AIBU to expect proper condom disposal and not being left inside me?

Hi OP,

It's good practice to pee after sex to help flush out any bacteria and reduce the likelihood of UTIs, so if you can in future, I'd recommend going to the loo within 10-30 minutes of sex 😊

Bin this man OP!!!!! With the utmost haste!!!!

He’s revolting!! In the bin with this man!!

It wouldn’t take a miracle under the circumstances

Unreasonable for not ditching him already.

Absolutely this!

Even as a young and inexperienced teen I would have had the wherewithal to say something on the spot. If I'm letting someone have sex with me then there is absolutely no reason why I can't mention something like finding a bloody condom inside me...that he left there!

Absolutely it's his fault for doing it, but OP's behaviour is utterly strange. Not saying anything there and then, not pushing a discussion, having sex again on multiple occasions where the same or similar happens...I am genuinely bemused. At the very least before they had sex again she could have said, "Jeff, before we have sex again I want you to make sure you take the condom off properly this time and dispose of it."

Leaving it in the bed or inside you?? I've never heard of such a thing! 😲Does he not know how to use one??

What kind of savagery have you got yourself involved with??

Also... its strange to wait til he's gone to decide to text him about it? Surely adults go "WTF Jeff I just found a condom inside me... what's that all about" on the spot. Not covering it up and then texting about it. If we're too embarrassed to talk about it when it happens, we shouldn't be having sex. That applies to every gender, age, etc.

i know nothing about condom etiquette but it would take a miracle for pregnancy to occur under the circumstances you describe.

You can say' why aren't you answering me?'

Time to move on.

Make today a time when you make changes.
Lose weight if it's bothering you, join a class, give yourself a make over and learn to love yourself.

I know that sounds easy to say but it's the way forwards.

It is your fault if you accept a ‘😬’ as a reply and then go on to have sex with him again.

Twice out of four shags, he's pulled out and NOT said to you 'oh... the condoms come off'.

That would concern me.

In - insert very large number here, I have had my fun number of shags over insert large number of years here - i have had a condom come off inside me ONCE (and he had a very small willy) and he immediately said 'oh shit the condoms fallen off'.

It's pretty easy not to feel a condom inside you after sex, but it is IMPOSSIBLE for a man not to notice the condom has come off, even before he pulls out. If it were, we wouldn't have such a fuss from blokes over using them.

So either he is stealthing you OR he doesn't think this is something you need to know about at the time...

Both of those are massive red flags.

Don't be ridiculous. If he's unwilling to have a discussion, you can at the very least message again and say, "That's completely unacceptable behaviour and I won't tolerate it. It leaves me at risk of pregnancy and STD's, and aside from anything else it's grossly disrespectful. What do you think you're playing at? Do you really have nothing to say?"

If he's unwilling to have a conversation the first time, you don't sleep with him again! Personally I wouldn't sleep with him again discussion or not.

You don't just let him get away with evading a discussion with an emoji! It's your sexual health, and he is disrespecting you! If he left a shit in the bed would you let him get away with it?

It sounds as if he's deliberately trying to get you pregnant. No one leaves a condom inside a person.

I have never been so pleased to be a lesbian.

That’s not a discussion, that’s you telling him what he’d done and no discussion followed

I meant HIS behaviour was disgusting🙄

Purrrrrple, fantastic name for a cat ❤️

Are you sure you're an actual adult and not 15?

Next time I won’t ask I’ll just assume it’s what everyone does.
Next time, don't have sex if you don't understand how to do so safely.

I’ve not had sex with him since he ignored my discussion about the condom. I won’t have sex with him again.
You had sex with him multiple times before asking him. That's very naive. You need to be responsible for your own safety too.

Just to be sure I’ll never leave my house or have sex again.
Or... grow up, stop getting snarky with people with people on the Internet trying to help you and offer advice, and bloody educate yourself before having sex with strangers.

Just so I’m clear how long do I have to know someone before I have sex with them?
It's not about the length of time you know someone... its about understanding safe sex... which you don't yet. Educate yourself.

Yeah. This is what I’m worried about for you!

im
flad you’re not going to see him again. Nothing is worth this and I’m worried for you. 💕

It’s not watching them as such. But it’s normally a smallish room and you’re next to them when they get off the bed and clean up…

i mean he obviously isn’t though is he. Cleaning up…yeah I do think you need to be more aware of them making sure they’re cleaning up after etc.

I would worry that he’s taking advantage of you for sure. 💕

Is this a genuine query?