AIBU to force DD (15) to go to school for all of "doss week"?

The girl you describe doesn't sound like she needs a lesson in commitment, priorities or loyalty - I'd let her have the day off (and this sneaky secret together will be a thing you giggle about for a couple of years). I loved yr 10 for my sons - they were old enough to appreciate such gestures whilst being mature enough to not expect the treats to go on ad infinitum.

I find lots of the replies above a bit crazy.
She isn’t sick and has no reason to be off school. It depends how you want to raise your child - thinking some mandatory days at school are optional for her because she feels like it and her mates won’t be there (not the point of school at all).
This is an opportunity for a major, important life lesson - you go to school as it’s mandatory, just like you go to uni/college, like you go to work as it’s mandatory.
she has plenty of time in the summer holidays to do whatever she wants, after school, weekends etc.
Im kind of gobsmacked this question is even being asked.
what if her friend at work or at uni wasn’t in that day, would you think it would be reasonable for her to take the day off?
and before everyone harps on “but there’s no real work happening”, “this isn’t work or serious, it’s year 10” - this is where life lessons are learnt. Do you want your child to be a hard working, reliable member of society? Or pick and choose depending on if her mates are around/if she feels like it.

Haven't they just had a week off school for half term ?

Maybe if the plan is to revise at home, revise at school instead - the day won't be much different.

I’m with the let her stay off crowd.

There’s plenty of time as an adult to be all serious. Let her enjoy her life as a kid. It’s one day. Who cares? Only you do

Using my teenage self as a yardstick, I'd be wondering if it's true that her friends' parents have actually agreed their daughters can have the day off.

My DC has a real phobia of rides in theme parks- gets shocking motion sickness. In his year 10 ‘doss week’ it was a compulsory trip to Alton Towers. It was the only time I phoned in sick for him. Do it.

DD did ‘work experience’ for my BIL (who has a service company). Actually, we went on holiday. A number of her friends did similar work experience for family or friends. So missing a day of doing nothing hardly seems damaging to her educational outcomes/career prospects.

She does have perfect attendance so far, so hopefully that's not the case. I agree, I wouldn't call it "doss week" myself. But, in these circumstances I would let her stay home, on the understanding that it's a one off.

Oh, lighten up OP.

If you call it doss week no wonder she sees attendance as optional.

Yabu sorry, let her rest x

Of course she has to go. It’s still school, getting on with people outside of our friends is a vital skill. She is not sick.

I’m usually strict about these sorts of days, but in this case, DD went in as she was supposed to, it was horrible, and her friendship group are staying home—so I would allow it. The pupils shouldn’t just be messing about—these enrichment activities should have supervised structure; unfortunately it doesn’t sound like that is happening.

Part of growing up is that you get to steer yourself away from pointless and miserable activities. Learning where to put in effort and where to cut your losses is really important. Sounds like she’s making the right call on Wednesday off.

I would make her go in. I wouldn't call it 'doss' week. Think this demonstrates to her your overall opinion on education and you sound a bit weak.

i’d make her go tomorrow and make it clear she’s going Thursday and Friday but say if she comes home tomorrow absolutely certain Wednesday is going to be a total waste of time I’ll let her stay off.

Would absolutely let my DD have the day off in these circumstances (and tbf have probably let her have the day off for less 🤷‍♀️)

I’m normally pretty hot on attendance but our schools ‘doss’ week was similar and my dcs didn’t end up going in. After making the mistake of telling one dd to go in, her first day was dire so I let her off the rest of the week.

I made it conditional on them doing productive stuff during their days off which worked out really well. Walks, room tidying , baking and art or reading and they did appreciate it.

One day off school wont make her a work shy lay about. Adults get paid to go to work and most people have pulled a sickie at least once in their lives.

There’s always the same point everyday of going into work - because you get paid to do so!

These weeks used to be good fun. She can go in. It won’t kill her.

A lesson for life, there will be times you go into work where there is little point, for example.

Send your child in.

I would let mine have a day off under those circumstances, and have done in the past.

Tell her you’ve reconsidered because she’s an exceptional student and you couldn’t be happier with her, so this one day off is the least she deserves.

She’ll be delighted to know that she’s earned it.

I’d let her have Wednesday off, the programme for the week sounds awful. I suppose the SMT have a rationale behind it?
I write as someone who taught 38 in secondary education. ( and yes I did deserve a medal 😂)