embarassing yourself.

There is no regulation that states a teacher cannot date a parent, or that they have to declare the fact.

30 years a teacher, here. Your friend is mistaken. This woman has done nothing to be reported for; she is entitled to date who she chooses.

Exactly, it's not of the slightest interest to the school.

The best way to annoy him is to ignore him! Answer any questions in the messages regarding your DC and ignore the other nonsense! He’s just trying to wind you up and he’ll be whooping with glee if you go for the school as he’ll know he’s got to you!

it might well be. Just cos she's a teacher doesn't mean she's not allowed a cheap shag relationship. Teachers get in shitty relationships like anyone else. I think you need to just detach from him. The messages he sent you were to wind you up and you are giving him what he wants. Just ignore.

You shouldn't be entertaining your ex and listening to his conquests, grey rock this guy to his core, stop giving him supply. Leave all comms strictly to children logistics end off. If he starts talking about anything else "Sorry Joe but I have to go now, bye!".

As far as you're concerned he could be shagging his teddy bear and you can't care less, he's an ex for a reason.

Relationships between teachers and parents are not against any rules or the teachers standards. It may infringe upon the particular schools requirements, but I doubt it.

And yet for some reason it still makes you jealous ?

According to who?

why are you pushing him on who he is sleeping with anyway, with the greatest of respect - it’s none of your business

@Yasminaschool the whole thing could be a pack of lies. I’d just communicate with him about your child through a parenting app and block him/don’t have any other contact. He is clearly trying to make you angry - why is he so bothered what you think? If his new relationship is so great, you’d be the last thing on his mind …

You don’t know that, OP. Not her side anyway. You sound bitter. I get being pissed off at what he is saying to you, but these comments aren’t going to make you feel any better.