AIBU to expect proper condom disposal and not being left inside me?

He should absolutely NOT be leaving them inside you. Are you sure he's not stealthing? (Taking off the condom during sex without the other partner knowing.) That is horrendous and exposes you to pregnancy and STDs. Definitely a sackable offence, as it shows that he hardly has your best interests in mind.

What used to really irritate me back in the days before marriage was that MOST men would pull out sharply and the condom would end up halfway up his dick. I think they were trying to cop a slight no-condom feel on the way out. The proper way for a man to take a condom off is to hold it at the base while he slides out.

Sorry, OP. Any man who would do this is immature and careless, and doesn't care about you.

Disgusting pig. Inside you??? Dont have sex with him again

Sorry you're getting a hard time OP. You don't deserve it - it's your 'partner' who deserves that, not you. But there are always people on here who like sticking the boot in. Just ignore them.

Ive not rtft but this is disgusting and disrespectful behaviour.

I assume she means it falls off? Which is not assault, but yes he should tell her so she can get the MAP, and if it happens often this seems very strange, as it's normally very rare. It shouldn't be falling off.
Now if you mean he pulls it off and puts in inside-that is awful! But surely not? And yes, he should put it in a bin, or at least in a wrapper on the side.

He'd never get near me again. Condom or no condom.

Don't get me wrong, I haven't had to use condoms in a long time, but how does that even work? How is it possible to not pull them out when he pulls out?

OMFG this is vomit territory!! 😳

Seriously? What the actual fuck ? Op has only had sex with him a few times. It’s not like she saw a homeless junkie and thought I’ll shag him!
the judgement on this post for a woman who has done nothing wrong is astounding.
i had a man leave a condom in me and not tell me before.i didn’t know for two days !

That's not what I aimed to do, Op, apologies if that's how my post made you feel.

I was trying to tell you that you are worth more than the treatment you have received.

Agree, he is disgusting.

That's gross. What if it came off properly inside you and you had to fish it out, or didn't realise it was in there. He cares nothing for your health. Twice is twice too many.

OP, please don’t be so naive. Not everyone on there will be genuine.

For example, MN is a parenting site, in the main. There’s still plenty of predatory men on here as well. Trust me!

some people are being pretty awful on here. Standard MN I’m afraid.

sorry you’ve gone through this. How horrible! Agree with posters suggesting checks. some men are just really gross.

I hope he’s not stealthing and is just gross! Horrible either way though for you.

Condoms can come off, if sex is vigorous or he's going soft and doesn't pull out before that happens. However, if the condom is coming off, and it's ended up inside you OP, or in the bed, then the contents aren't staying inside the condom! Most men would be freaked out, if there was a chance that you could be pregnant. I'm assuming he knows you have the coil fitted? Your partner never mentioned the condom coming off to you, and hasn't freaked out at potential pregnancy.

I would be concerned that he's deliberately allowing the condom to come off, during sex, in the hope you fall pregnant. Most men would make sure they remove themselves from inside their partner, and the condom comes with them!!

Most definitely check for STI's and pregnancy. Don't see him again, preferably block him!

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Right, so at least HALF of the time he has left the condom inside - and has nothing to say for himself but 😬. WTF...

He has no respect for you. You can do better!

Shouldn’t happen once OP, let alone twice.

Ewwww. The very definition of using you.

You can’t be that desperate. Throw this one back.

Ewww sorry he is gross. If I found a condom inside of me I would go apeshit.

Bloody hell, that is absolutely not normal behaviour. Unless he just arrived from outer space, how in god’s name does he not know how to dispose of a condom after sex?! I mean, giving him slight benefit of the doubt- might this be the first time he’s actually used condoms? Either way, you definitely need to be having a swift word OP. I would not be considering sleeping with this man again until he sorts this out! 🤢

This without a shadow of doubt. I have never ever ever been with a man who did this please tell me you have broken up with him. This is just gross.

Could he be doubling up?